Little Corrections But Big Surprise

 As you know i meditate daily in morning times for an hour almost and before this i do some yoga as well, just few easier steps which help me to feel fit physically and mentally and have me ready for new day's challenges .And i am doing this since 2o13.

Throughout the years i have realized how regular yoga and meditation can make one feel calm ,stronger and much focused.

But there is a little negative side of it too. I won't call it negative  actually ,not because in my perspective this particular "affect" becomes a way to add goodness in our life slowly, and if one can keep up with it for long results are awesomely positive. This Effect  kind of force us to pick healthier option of food and avoid spicy and oily ones and skip the fast food completely and don't think of the sugary at all . Honestly i don't know what other have say about it but i have felt that long term meditation and yoga make our inner physical system quite transparent and sensitive which make us less or not at all tolerant to unhealthy food.  I wonder if it happened to me only ?

Some years back i realized that the normal daily meals would make me feel slightly sick such as after eating meal i would get feeling of being fluish specially my throat will get scratchy, head heavy and vision little blurry .I would find it hard to concentrate whether on  conversation ,book or things i look at. At first i would take panadol a tablet which helps to make "feverish" feeling disappear for a day at least. But later when i started to ponder that taking pill can not be a permanent solution apart from sever side effects for long use. 

When we fail to find help outside we often inevitably turn inwardly to look for one .I wish we can develop this habit and look for help inside our head first where God has stored his "light" for us.

A little contemplation over this brought the issue under spot light. When i started to observe on daily bases i felt that each new day brings new feelings and emotions and it seemed deeply connected to what i had ate last day. I tried to look for proof to support my assumption and reading few articles related to topic confirmed that i was right about it .Then on the basis of my assumptions i started to eliminate food items form diet that i found to have negative effect. 

With long and constant struggle i could reach to better side of existence. It is nice to know that adjusting little things can bring big and pleasant changes in life thankfully .I know being much "careful" about eating is tough but believe me once you feel how amazing the  reward is for this sacrifice ,you love it most and never want to quit it.

During my recent visit to attend wedding ceremony of my cousin's children i became center of the attention for my cousin and her family members because i was denying to eat heavily oily and spicy foods at their home and at hotels as well where the major events took place.

My cousin looked concerned because she could not figure out what to do .She asked me what i would like to eat and when i told it seemed to disappoint her .I think this is because of a "host" mentality who wants to feel happier when feed her guests more and diversely.  She actually made few simple things for me which were quite normal for a patient in her opinion. On first day i ate a little and found that even their normal food was too hard for me to digest. I asked her not to bother as she is already busy with responsibilities of two children's marriage and let me cook for myself .But she could not agree as i was her guest . Next day she sent a young pretty girl in my room .She was Saman ,a daughter of her husband's brother. Saman looked pregnant with early few months but she insisted she will cook for me until i am there . 

I felt bit uncomfortable whether i made my cousin uncomfortable and she has to make special arrangements for me  which my cousin denied by hugging me many times but one thing ,she would tell everyone my story and series of question would start with eyes full of surprise and kindred smiles .

I would love to know if someone is having same experience .

Thanks for bearing with me precious friends .

Health ,peace and Joy to you and to all you love!

Story Of Broken Toes

 

A  splendid day out in my yard . Sky has shown it's true bright blue color after two weeks as dull thin layer of clouds kept it covered . It is always amazing to see dazzling sun showering it's gold over the tranquil views .

One of hubby's niece visited some days ago and told her younger sister was having soaring  foot thumb which does not seem to heal completely since more than an year . Doctor congratulate her after further tests including MRI that everything is fine and no serious issue is going on. But our niece mentioned that her sister is taking medicine and she has to take break when she feels that when the thumb heals certain mount of pain seems to rise in upper part of ankle though doctor said there is nothing absolutely to worry about.

I hope the doctor is perfectly correct!

This remind me that hubby also had suffered with slightly soaring foot thumb for more than thirteen years but it stayed mild by the grace of God and never improved further .Actually nothing was visible ,only a corner of one of his foot thumb would feel pain and bit of swelling  sometimes that is it .Hubby would take care of it regularly as precaution. It  left few years back finally.

Even such slight issue of hubby would terrify me because in past when i was in my native village ,a middle aged beautiful and rich woman died only because the wound appeared in her foot thumb spread in her whole body as cancer . This was shocking to learn one day that she was dead because of her foot thumb wound. 

In my life  it happened twice when my foot thumb nails were hit and broken completely .

First time when i was in native home .I was freshly out of school and mom was trying to make me learn basic household .

In those days mom had three stone mortars of different sizes .The biggest one was huge and weighed 6 to 8 kg most probably .

One day when i got up holding the biggest mortar in my hand it slipped from my hand suddenly and fell straight on my right foot thumb . I felt nothing for first few seconds as i was given anesthesia and felt unable to feel anything, but later piercing pain i felt and when i looked down my foot quite a blood was gather close to my foot. I sat down ground shakenly because i couldn't lift my foot to walk. When i tried to touch the thumb nail it fell on a side . I had strange habit not to shout or cry loud when something like this occurred so i hold trunk of tree near by and got up .When i was walking i could not feel i have thumb nail anymore. 

I assume mom could not hear due to tv was on and more because mortar hit my feet rather than ground which makes less sharp sound. When mom came out while i was trying to walk she shouted and hold me and took inside .long story short my thumbnail regrew within a month or two i guess and no one can tell it ever happened .

Second time when i was mopping floor with hand by sitting on feet after my marriage .I was in hurry and i pushed a huge box away hurriedly and mindlessly .It was old box gifted by hubby's grandma and i would keep grocery in it all the kitchen stuff we used for cooking. It was heavy and full .But i was also young and my arm had strength . With my push box slipped away so quickly .Only after few seconds when i saw my left thumbnail was broken completely and hanging aside  and little blood was flowing on wet floor. 

I had no one around as hubby was office . I tried to pull the hanging nail and with little effort and more terrible pain it separated from thumb ,later i applied betnovate on it after cleaning it though hubby attended it cautiously and regularly and it healed within a month  .

Both times my thumbnail came back without turning into bad by the grace of Allah! 

I wanted to share this because mostly i forgot such so so many happenings in daily routine but our niece reminded me .

thanks to all of you for showing kindness in comments on previous post ! 

i am though not much happy with me share things like this who let down any of my loved ones .

blessings to all of you and to all you love! 

 

From Sister's Heart

 

Our weather has been awesome during November after some shower on Sunday morning particularly. As our winters are short and mild which makes inhabitants happy because extremely cold weather can restrict life's routine which does extreme summer every year. So mild winter provide opportunity for flexible living and let people enjoy more outdoor times. Though if winters  stay more mild it effect seasonal plantation. Our garden is being planted now  ,little late than usual. 

It's been while I am back from Islamabad but memories belong to happy occasion still echo  in mind .

I have a sad memory as well actually. My younger sister was not invited by my cousin sadly even though I gave her phone to her so she can call her but my cousin apologised instead only because she was frightened that my sister can create some scene due to her excessive drinking habit sadly. This was unexpected and disappointing for me as an elder sister. I wanted to have a normal sister since always with whom I can have normal sister talk but it was not in my fate not from sister not from brother unfortunately. I can only wonder why?

The wife of my brother told that my sister blamed us for not being invited which was really unfair because we tried to convince my cousin and she said with such unlikely behaviour my sister doesn't suit such family gathering where everyone is looking for gossip  already. She said she cannot risk her reputation. Though she asked her kids to join and they did thankfully. 

My sister is not in touch since she asked for money for her surgery which never took place according to news I got later from people around her. I gave her half amount she asked because we had financed our nephew ' tour to Saudi Arabia then. She called last week of November 2022 and said she wants to visit me in December. My younger son had rented flat then and my eldest son wanted to stay with him so can help his little brother settle  . Have seen how during my recent trip how badly she was caught in drinking habit so I requested her if she want to visit she has to control her drinking for while she will stay here. She just hung up the  phone .

I could not think what else I could say .She completely vanished once  again  .

Her kids grew up seeing their mother always drunk and out of senses. When we met during wedding and anyone could see the barranness and sorrow of neglected children in their eyes!

My point was to giving her money was May I can make another attempt to change my sister 's lifefor better but I should have considered that one who can't change for kids cannot change for anything else.

Thanks for bearing with me dear friends! 

Writing this post from phone so forgive mistakes please. 

Blessings to all of you and to all you love ❤

Few more Words And Few More Wedding Photos

 Sharing some more photos from wedding ceremony I attended recently. Actually they hundreds of images and videos. As I told that it was my first chance after more than 30 years  to participate any wedding event on my material side so I tried to save each drop (almost) of this joyous opportunity :)

Me and my youngest son stayed at my cousin 'house for 11 days. As we travelled in bus we saved one extra day as bus takes 12 hours from Sukkur to Islamabad via new China motorway unlike train which takes 22 hours though train is more comfortable because it offers birth (long seats for laying and rest) .

We preferred bus this time because it felt easier option due to less time of travel. Bus seats had tv on back which provided nice collection of English and Urdu music ,movies ,shows and documentaries . Seats were quite comfortable at night as they would bend long so passengers can feel most restful . 

I was busy in household that missed me quite during my getaway but again thanks to my eldest son who bought me washing machine that hardly leaves any work for me except take out laundry and put for drying on wire :)

I wanted to share few more images that i received later and that give better look of both couples . hope you will find them nice as i loved them because of the joy they deliver to heart .Many best wishes for new couples who has just started their practical journey of life !

                              very first event celebrated at home yard on day i arrived 

                           my nieces daughter of my brother on left d of sister on right  

                                               went to spend sometime in native home 

                                   my cousin with both daughters and her dil in yellow during hina event 

                                 

          my cousin's son who is settled in Saudi Arabia since ten years almost ,with his bride 

                                          both brides n stage on final wedding dinner party 

             My cousin's daughter shared latest photo from her album ,she is standing with her husband  

Thanks for all the sweet words on previous post dear friends!

See you soon 

hugs and blessings