Hello Dear Friends .
Hope and pray that you are successfully solving all
the puzzles that life brings to you time to time.
What would be the life without these puzzles if it
doesn't bring them to us ?
How will we Pass our life times and How will we
be able to know that how smart we are.
I am not smart enough to clarify my point of view in previous post which was about a walk that i
took along my hubby 23 Years Ago. I also expressed my desperation for being out doors as
teenager when My Mother , like all other mothers of
small villages stopped me to be outside by my own .
That obviously she did with good intention for the sake of my safety though it does not mean that if i
would have gone outdoors than certainly something bad was going to be happen with me . No , it was
just a Caution that mothers of our society took that times .
And in villages and small cities such attitude
still exist which i think is not totally wrong if we
look at the ignorance of men of those areas .
Ignorance has nothing to do with bookish and academic studies ,It is about
THE WAY OF UP BRINGING!
In our society (like all other societies ,no matter how advance they look) Men took advantage of
religious teachings according to which
WOMEN SHOULD AVOID SEEING OR TALKING TO MEN
WHO ARE STRANGER TO THEM , IF THEY WILL
IT CAN PROVOKE OTHER MEN TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THEM.
Men as religious leaders spread this message by
magnifying it for their personal pleasures . Common men who were not or less educated bound the
women into houses and if some liberal minded
support their women for outside activities and jobs ,Ignorant men harassed them .Though
we all know that harassment is in all over the world .
BUT IT Is 20 ,30 years old way of thinking and in small villages or rural areas only .
IN MY COUNTRY NOW
Women completely free to make choices ,make decisions and choose careers. In big cities life is
quite modern and women is taking part in each part
of life outdoors equally as men and sometimes even better than men. Young girls travel alone they go for
outing with their girlfriends without any menly company .They drive cars ,some drive bikes too but in big
cities only .They wear fashionable dresses and very
strong confident in their presence and opinions
What i wanted to say was that here is still a limit
and shyness in exposure of men and women
relationship . They are not open in their personal
loving expressions even men avoid to hold hand of
his own wife front of his family so his unmarried
sisters may feel uncomfortable .
Youngsters fall in love but do not expose their physical expressions front of others like hug or kiss .
The shyness is decreasing gradually but still may
can take century to break that barrier of balanced lifestyle and to be much open .
Media has played great part in telling women their
rights .In our national media programs , dramas
and movies are taking women as their main source of inspiration .
We live in small city so unlike Islamabad we both
can't go for walk TOGETHER everyday .So hubby takes his walks outside and i take in my yard .
In future near we are planning to buy a house in Islamabad so we can spend our tough summer times there as summers are mild and rainy there .
Then we can live better life and take lots of walk together there . I am eagerly waiting for that time .
Hope in this post i was able to convey what i wanted to say !
My precious fellows forgive your less smart friend who hopefully did not bore you with this post.
Kindly let me know what you got out of it !
Leaving you with some photos of the women of my country today!
while doing one wheeling
Diving
Exploring the hidden parts of earth
Breaking the record in taking round of country
Having fun while fulfilling responsibilities (northern areas)
Beauty and grace with talent within limits(model ,actor)
having the honour of duty in air force
Girls rally for fun in summer vacations
Pakistani national cricket team ,step to growth as gender as human !
Take Lots of crae my friends <
God Bless You All!!!
Wonderful thoughts and lovely photos of your country men and women doing their thing. Greetings to you.
ReplyDeleteDear Baili, I wish you a beautiful day. I always find your posts so very interesting and educational as well. You express your thoughts only as you can and they are full of interesting colorful explanations and facts that only you would know. Your willingness to share is a blessing. Enough people do not share their special thoughts and feelings as you do. I am so pleased to know you.
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Carol
Women are making progress around the world, Baili. We still have a long way to go I fear. I especially like the photos of women in Pakistani society.
ReplyDeleteOccasionally, I'll write a post and nobody gets what I'm talking about too.
ReplyDeleteI hope you are able to make your move to the city! I remember how nice it was to walk with my husband in the evening. Sometimes we walked the dog, later we were pushing the baby in the stroller. We really communicated better on our walks.
It seems to me there is always some prominent old man in the news for taking advantage of a young woman. They think they can get away with it because they have money, power, or the fact they are men. Disgusting!
Nice pictures of lovely people! Have a pleasant evening!
I hit the glass ceiling for women and it was painful after 32 years in the corporate world. However I am proud of what little bit I was able to do to help make a place for women all over the world. It is so nice to see the giant steps but still sad at all that is left to do.
ReplyDeleteEither i am proud of you for your sense of pride for what you were able to do in world of corporate my friend!
DeleteIt is just beginning for sure
You have so beautiful women in your country and so brave! We here in Finland are also very proud about our women. Our country was the first country to give the right to vote for women. We had also a woman, Tarja Helonen as president. It is great to see that it is going better all over teh world.
ReplyDeleteThank yoy Baili for your lovely comment - I hope you can follow my stories!
Thank you dear friend!
DeleteIt is actually Great to see women are doing AMAZING throughout the world.
I will definitely would love to explore your lovely blog more
Such a lovely post, Baili, and how amazing your photos are! Thank you so much for sharing. :)
ReplyDeleteThis is such an important and thoughtful post. I am sorry to hear of one of the things that you have to deal with where you live.
ReplyDeleteThe oppression is women is one of the great wrongs, maybe the greatest wrong, in human history. So many injustices, such as the harassment that you talk about is unconscionable. Things are getting better but there is a long way to go. I am glad to hear that things have changed in the cities of Pakistan.
Take care and have a great week.
brin oppression is something which existed since man and woman are born on this earth .
DeleteWe except or deny but it will not change the fact that harassment is everywhere .
I will say simply that western world has developed and crossed all such ignorant eras centuries ago..but eastern world is still under the struggle .
these images are proving that women of our country is not scared of any men any more .
they are facing everything bravely and stepping forward boldly
Baili, this probably isn’t the comment you’ll expect from an American woman...but...I have had a lot of freedom all my life and can do anything. I have been all over the world. Some places are better than others. I have not been to India, but I imagine there is a huge difference in taking a walk there vs. here. But there is something to be said for being protected. I didn’t always feel that in my younger years. If I had a daughter I wouldn’t want her to just go and do anything. I’d worry. Unless she was with that cricket team...wow...are those all women? They look tougher than any man I have ever met!
ReplyDelete(I worry about my sons too...)
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Dear Sandi i will certainly except all kinds of views you have in your mind about my sharing.
Deletebelieve me it is IMPORTANT for me my friend that things that are blurred must be clarified by some efforts .We are friends here and can differ in our opinions.
i would love to hear such issues whenever you want to ask ,i have all the answers i am perfectly sure about it . i will never give to try to make you understand if you want to my friend!
If you will run back to time when in 14th and before it Religious hold was so tight on the nerve of common men.
Religion was center and men were to obey it ,all this was created by religious leaders. i will not go in detail i posted it in some of my recent post.
In those times either WOMEN of ENGLAND and EUROPE were bound and were living miserably by the fake God created by religious leaders .
Than renaissance era came and man was declared as center of eart and life , by the gradual improvements since long you are finally reaching in the times when women are at least declared Equal to men .
MY POINT IS THAT no one born with same high standards of life .on this earth some nations developed before some other nations which are still crawling towards the destination
DeleteI said India but you live in Pakistan! Sorry about that.
I had a friend many years ago who grew up in Islamabad. He said she was one of the first women to drive there (his Dad allowed it) and people would get upset at her for it. It would be hard to imagine how she would see today’s world, here or there. It’s hard for me to imagine hers. I supposed when I say “protected” I mean in a good way, like cherished, not in a bad way like chains.
DeleteOops...that comment came out funny. His mom was one of the first women to drive there.
DeleteThank you dear Sandi!
DeleteI think gradual changes are leading our society towards better life for women either as in west it did for english and european women
Your previous post told me that while customs in your area kept you from being as free as you would have liked to be, your husband was man enough to see what you desired and take you on a lovely and loving outing. All the restrictions you mentioned there were a way of explaining why that walk was so important to you.
ReplyDeleteToday you are explaining what I thought was obvious before. As a way to protect females they were kept away from perceived dangers outside of the home. Today women are more than something to be protected. In most cases they can protect themselves. Because of custom males were not bound by the same ethics as females and were to be feared. In varying degrees this has been true all over the world. It will be wonderful when this way of thinking is completely in the past for all.
I totally agree what you said Emma .
Deletenow things are getting better slower still better ,people are refusing to follow the falsehood created by religious leaders .
Media is changing the perspective of people and light has paved it's way to minds
It is so good to see those pictures of beautiful and confident young women. It is hard for me to understand what is not-religious about husbands and wives enjoying each others' company... this is so strange to me. But I am very glad that it is changing and I think it will be great when you move to Islamabad!
ReplyDeleteWorld was just wild before Jenny
Deleteman has his way from caves to glass houses .
some nations reached much closer to be there where they should be or may it is just beginning beyond our imagination.
some under development places in the world are still finding their way towards it , so simple if one want to understand
It's always a pleasure to see your way of life in your country, Baili. These women are confident, smart, lovely, and that model/actor is a beauty. I love the picture of the women exploring the hidden parts of the earth. That's something I've always been interested in. I hope you get to buy a house in Islamabad someday. I was wondering why you and your husband can't take a walk together in your small city?
ReplyDeleteI always learn something when I visit with you, Baili. Thank you for that.
~Sheri
Beautiful photos! I respect your culture and it's differences.
ReplyDeleteEither i respect your culture my dear friend christin!
Deleteand this is the way to understand each other for better
I meant to say its differences.
ReplyDeleteThe photographs you've used are so good.
ReplyDeleteAll the best Jan
Thank you Jan!
Deletei tried to share the image of women of my homeland who is on her way to grow for better ,she is on the edge of exploring both her inner and external world
You have it right. Males have to learn and behave so that girls and women can be safe and achieve what they want and are very able to do.
ReplyDeleteabsolutely true Red!
Deleteand this is possible when the bASE of EACH CHILD ,HIS HOME ,his LEARNINGS from his home will be good and modest
Thank you for sharing this, Baili. Women are making progress all over the world. I think the most important thing is for mothers to raise their sons to behave responsibly and respect women.
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Martha!
Deletewhat you said here is most important thing for raising a "hEALTHY" society .
It is a saying here that "you give me GOOD MOTHERS and i will give you a GOOD NATION"
Child's first school is the lap of his mother and words and sentences that parents pour in his ears ,the way they treat to each other and what are their attitude towards life .
all matters for the upbringing of a kid.
In this world MOTHER HAVE mOST DELICATE AND MOST IMPORTANT RSPONSIBILITY AND iT IS RAISING A CHILD <LAYING THE FOUNDATIONS OF HIS CHARACTER ON NOBLE AND STRONG BASE AND TRYING THEIR BEST TO MAKE THEM A WELL MANNERED ,UNDERSTANDING <RESPECTFUL AND HARMLESS MEMBER OF SOCIETY
Thank you Baili for this follow-up post. I did not see any problems before and understood what you were saying, but it does seem unfortunate that men and women who are husband and wife cannot enjoy the simple pleasures of walking together more often. Your husband seems like a wise and loving man and it is obvious that he puts your happiness on a high level. Thank you for sharing all the images of such confident and strong women. I agree that the world is changing in many places.
ReplyDeleteThank you my friend!
Deleteyes it is little disappointing for the wives and husbands but pleasant part is that growth and betterment is on to it's way .
So though it will take bit time but things will get better for women of my homeland too as they di for English and European women of few centuries
Equal rights and duties for men and women.
ReplyDeleteAs simple as that.
Have a nice weekend
I am happy you said this Pedro and i am sure you believe what you said my friend
DeleteWomen did not get the right to vote in the United States until 1917. We have experienced a lot of positive change for women in the United States and I am glad to hear it is true for Pakistan too. Being a woman, I can understand restrictions. It is still a man's world in the United States. Women have a lot of freedom; but, culturally not all those freedoms are really there. Women can be as bad as men putting those limitations out which I am sure you have in Pakistan. Take care.
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Ann!
ReplyDeleteWhat you just said is what i am trying to say here.
No nation has born with all the high standards of life . They suffered with IGNORANCE AND TRIVIALITIES IN ITS WAY OF LIVING.
Gradually they realized their weaknesses and slowly put them away as you said that in United States of America women were looked as down that they were not considered appropriate to cost the vote .
But today the difference is obvious and logically correct.
Pakistan is gradually liberating his women to participate in each step of development of the country and to build a strong basic unit of society "family "
I actually did not realize that women in Pakistan have many more freedoms today, so I am glad you clarified! Also, it is often true in any country that in large centers the changes come earlier and in smaller more rural areas the changes may be harder to achieve. The women in your pictures are beautiful and strong, good examples for young girls. Thank you for adding this information to what you wrote before.
ReplyDeleteLess smart?? Never! You are a beautiful, intelligent woman!
ReplyDeleteThank you for this wonderful post!
Big Hugs!
Such a lovely post, Baili, and how amazing your photos are! Thank you so much for sharing.
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Baili, times are so different from when I was younger... I had so much freedom to just go anywhere I wanted... I had no fear when I a little healthy fear is good... I try to give my daughter a little leeway because I feel if I don't she will be resentful, I just hope that what I have taught her about being aware of her surroundings gets through to her...
ReplyDeleteI also think that where you live and the customs you grow up with definitely defines if you have freedom are protected more. I love hearing about different cultures... I learn a great deal xox
Thank you for sharing this, Baili. Women are making progress all over the world. I think the most important thing is for mothers to raise their sons to behave responsibly and respect women.
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