While ago after morning recitation in our veranda when i went to my kitchen i forgot why i came here .
But within a moment i remembered it back. I went there to pick up pan of milk so i can store it in fridge before sitting with laptop .
I spent my childhood and early youth in village. My mom lived almost 75 years but i hardly remember if she would forgot anything except her eyeglasses sometimes . She had excellent memory otherwise .
She would tell immediately whether it was date or event from both recent past or long ago past.
Same was my father .I never saw him forgetting anything except mom's important stuff she would ask to bring on return . But it was mostly intentionally i guess . So he can have mom's attention.
Elderly people in my village men or women were never detected by dementia ever . None of them was of more than 100 years though.
Whenever they would meet while walking in streets they would answer my greetings with smile and greet by mentioning my name.
So back there i had no idea that when people get old they started to forget stuff . Specially i was not aware that dementia was serious disease.
After marriage i was normal for many years. Things suddenly change after deaths of my parents in 2011 and 12
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My periods disturbed badly and then disappeared even when i was in early forties. Hair fall began swiftly and i thought i will be bald soon.
My left eye seemed to loose it's sight. And along this started the forgetfulness .
It started slowly that i would forgot things i had put somewhere to keep safe until needed.
Or dates and names during discussions .But it grew smoothly by the time . I would forgot often and it would be annoying for hubby or kids.
In beginning when i started to forgot hubby and my sons would found it amusing and would laugh.
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Specially when i would say wrong name or mention wrong date or presence of people somewhere in any event my family would laugh.
In starting i took it "not big deal" except my forgetfulness was way to amusement of my family .
My younger son would say " if someone in world want his thing keep in secret ,hand it to my mom and no one will find it again"
My husband had one advantage of my forgetfulness though. In morning we would argue bit about something tiny and in afternoon i would forget that i was annoyed to him.
He would come , give greeting hug and chat with mischievous smile . My younger son would remind just to make all laugh " Oh mom you are talking to papa ,you forgot you were angry with him because he switched the channel to news "
I would feel embarrassment and try to recharge anger by protesting look but hubby would burst with laughter and say " no use of fake anger ,you talked to me already"
Now that was serious matter :(.
Within few years things got little critical because of my forgetfulness. Time for avoiding and laughing was gone for me and for all.
We had to change the locks of doors few times because i forgot the keys inside. Many times i had put t.v remote in fridge .Sometimes cell phone in cupboard or fridge . Receipts and papers urgently needed went misplaced for many times .
Because i had no idea that it was a disease, we never went to any doctor. I had never read about problem nor in my favorite and useful t.v shows i watched something related.
All i could do was worrying about problem which made it quicker and deeper.
One day i watched a movie in which in one scene a mother put her baby in bath tub and forgot to pick him up because she had mental disorder and forget suddenly all present situation she is in, and step into totally new sequence of thought.
It was horrifying . It made me cry like hell. After a good long cry when i felt light there was only one thing in my mind.
Brain is main thing . It is to control and function in human body . Computer is mere a copy of our brain but can perform far better than it , why ?.
Because it has no EMOTIONS which can slow or weaken it's actions.
I started to contemplated on my problem carefully . I realized that i forget stuff when i speak thoughtlessly and spontaneously .
I began to be careful of what i spoke. I felt as i was trying to push away the fog that had surround my nerves inside my head and was blocking it's natural messaging system.
Meanwhile i faced another weird problem. During watching t.v or chat i would suddenly ,spontaneously say something that was accurate and correct but Interesting about it was that i had no idea from where that came from ? I was unable to learn the way it processed itself in my thoughts .
It seemed that such incidents were result of BROKEN MESSAGES OF NERVOUS SYSTEM .
I worked harder on my FOCUS. I found that only solution is to this problem that i can provide is
BEING ATTEND ALL THE TIME . KEEPING MIND PRESENT. nothing else was there that i could do .
So i restarted my yoga which helped to COMPOSE PHYSICAL ENERGY AND HARMONIZE IT WITH MENTAL ENERGY.
It makes focus strong and procedure of thinking precise.
I made it possible that my mind is equally present where my body is. I made sure that i will watch words that come out of my mouth .
I quit living in painful memories risen by my parents demise.
It took long tiring effort and time. Since almost two years i am feeling better.
I hardly forget anything and if i do it comes back in my mind within second when i try to remember it. You can imagine my joy and gratitude .
My faith in my lord has become more deep and strong.
Whenever i asked him to help and show the way, he did miracle in my life. If my call for him was true .His answers were also immediate and fulfilling.
So sorry to hear about this issue. I am so glad to hear that you have improved. The brain is so complex and our minds seem like such an enigma.
ReplyDeleteTake care and be well!
You are right about brain'complexity dear Brain
DeleteBut if we from the beginning learn to use it properly things can be bit simple
This is a fantastic post, dearest Baili!!
ReplyDeleteI suffer from exactly the same problem with forgetfulness...and after reading this wonderfully informative post, I'm beginning to think mine, too, could well be down to being too stressed and preoccupied with worries.
I will try to do as you did, and learn to relax and focus on each moment.
Oh thank you so, so, much for this... I'm certain that it will help so many people!😊😊
Have a wonderful day, my beautiful friend!
Much love and hugs ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you sooo dear Ygraine for SWEET words :)
DeleteI believe that once you have sorted out the problem, specially it's origin and determined to solve it
You will be surly blessed with the solution
Thanks for sharing about your issue, what an honest post!It must be really difficult. I hope it will get better and better☺
ReplyDeleteBaili I'm so happy to read this post. How scary what you went through. I have some times when I'm completely forgetful and I find it embarrassing, but Alex understands that it happens and he's supportive so I am getting used to it. You've inspired me because honestly I'm having some health issues, nothing major, it's just a sciatic nerve that causes lots of leg pain for me and I've been on the fence about doing something drastic about it. I'm starting a big exercise program next week, including yoga too. I find that when I made time for yoga, it strengthened all of my senses, including my memory and helped my chronic pain a LOT. Thanks for mentioning that it took you about 2 years to start feeling better...it's a long road but it's always worth it! xxxx
ReplyDeleteOur body responses accordingly to messages sent by our brain dear Rain but it is also true that so many health issues that appear only to women because their emotional side is far strong than men which means their make brain present problem far bigger than it Actually is
DeleteI am so happy for you my friend and I believe that yoga will definitely resolve more of your issues
Sorry to hear you have had problems with forgetting, but I'm glad you found some methods to help lessen the problem.
ReplyDeletethank you Connie :)
DeleteThe word you used is focus. I wonder if perhaps you were juggling too many thoughts in your mind. Your mind rebelled by kicking some thoughts out. I have known people with dementia and related afflictions. They usually lose the ability for normal functions. It can happen gradually or quickly. You are right to work at keeping yourself alert no matter what the reason. And I am so happy you don't have dementia.
ReplyDeleteyou are right dear Emma
Deletei was sunken in emotions until i realized that i have to rise and recreate my vision towards positive routine of life
Many thanks for sharing this.
ReplyDeleteI am so pleased that over time you have been able to improve things.
I do think relaxation, perhaps yoga or practising meditation can help with certain health issues.
All the best Jan
Meditations are huge help for such issues ,well said dear Jan
DeleteI'm glad you are getting better. I also forget things. I think that sometimes it's because I was not paying attention. I should pay attention to the here and now instead of being lost in my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteMy wife also forgets sometimes. We joke about gremlins hiding things on us.
haha
Deletei ether became superstitious for while in starting dear John
Glad to hear of the improvement, Baili.
ReplyDeleteI wasn't Sleeping well and it affected my memory. With improved sleep patterns, my memory has improved.
taking proper sleep helps brain to function well indeed
DeleteVicious circle, baili.
ReplyDeleteWe all forget things specially as we age.
But if you star to worry too much about it your nervous system takes control and it gets even worse.
Take it slowly and naturally.
Have a great weekend.
so true , having patience with problems of aging and trying best to deal with them calmly is required in this part of age
DeleteYes, Baili, forgetfulness and loss of concentration can be two problems that many of us face from time to time. The same has happened to me and your comments about talking slower and concentrating are well taken. Also exercising both the body and mind I believe is another big factor. It's why I enjoy going to the gym, walking, reading and listening to podcasts. Unfortunately, my mind has a terrible habit of wandering off subject at the most unlikely times. Thank you for sharing your experiences in a very honest and heartfelt way, as always. Posts like these demonstrate that we all share some common ailments and fears. It's how we face them that matters most.
ReplyDeleteAlso, thank you, Baili for the very kind words about a recent post with some family photos.
You have some very brilliant hobbies to slow down the process bit dear Dorothy
DeleteI agree we all face such complications at certain parts of our life
WHAT MATTERS MOST IS HOW WE DEAL WITH THEM :)
Glad you're feeling better. I heard that with menopause some women became quite forgetful but it improves a bit after a few years. Take care!!
ReplyDeleteOh I was not aware of this dear Angela
DeleteMay be menopause declares the certain period of life for women which can drive them into thick forest of so many tangled thoughts
Seeing a way to work your way out of that cavern must be such a relief.
ReplyDeleteWith migraines, I have "word days" when I know the word I want, can see it in my mind, but can't pull it out.
Migraines are horrible dear Susan
DeleteI had migraine for almost two years when I was 17
Mom would make homemhomemade medicine including almond and some other same nuts and herbs but nothing worked
It left before I got 20 I think
During pain it was hard to open eyes or pick head up from pillow
Good one.
ReplyDeleteThe trick is to keep the brain active continuously. See my second last post where a lady is still painting (and earning) at 99 !!
A very moving post, but full of hope and good advice.
ReplyDeleteAnd I apologize for laughing at your youngest son's comment. I won't tell my daughter what he said so she cannot use the same comment against me :)
children don't realize the seriousness of our problem dear Chris :)
Deleteand this is why they easily make fun of them until age and time shows them how sensitive situation was
I'm so glad you found a way to recuperate from your memory loss, baili. It must have been very frightening for you. It was perceptive of you to realize that you needed to stop living in your memories and move ahead into the present. Probably it was hard to do at first, but changing old habits usually is. And it was worth it.
ReplyDeletewhen i first realized that i am dwelling too much in past i decided to break my routine dear Jenny , i started job which made me feel much better slowly, i gained my coincidence to think better
Deletei could do it because i wanted to and without grace of lord nothing was possible
Hi Baili, sometimes we forget something. It's very common, even more when we worry, anxiety, or grief.
ReplyDeleteTo keep our brain fit, we have to use it. I am practicing a theory "use it or lose it"
Have a wonderful weekend, Baili :)
amazingly said dear Evi :)))
ReplyDeletepractice makes difference indeed
Worry, anxiety, stress all affect our memory. Mindful focus helps as does good diet, exercise (walking is excellent) and drinking lots of (enough) water.
ReplyDeleteI admire how you tackled your forgetfulness, Baili, and I'm happy that you have experienced such success. We all forget things more and more as we get older. Women going through menopause sometimes experience memory issues, but they usually improves afterwards. I was smiling when I read your post, because I often misplace things or forget why I walked into a room. I once found my deodorant in the fridge. My problem is that my mind is always racing ahead to the next thing, and I am not focusing or being present in what I am doing. Your post gives me HOPE!!! Thank you my friend!
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