Dear Friends!
Hello,
Hope and pray that you are dealing with brilliant people around you appropriately and
coping with various situations wonderfully .
Most of us don't want to indulge in serious type of discussions and try to write light aspects of our life and to give quick ,polite and and precise comment on the posts of friend bloggers which is great and correct way to avoid complex topics and long conversations .
By doing so One can save time and energy and visit more friends in less time ,either i try this but still due to my weak command on my sense of curiosity i some time feel compelled to ask questions with whom i grew up but still could not find satisfactory answer .
I am not active on any other source of social media (because i don't find it much interesting than blogging) so blogging is my only way to share my hearts with friends!
I appreciate from the depth of my heart for replying my question in previous post and now i am quite clear that diplomacy is not a bad thing and how it differ with hypocrisy.
Many years ago (26 almost) ,When after my matriculation i was waiting for result my mom had to be hospitalized for her gall bladder surgery . I was never in islamabad all by my own but i had no option as that time i was only one to stay with her in hospital for atleast one week .
I was almost 20 but very shy and reserve for strangers in hospital. Surgery of gall bladder than totally different than i had few months back as there were almost 18 stitches on mom's tummy!
I had some money in my hand bag (small that we carry in hands) with me and bag of necessary accessories including clothes as village was only one hour away yet travelling alone was huge mission for me so i left my younger sister in my aunt's home with my two cousins and asked father to bring to hospital when ever he himself visit.
Father's small watch repairing shop was in Rawalpindi which is joint big city to Islamabad and he had to stick with work so expenses could be fulfilled smoothly .Meanwhile my elder brother was in Iran to earn.
In hospital surgery was done second day of admission and mom was out of senses . i was sitting near her on desk and feeling so lonely and sad for her and tears from my eyes were dropping non stop.
It was joint ward of female patients and Each was allowed to have only one family member to look after ,though doctors visited thrice a day and nurses many times . There were 25 beds with appropriate distance and and partition of curtains was allowed when male visitors came to visit their patients so other ladies can use the curtain if wanted to.
An old lady ( fifty plus) who was next to mom's bed got on good terms with me and often when i tried to give away the meal that was given by management to us she would come close and console my sadness .
Because of her kind behaviour i stepped out of my fear for strangers and looked at the people around me with observing eye. I realized that there was so much pain there . Young girls hardly 18 extremely beautiful was there since 2 and half years .
her cancer was increasing inside and now she was balled ,her more than four feet long hair were in plastic bag ,she was ready to last surgery though there was no hope .
See i am loosing my track again .I will share the ward's world in my any other post .
Let me tell you about the friendly lady to whom i was trusting now .She was here since one year with her divorced daughter who was suffer with kidney failure . She was old but very active and clever as she helped me lot while wandering in hospital in search of various sections where i had to go such as medicines ,tests result collections and many other .
It was last day in hospital and i was standing in queue to receive mom's medicines for week as we were leaving after it .Three ladies were dealing from behind the glass wall through three holes from where we can give money and collect medicines . queue was long and straight and i had my hand bag in my hand .
While lady who was behind the glass got paper from me with described medicines and moved to the rack where the all racks of medicines were placed , i put my hand bag on the marble seat before the hole and tried to correct my scarf on my head ,while doing this just for moment i looked at the child the lady in next queue was holding near me .i smiled at the child who was so adorable and may be 6 month old. All this took hardly 5 seconds .
When after correcting the scarf i looked at the marble seat and was shocked that my hand bag was gone . I instantly looked behind me and the same lady was standing there . In a second through the slight hesitation in her eyes ( which she overcame later immediately ) i realized that she has stolen my bag . But i could not say this to her .
I left the queue without wasting time and told her that i just lost my bag she was exceptional in her performance she fornt of me asked other ladies who were near and meanwhile i was staring at her huge bag hanging on her shoulder imagining my hand bag inside it . Which had money that my father gave me previous day for medicine ,travel expenses and for the whole week house expenses .I realized i was pale and shaken .
I did not say word to her ,i could not , believe me i was not coward but only one thing was stopping me to tell her that "you did this" because i did not wanted make her embarrassed front of me .This was weird for me . May be today i can do this but than i could not do this .
I did not go to ward as mom could realized the situation through my expressions. While sitting on bench when my tears dropped on my hands in my lap i noticed the watch on my wrist . I pulled it off immediately and asked ladies if they can give me some money behalf of my watch .But no one was interested may be everybody was with only money enough to their basic needs there .
Then i went to the girl who was in O.P.D and was quite rude and reserved though but i had no option .inevitably i went near her and itold her my story and asked her to have my watch and lend me some money until my next visit so i will give her money back and take my watch from her . By the grace of God her heart softened for me and she gave me 500 rupees for my 1100 rupees watch .And that time i realized the true value of money over that watch.
Later after week when we visited to hospital we exchanged our stuff but i thanked her so many time for being kind to me on time when i needed the kindness most!
It's been looong time but that old lady still exists in my mind ,
i think what was she ?
Did she got close to me just because she looking for chance ?
Had not she thought for a second while stealing my bag that what will i do?
My precious fellows this was main reason for asking this question in my previous post.
It is almost 1 pm here ,post got quite long sorry for that.
i should go hurry and finalize my lunch as kids will come back from school within hour .
Take care dears !
Be kind but don't let anybody hurt you !
God bless You All!!!
In short, what I know for a long time, baili - be kind but don't be a fool.
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ReplyDeleteUma boa semana.
Um beijo.
You reap what you sow. That poor lady tore holes in her own pocket. I hope you can forgive her. Here you are and God sent someone to help you.
ReplyDeleteI had a roomate in college who once saw a man drop money accidentally. She picked it up and kept it. Later, she was at a concert with a new friend. Guess what? She somehow accidentally dropped all of her money and could not find it. She had to ask her new friend to borrow money. She was very embarrassed.
It’s not a thing to play around with! As the old saying goes, theft is the road to poverty.
Sandi once a shopkeeper returned more cash ad my eldest son gave him 500 but shopkeeper returned the change of 10,00 as my be he misunderstood under the pressure of rush hours .
DeleteMy son did not paid attention and put money in his pocket. When he got home and counted while giving me he realised and told me about it but before i should say something to him he said mom i am going to give him his money back and i felt tears of gratitude in my eyes .i always pray that may my children be good human first than anything else. Because i deeply believe that our actions follow us until we see their results with our eyes
Oh, Baili! That is powerful. I am so glad there are people like your son in the world!
DeleteBaili thanks for sharing this painful story, I am glad you successfully coped with this incident. We all grow and learn from these life lessons, we never forget.
ReplyDeleteOh. My! To have purse stolen....in a hospital .
ReplyDeleteAt that age, I imagine I would have been the same. Now, it wouldn't happen. We learn so much when we age. :-)
ReplyDeleteHow disappointing that a person who befriended you would then steal from you. It does shake a person's faith in their fellow man (or woman). You were very quick-thinking to exchange your watch for a cash loan. I don't think I would have had that good idea! Yes, that woman was a hypocrite. And a thief. And I see no way that diplomacy would have gotten back your money! Someone more clever than I might be able to do it, but I would have done just what you did - nothing!
ReplyDeleteThis was too shocking though Jenny but it never shaken my faith in God and in goodness
DeleteHi Baili :) That's a hard story. More than just the panic of losing what I needed, I would have had such anger at feeling violated and betrayed by this woman. I personally would have said something definitely, even if it embarrassed her. I think diplomacy is needed when you have something negative to say but don't want to hurt the feelings of that person because you care about them, so I can see why you were confused at feeling diplomatic. That was her way of manipulating you I suppose, these people know what they are doing. But I do strongly believe that what goes around comes around.
ReplyDeleteDear Rain ,that time the environment and stranger people made me enough shy or kind of nervous to say something inspite of knowing the fact .
DeleteAccording to my village customs elders deserved respect and i could not resist the difference of her age she was older as my mom.
in my village (32 houses only then ) i was well known for my love and respect and special affection for elderly people .
even when i was not allowed to play out in my early teens i took special permission to drop filled water pots and serve food to the old women who were mistreated by their daughters in laws and always came to me to share their heart as if i were their age .because i used to hear them with love and affection i don't know why but i did.
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Since very beginning i was told by mom that never ever do something which makes your conscience scold you for, because you will pay for it sooner or later as though you think no one is watching you while doing this but believe me still God is watching you ,he is inside you ,he knows what you even think.
i followed these rules all over my life and saw that each bit of mom said was true
Often it is difficult to know "the good guys" from "the bad guys". I am sorry you had such a bad experience. Like you I was raised in an area where everyone knew everyone else. We trusted all our neighbors. Then I moved to the big city where people were so jaded. No one trusted anyone else. It is a hard transition to make. I am happy to be back where I belong now.
ReplyDeleteYou are right Emma, it is hard sometimes to differ between good and bad people .
Deletei Think bad people become more dangerous when they treat you hypocritically ,to recognize the actual face behind mask is quite tough job for me and that is why i am introvert i know i am not smart enough to find out the true ones so to avoid from being hurt with any kind of betrayal i like to live in isolation. because i don't want any complications to my simple life
That is terrible, Baili. That woman was a hypocrite who took advantage of your innocence. How sad. I'm glad you were able to find a way to raise money. It must have been a painful and frightening experience for you.
ReplyDeleteYes it was so painful but as i mentioned many times that when ever i was put in misery by others , each time i was helped miraculously by God ,i have few more experiences which i will share with you my friend and you will stir by the result for sure and will know that why my faith in God is so strong.
DeleteWhenever someone try to hurt me now it does not worry me instead i start feel pity for who does this this because i from my previous experiences know that God will help me so i don't response i just keep silence ,my Creator does all behalf of me .
I echo Christine's comment, dear Baili. I cannot stand it when people take advantage of others.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing yet another personal experience, Baili. Like you, I also do not use any other form of social media other than blogging. I feel that blogging offers an entirely new experience as far as getting to know people through their experiences. It was indeed an unfortunate experience you had, but apparently it did not shake your belief in people's basic goodness. I have also heard that "what goes around comes around" and never personally believed it. But years ago my then-husband told me he wanted out of our marriage and I later learned he had been cheating for quite some time, yet I was unaware of this but knew there was a problem. I had told him that infidelity was the one thing I would never accept in a marriage and so I was the one who divorced him. He did marry the girlfriend, but years after he was involved in an industrial accident through carelessness, he and another man were severely burned and both later died. Later on someone reminded me of that saying, but it was not something I would have wished on anyone, even a cheating spouse. I can see that my life turned out much better than if we had stayed together.
ReplyDeleteAnd, your life Baili, has also been much better and you are stronger perhaps because of this incident you wrote about and others.
Thank you too for reading my words as lovingly dear friend!
Deleteyour story is far painful than mine ,it shakened my heart!
world is like field to man ,we have to reap what we have sown ,
Time proved on you that whatever happened ,was for your best .He did not deserved you and still cheated on you ,his acts followed led him to his end .
i too believe that that women must had have pay for her crime sooner or later.
God gave me direction through stimulation of idea to sell the watch other wise i was not that clever to think about this .
yes this incident made me strong and confident and after that i trusted others but to a limit
Thank you for sharing this story, Baili. Unfortunately thieves exist in all over the world. It was very bad that they stole you in the hospital. I understand how badbly you felt that you could not pay for medicine, travel expenses, etc. But as I see, you estimated the money they gave you for your watch then. Maybe this experience made you stronger and more careful with the money and the people. Have a great day, my friend.
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Mia!
Deletei cannot tell you excatly how shocked and worried i have become when i lost my purse that day
That watch was gift from one of my father's friend from city Rawalpindi and was with me for more than four years of school life and even after that . But that day i realized it's real purpose for being with me .
because my older watch was given by my father and quite cheap (250) ,i kept older in closet when got new one.
Yes one thing that striked in my mind was the value of money special on times when you need it BADLY!!!
I am sorry this woman took advantage of you by befriending you and then stealing your money, that was very wrong of her and simply makes it harder for you to trust strangers. Most strangers are simply friends that we have not met, and once we meet them everything is great, others are like this woman who are only there to get from you what they can. How do we tell the difference? I don't have the answer for that but I do know that we have to continue trusting people and being cautious at the same time, because there are people just like you out there who only want to meet a friend.
ReplyDeleteI hope your Mom is doing well.
So sorry to read that this lady took advantage of you and ended up stealing your money. It is life experiences that make our lives what they are. You did seem to cope with the situation.
ReplyDeleteSending my good wishes
All the best Jan
I'm so sorry for that. People can do very bad. But i'm glad for the kind girl that helped you...
ReplyDeleteBaili, thank you for sharing your story.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately the world is full of people who try to take advantage of others.
It must have been very difficult for you, fortunately there was still someone who helped you.
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There are bad people everywhere. Whenever there is a slightest opportunities, they will strike. So sad that the one whom you grew to trust, betrayed you. We have to be very careful with the people around you especially in public places. Take you, Baili!
ReplyDeleteAnother great post Baili. I tend to dig like to dig into serious issues myself on my blog :)
ReplyDeleteAs your story illustrates, there are people who will take advantage of you and who will hurt you. There are also kind people out there. The trick is to stay away from the bad ones and surround yourself with the good ones.
I understand your story so much! My purse was taken from me at work, by a co-worker! I've also had people take advantage of me, from my kindness. It truly hurts your soul! Big Hugs!
ReplyDeleteYou were very quick-thinking to exchange your watch for a cash loan. I don't think I would have had that good idea! Yes, that woman was a hypocrite. And a thief.
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It's unbelievably sad that someone would be so heartless as to steal another's purse... I believe in karma and you get what you give out. I am happy the other lady loaned you the money for your watch... it worked out for you, thankfully xox
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