Sense Of Humor

Where  i  belonged  laughing  was  bad  for  girls ,specially laughing aloud was forbidden for young  girls so  people  who  would come  to  ask for  their  hand  cannot  find any objection  in  their  behavior .

Fortunately unlike  others my  family was  different . Despite  of  all  opposition between  my  parents  there were  certain times  when  they  brought  out  their  lighter, happier  side  out  and  shared  laughter with  us .Those  are  treasured memories and i am proud to have them. When  such  fun times happened   we  felt  better and  peaceful as daughters . All is  fine  between  parents  matters  is most to  kids no matter  which  age group  they belong i believe .

Both of my parents had good sense of humor .Specially  my  father  would  bring  out funny aspect  out of serious words or sentences which will make us laugh at sudden for long.We  inherited  it from them more or less though ,but  most  of it was  added  in my younger sister .

She was popular for her humorous  conversations and discussions  among  her  girlfriends.She had skill to turn  tense environment into light and chilled  one with her  words and laughter. I  remember how she would  distract mom  from actual topic when she would make some serious mistake or mess . She  would expertly  start  with  joke or funny story about someone and make mom would forget  why she was upset or angry and smile eventually. It  would  save her from punishment  often .I  was  far  away from such  insight.

Those  are  treasured memories and i am proud to have them. When  such  fun times happened   we  felt  better as daughters . All is  fine  between  parents  matters  most to  kids no matter  which  age group  they belong i believe .

There  were few characters back during  my village life  who  still twinkle like pearls  in my memory box .I grew  up  seeing  them  how amazingly  they enlighten  dark times  and unburdened  heavy hearts when life  felt more like test . They had gift. Those were women  who led simple life loaded with common problems  and limited knowledge but  still they  had power to inspire  with  their  cheerfulness and optimism . 

One  of them  was patient of epilepsy. She had seven kids  and unfortunately a lazy husband  who would hardly support his family. Still she  was  active and one of the best social person in the village. She  would  keep  collection of money which group of women would give monthly so there a handsome amount of money could be gathered and  was given  to one of participant  each month. I don't know it happens in your part of land or not but it was and is a popular way to make small life improvement specially in lower middle class and middle class.
She would keep money and she was wise enough to lend part of it to other needy . She would attend each big or small event and visit each home almost daily. Everyone would trust her and many would prefer her suggestions while deciding something important in their life. Masi Bibi Jan was  a social worker of our tiny village.

But what made her unforgettable was her funny side . During celebrations she would mimic famous comedy actors . Specially when she would mimic to live characters from the village everybody  would seem  as will fell from chair with laughter .

Events will pass but her performances would remain center of  conversation for months . Nobody could say that energetic middle aged lady was ill or  stuck in so many issues of her private life. She  had magic to turn bitterness of her life into sweet cherishing smiles and make people around her feel better .That charity  of love and kindness was rewarded by Lord so she surpassed all the obstacles bravely and touched many hearts.

Today  when  i  was reading an article about humor she was the first came to my mind. 

https://qz.com/768622/a-good-sense-of-humor-is-a-sign-of-psychological-health/

I had read many established writers from my school library.I was one of those students who never stopped borrowing books from library . My favorite books were that had tone of humor .Luckily i read writers who were famous for their humorous and ironic writing. They  had privilege to say bitter things with coating of sweetness .That was remarkable and wonderful art. Humor inspires me  and i found people fascinating who have ability to touch hearts without breaking them . 

I  am not good at it but i can understand humor quickly which makes me enjoy stuff which many people i met seem unable to get and sees if  there is something wrong with me. If i had to watch  such shows or movie with such person who is not catching the humor laying under neath made me feel guilty sometimes.

I  love witty type of humor  not superficial kind .I think very healthy brains produce humor .Somehow they are blessed with sixth or may be seventh sense that gives them exit from all kind of walls and frustration . Or may be they have ability to live multi dimensional life ,so each time when they feel congested they can jump to another to feel better .

I  think like all other fine arts that spring from fertile minds humor is also a form of art. Unknowingly it can influence  and effect people's  behavior  and life to great extent.It  is not necessary that every person  with good sense of humor can write a book but it is obvious that life is lot  easier and happier where lives and people around him are happy to have him.And i am saying this due to personal experience .In early  years of my marriage  many times possible  wars (between us) turned into embarrassing smiles and then  apology (from me) And it happened because of Hubby's sense of humor. I   took  time  to  develop mine though :)

Can  you think of world without sense of humor ?
Were you popular for you sense of humor ?
Do you have memory of someone special with brilliant sense of humor ?