It is nice when i see that despite less resources and least support from government our society is evolving gradually overall .Many hard core old fashions are left behind such as keeping girls from studies or specially treating them as inferior to boys whether domestically or in outer world. Parents of today are more cooperative towards their children and more of them now prefer to follow what their kids want. Sadly rural areas are exception until now and children are still considered as slave or property by parents.
I am from a small village and i have witnessed such grand pressures on parents ,mothers particularly by relatives ,aunts and uncles .My mother was really brave to refuse to being part of it and sending her daughters to school rather than surrendering before the demands of relatives for the marriage of her daughters. I keep thanking God for giving me such wise and strong mother !
As a mother i too have been facing such pressures since a decade almost from different relatives from my maternal side and from in laws as well. The demand to get their daughters for my sons as daughter in laws . If i had mind set of controlling parent it would have been true long ago. But I am not that kind of person who overshadow life around her and feel strong . My strength is my love and that is all i have . Love never controls .Our God has given us endless things but he does not like to make us his puppet but his followers who choose Him over all other things willingly by using the light he has given us as our"mind". I find this way of God so divine and fascinating ,utterly wise and liberating . It is exceptional feeling to Choose him with all my heart with my own will by using insight he has blessed me with!
I have nature to nurture my children with love and let them go to make their own way . If my love has power to keep me alive in their heart they will come to me some day to share bond i used to do with them once. And if it's not i don't need empathy or relationship made forcefully. This is not me .
It is hard to make this understand by others though. So this has been little tough to keep up with all relatives who weren't happy by this actually. Some thought i did not like their girl personally and made up the story to refuse. Some who knew me better as person thought it is my bad luck to have such simple nature and let my children go out of my hand. So many self made stories kept me hurt for long. Now all girls in the family are married well almost so things are getting bit normal . At heart i am at peace because i know i di nothing wrong .I would have love to say yes to any of them if my boys were interested but since they are part of different world now they are more interested in self growth first and marriage is not priority for them.This is nice to feel they are growing not just physically but their spirits are evolving too . But this is also little worrying that my eldest son is being late for settling down honestly.
I brought this topic today because one of the wedding i attended recently was of kids among which one was under age . This was disturbing not for me only but for the father of underage boy and all both side family members.