i was always asked to " learn some diplomacy girl" even in beginning years of my marriage hubby used to say same thing though later he realized that i am special case (i believe) because he stopped saying so
since years i have asked many time to many people that please differentiate both for me but invain
You ask a very big question here. I think that I could write volumes about it. In a nutshell I would say that you should never compromise your values and insist that others respect yourself and your loved ones. At the same time, treat others with respect and courtesy even when you do not like that the behavior of others.
Oh my, good question! I think it's very easy to betray our true feelings when trying to be diplomatic ! We then become a hypocrite. You really keep us on toes Bali lol, you make us think!
Diplomacy is the thin line between reality and hypocrisy. It is holding back on true feelings allowing the other side to save face and maybe give in a bit to your position.
Diplomacy is generally thought of as trying to convey an unpleasant truth in the kindest way possible, which is a good thing. Hypocrisy is saying one thing and doing another, which is not a good thing. I believe you are a diplomat, not a hypocrite :)
Are you wondering what "thin line" means? It means there isn't much separating the two things, and a person can easily go from one to the other without meaning to. I personally do not feel there is a "thin line" between diplomacy and hypocrisy; I wonder if the author meant to say "between diplomacy and lying". If we are trying to be diplomatic we might not tell the whole truth but we try to tell enough so that the other person gets the idea without being hurt too much. If we don't tell enough of the truth, we may actually end up lying instead. Lying is not the same as being a hypocrite, however. Hope this helps! If not, keep asking :)
yes this bothers me most when i try to be or succeeded to be diplomatic that AM I LYING ?
you will think of me weird ,crazy ,mad ,stupid or so selfish that i don't literally actually want to let down myself that i just lied to someone which is not normal i know because world is not simple straight line and life is not 2+2=4 type thing
sometimes we all have to take shape of angle time put us in and resistance can be harmful for person before us or for for ourselves
A challenging question, Baili, and it's not an easy task to walk the line between diplomacy and hypocrisy.. Sometimes, in an effort to be diplomatic, I've strayed too close to being hypocritic. I don't like confrontation, and sometimes I've kept my mouth shut rather than speak up and make the situation more difficult than it already is. Hypocrisy is one of the human traits I hate the most.
That's a good question, but I don't think there is a quick and easy answer. Diplomacy is a good thing, but honesty is the best policy. I think of diplomacy as expressing honesty in the kindest possible way.
Hmm...wondering what prompted this...
ReplyDeleteJust curiosity dear Sandi
Deletei was always asked to " learn some diplomacy girl"
even in beginning years of my marriage hubby used to say same thing
though later he realized that i am special case (i believe) because he stopped saying so
since years i have asked many time to many people that please differentiate both for me
but invain
You ask a very big question here. I think that I could write volumes about it. In a nutshell I would say that you should never compromise your values and insist that others respect yourself and your loved ones. At the same time, treat others with respect and courtesy even when you do not like that the behavior of others.
ReplyDeletedear Brain you almost pour sea in drop
Deletei have read your word carefully thrice and found that i try my best to follow both
so am i diplomat or hypocrite ?
just curious
Oh my, good question! I think it's very easy to betray our true feelings when trying to be diplomatic ! We then become a hypocrite. You really keep us on toes Bali lol, you make us think!
ReplyDeleteDear Laurie hope i did not cause much trouble to my dear friends!
DeleteI am far from perfect person still i find it so hard to wear mask on my real face
some says it is necessary and healthy thing to do
some says it is Wrong
i am one who trying to find one without mask
one not afraid to show his original appearance
one with dare to embrace reality
Deep question, requiring some thought. That is why I am not a politician or very diplomatic.
ReplyDeleteDiplomacy is the thin line between reality and hypocrisy. It is holding back on true feelings allowing the other side to save face and maybe give in a bit to your position.
ReplyDeleteSounds CONVINCING dear Joe !
DeleteDiplomacy is generally thought of as trying to convey an unpleasant truth in the kindest way possible, which is a good thing. Hypocrisy is saying one thing and doing another, which is not a good thing. I believe you are a diplomat, not a hypocrite :)
ReplyDeleteP. S. I tend to walk the thin line between diplomacy and being too blunt with the truth, myself, when I can't find the way to be diplomatic.
ReplyDeleteActually this thin line puzzles me more than two specific definitions dear Jenny!
DeleteAre you wondering what "thin line" means? It means there isn't much separating the two things, and a person can easily go from one to the other without meaning to. I personally do not feel there is a "thin line" between diplomacy and hypocrisy; I wonder if the author meant to say "between diplomacy and lying". If we are trying to be diplomatic we might not tell the whole truth but we try to tell enough so that the other person gets the idea without being hurt too much. If we don't tell enough of the truth, we may actually end up lying instead. Lying is not the same as being a hypocrite, however. Hope this helps! If not, keep asking :)
Deletei really appreciate your effort my dear Jenny!
Deleteyes this bothers me most when i try to be or succeeded to be diplomatic that AM I LYING ?
you will think of me weird ,crazy ,mad ,stupid or so selfish that i don't literally actually want to let down myself that i just lied to someone which is not normal i know because world is not simple straight line and life is not 2+2=4 type thing
sometimes we all have to take shape of angle time put us in and resistance can be harmful for person before us or for for ourselves
It is an excellent question. I tried to but I don’t know if I did.
ReplyDeleteA very good question and one that requires thought … but as I'm having a very lazy and chilled out afternoon I will give it more thought later :)
ReplyDeleteAll the best Jan
When I was younger I would often concede just to avoid an argument. With age I have learned that it is unwise and usually doesn't work.
ReplyDeleteA good question indeed! I believe it's best in may situations to use diplomacy!
ReplyDeleteDiplomats. Computers keep us informed of some crazy stuff in the international world. Hypocrisy vs. Diplomat? Hmmm.
ReplyDeleteVery interesting Baili...very smart food for thought!! :)
ReplyDeleteA challenging question, Baili, and it's not an easy task to walk the line between diplomacy and hypocrisy.. Sometimes, in an effort to be diplomatic, I've strayed too close to being hypocritic. I don't like confrontation, and sometimes I've kept my mouth shut rather than speak up and make the situation more difficult than it already is. Hypocrisy is one of the human traits I hate the most.
ReplyDeleteMost of the times is VERY difficult!
ReplyDeleteI'm told that I'm diplomatic and not a hypocrite - Don't really care for those who are hypocritical.
ReplyDeleteDiplomacy is telling with tact what you think; hypocrisy is not telling what you think (good or bad).
ReplyDeleteHave a nice day !
Anna
I wish I knew the answer to that!
ReplyDeleteThat's a good question, but I don't think there is a quick and easy answer. Diplomacy is a good thing, but honesty is the best policy. I think of diplomacy as expressing honesty in the kindest possible way.
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