Wednesday, July 10, 2019

Reasonable Laughter And Falling Expert



When  i  was   little i   used   to  fall  lot .There   was   no  one  to  defeat  me  in  this  quest .

First   reason  was  the   hilly   ways  of  village  which   were  new  to  us  as  you  know   that  my  parents   moved   in  village  when  i  was  5  or  6.

Walking  on  hills   with  friends  was  adventure   for  little girl   that  had  come    from  big  city though   .  But  learning   to  walk  on  abrupt    steepy   ways   was   hard  task.and  i  was  expert  failure   no  doubt. 

 Second   reason  was that   i   was   absent   mind   kind  of  stupid   child   who   somehow  manage  to  carry  her   imaginary    fairyland   along   and  fail   to   attend  what  is  before   often .

Best   part   that   my   often  falling  was  way   to  amuse   my   younger  sister   and  cousins   who  would   laugh    loud  for  long   time   and  never   forgot   to   repeat  it  in   gatherings.

I  was   too  foolish   to  understand     reason  behind    their  fun  making .  Because   whenever   they    had  fall   i    never   laughed    on  them  instead   i   had   ran   to  them  and  helped  them  to  get  up.

There   are  many  legend   falls  mine  ofcourse    that    have   been   discussed   repeatedly   since  years   by  people  close  to  me    when  ever    they  got  privilege  to  do  so   during   family  gatherings.

Once   during my  teens  me    and   my  sister   gathered   all  the   leaves  and  other   trash  from  frontyard    and   put   it   in  wide   iron   plate   which  we  call  thaal  in  native  language.

We  had  used   thaal   to  gather   and  throw  the  trash  of  the  house   in  dawn   and   dusk.   My  sister   helped  me  to  put   thaal  on  my  head   and  we  headed  to   downhill .


It  had   rained   one   day   ago   and   paths  were   still  slippery   due  to  cloudy   weather. My  head   was   not  stable  not  because  thaal  was   much  heavy    but  because  i  was   not   focused  enough   as   we were    busy  in chatting  during  walk.

My   right   foot   suddenly    slipped   from   stone   and  i  fell  badly. I  was  rolling   down   to  the  hill  and   all  the  trash wrapped   over  me . In  few   seconds   i  was   in   street   below   with   thorn  in  my  palm  and   scratches   on  different  parts  of  my  body . But  none  was  serious  one .

All  i  could  hear   was    the   bursting  laughter    of  my  sister . She   when   got   down   was   still  laughing .When  i  asked  her  to  stop   she   laughed  more  loudly  .

She   said   while  laughing   " i   am  not  laughing   the  way  you  fall  but   how  quickly  and  seriously  you  got  up  without  any  expression hahaa"

Till  today   she  repeated  it  many  times  with  same  phrase    and  imagine   my   stupidity   that  till  today   i  cannot  get   what  she   was  saying.

I   am  scared   that   you  either  will   think   of  me  so   dump   when  i  will   tell  you  that   i  cannot   laugh   on  many   jokes   or  movie  scenes    in  which   people   get   hurt.

I  cannot   find  them   funny   i  don't  know  why  though  i  want  to  ,believe  me!

My  sons   tell   me  joke  often   specially  the  younger  one ,but   he   feels    irritated   when   i   express  my  concern   about  one  who  fell   or  got  hurt   instead  of  start  laughing  which  approves  that  joke  was  funny .So  embarrassing! yea i know .

Is  there  anything  i  can do  about  it  ,no  because  it  is  in  my  nature  not  habit   that  can   be  change.

There  are  more  falls   that  i cannot  forget. After   ten  years   i  was  six  months  pregnant  with  my   second   child.Me   hubby  and  eldest  son  went    to  visit   my  native  village    in  vacations.  When   train  had  stopped   on  platform   i   was   stepping   down  from  steel  steps   of  train  exit . I  missed   the    last  tow  of  four . Height   was  not  much  but  still   falling  made  me   feel   sick  and  dizzy  for  while .

My   mother  was  so  stressed  about   the  well  being  of  baby  i  had  within.  But  this  was  grace  of  lord  that   results   of  all  tests  were  normal  later .

Since   almost   30   years i   hardly  fall  or  may  be  because   i  am  more  grown up  and  attentive  now.  Still  i  believe  anybody  can  fall   any  time  no  matter  how  careful   and  precise he is.  

 Reason   for  laughing   on  fall  of  others    can  be  sensible. As  when   someone   fall  most  of   people  laugh  spontaneously.

According   to  Shakespeare   their  instant  reaction    of  expressing  joy   comes  from   sense   of   learning   that   IT  IS  NOT  THEM  WHO  JUST  FALL



Which  is   not   comprehensible   for  me . It  is  not  me  who  just  fall  is  okay   but   logically   it  can  happen  to  me  either  any  time 

what  do   you  say  ?




35 comments:

  1. I never understood why people laugh when someone falls. But there is comfort in knowing that not everyone does. No blogger would, that is for sure :-)
    Amalia
    xo

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    1. Same here dear Amalia :)

      I immediately feel as I myself feel there

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  2. Just fall like a little waterfall, lol.
    Happy rest of the week!
    Susi

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    1. Ah what a lovely phrase my friend :)

      Waterfall falls as cherishing friend indeed

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  3. I have heard that it doesn't matter how many times you fall, what matters is how many times you get up, wise isn't it?:) The picture is so funny, have a lovely day my friend:)

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    1. Absolutely wise dear Natalie ;)

      It is either said that ONE WHO DARE TO WALK FALLS TO RUN

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  4. I's with you Baili, I don't laugh or even think it's funny if someone falls over or hurts themselves in any way. I don't laugh if on TV same happens or similar.
    As long as you can get up without being hurt too much after falling is important. As we get older some of us can easily fall.

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    1. I agree

      being old is almost like childhood when it comes to falling

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  5. Love the meme. I find it is truer the older I get.

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    1. I too feel scared when I think of age ahead

      I see people easily get hurt by falling at this part of life

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  6. People can be so needlessly cruel when they should be sympathetic instead.

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  7. Fall is hurt and isn't funny, but many compilations of falls tend to be the funniest video that really entertain some people.

    Take care, Baili!

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    1. If you are talking about Charlie Chaplin he makes me laugh too :)

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  8. My wife has had several hard falls this year. None were funny at all until maybe a day later when we were sure she was not hurt. You may be too sensitive to find humor in someones failure...that is not a bad thing.

    I used to slip and fall a lot especially late at night, then I quit drinking to excess. Never got hurt, they say God protects little children and drunks.

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    1. Haha little children that's me then obviously

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  9. Sometimes people laugh at a fall because of nervousness. Sometimes they continue to laugh in relief because the person is okay. Sometimes they are cruel and enjoy the pain of others. There are so many reasons. It can be amusing to tell funny stories at family gatherings. I laugh a lot. Often at silly things that have happened to me. You have read my blog. I have many funny tales to tell. All are told with love.

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  10. I so enjoy your tales dear Emma

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  11. I think that there are several reasons why people might laugh after someone falls - shock, relief after they see the person is okay, or because they don't think about how the person is feeling hurt or shook up. Sometimes people make jokes to help the person who has fallen smile again. I need to know the person is okay before anything else. And to laugh because one does not sympathize is very cruel and damaging. It reminds me of the saying "adding insult to injury". It is very unfeeling.

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    1. i agree with explanations you made here dear Jenny specially when young siblings or our children fall we laugh to to make them feel better as if it was not a big deal

      haha this reminds me my younger son's tough reaction when we laughed at his fall he would look at us as we should be ashamed of laughing at him and then he would shout cry louder until we stop and treat him warmly lol

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  12. I am very much like you, dearest Baili! When I see someone call, I instinctively rush to help them...and never feel the need to laugh, unless the person him/herself laughs.
    I used to trip quite a lot too, especially as a child and teenager. My mom used to call me a "Stupid, clumsy child!"...and so every time I did fall I'd feel so embarrassed!
    Haha, yes, it is perfectly acceptable to laugh at Charlie Chaplin's mishaps...I just adore those funny movies - and even more so, Laurel and Hardy!😊😊

    Lots of love and hugs ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

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    1. Oh you were bit like me dear Ygraine :)

      lost in your imaginary world and unable to give attention what was right before you

      i think most of people with dominating imagination face such problems :)

      Laurel and Hardy were my much favorite cartoons and charlie chaplin still makes me laugh

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  13. Falling down in films etc can be made to look funny, but often in real life it isn't.
    I find the older I get the more careful I am when out walking etc.

    I did like the picture you've used for this post.

    All the best Jan

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    1. as we grow old our chances to fall increase i know and they are crucial l and incurable most of the time

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  14. Being the brunt of someone’s laughter never is ok, it leaves a scar for sure, I understand completely why watching movies of people being laughed at or falling is not comical to you, the scars you carry with you. Your dreamy sensitive nature makes you who you are, a soft gentle caring person, that was a scary fall, missing four steps is a lot! You were lucky you weren’t injured! I’m a bit clumsy as well especially since my eyesight is failing but that makes me more practised at falling lol let’s hope we both stay on our feet! Have a wonderful day ,

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    1. Dear Laurie you are such a strong person

      Eyesight loss is great problem but I still find you amazingly firm with your routine and attitude of life which is inspirational indeed

      After teenage I fell less but it is there once and while
      Though without big harm
      Praying for better and healthy old age

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  15. I fell when I was pregnant with my first son. It was in a restaurant at a big family dinner. I was so embarrassed, but fortunately no one laughed at me. They just expressed concern and helped me up. I don't laugh when others fall either. I rush instead to help them up and make sure they are all right. I guess I am like you and imagine myself being in their place.

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    1. this must have been scary situation dear Connie and i can understand why other got worried instead of laugh

      fall of pregnant woman cannot be be funny at all
      i am grateful that you and your child were safe my dear friend !

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  16. Dear Baili, like you, I have never enjoyed jokes or television skits or movies in which we are meant to laugh at others being hurt. Comics doing "pratfalls" do not amuse me. I think that both you and I have vivid imaginations and immediately think of how a person might feel if they fell. It's a response, I think to the universal mortality we all share. Peace.

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    1. imagination like this is blessing most of the time but painful sometimes dear Dee
      i suffered quite period of stress because i was easily fallen on their place who are not so blessed and live in critical conditions due to sickness ,poverty or gender

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  17. It is really awful to laugh at falls and other kinds of mishaps.

    I had a tumor a few years ago which destroyed my vestibular nerve. This I have very bad balance and am prone to falling. One needs to be very careful. As we all get a little older falls can start to cause some very real injuries.

    Have a great day!

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  18. Oh I am really sorry about your situation dear Brain

    I was not aware of term actually and just came to my knowledge the difficulty you might have been facing

    People of all kinds live in this world
    Some with sensitive caring heart and some who seems to be heartless

    Enjoying others pain is not blessing indeed

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  19. I have never understood why people think a painful fall is funny, but perhaps it is the surprise that makes them laugh sometimes. A "joke" fall can be funny when it is intended to amuse in a comedy show. It is very worrying to feel that you might fall though. I had a problem with my ankle last year (a tendon) and I didn't like that feeling of anxiety when I was getting better. People would think I was nearly OK but actually I knew I might fall. Luckily it's OK now.

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  20. I think it is hard to find person in world who did not fall once or more than once dear Jenny

    Glad that your fall was not serious one which is quite fortunate I believe

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  21. Falling down can look funny, ,but it isn't!! I am so sorry for all the bad falls you've had Baili! Big Hugs!

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