Hey Kind Hearts!
Hope and pray that you are Safe , Healthy and Happy and doing wonderful in your magical lives!
As you know that know that ,
Life Is SHORT and UNPREDICTABLE!
My Father's only sister my aunt has died five days ago
She was full of life and inspirational in her attitude of life , Unfortunately her children were not so kind to her but his late husband left many farms for her which's income was enough to support her living!
She was hospitalized for few days but her paralyzed body did not respond to the treatment and after three days struggle her suffering ended gracefully and she headed to the next destination of existence peacefully !
According to her daughter in law who was constantly with her in hospital she surrendered as calmly as she lived !
And during these three days she did not discharged any urine or else which could be hard to take care of for her as she was totally unconscious !
My aunt originally belonged to Kashmir situated in higher part of northern areas.
Her mother (my paternal grandma) was widow and had five children .One son (my father and four daughters).
She was so broken and crushed with the cruelties of in laws .Her Husband left quite large property for her and kids and the main would be owner was her son(my father).
To take over the charge of whole property her in laws wanted her to get married to the brother of her late husband who was totally man of trivial habits .
She was threatened by in laws that if she did not married to brother in law they will kill her son .
To save her son she escaped from home one night and her 3 elder daughters !
She managed to bring her three month old daughter (my aunt) along as she was too young to be left alone!
With broken heart and shivering body she walked with two children for few miles and then got the bus to Khanpur (my native village) from where she travelled further to here Sindh .
She (my grandma) grieved upon the departure of her 3 daughters deeply and died when my father(her son) was hardly four years and my aunt (her daughter) one or two years !
My aunt led life full of grief and saw many ups and down but she was always so vibrant and live !
Her company was such fun and she never let her sorrows take over her cheerfulness! May be she turns her tears in loud laughter and did not let anybody feel that she has huge dark space inside!
For her whole life she missed her departed sisters .She starved for love and relationships and this made her very social !
She always make everyone friend and this was proved on her funeral day as there were so any ladies who knew her by her loving and sweet behavior and always visited each other as they have friendship!
My aunt was so caring and kind to me ! She used to visit me often and stayed with us for few days which was pleasure and peace for me as though my parents were in another city but she was here in village near .
For me she was a "mother like" figure !
When in last year of her life she was getting weaker due to illness and could not visit me i visited to her many times .
The shine of her eyes still warms my heart which i used to see in her eyes when she saw me entering her yard!
I loved her and will be missing her warm loving presence around me! May she rest in peace,amen!
Hope and pray that you are Safe , Healthy and Happy and doing wonderful in your magical lives!
As you know that know that ,
Life Is SHORT and UNPREDICTABLE!
My Father's only sister my aunt has died five days ago
She was full of life and inspirational in her attitude of life , Unfortunately her children were not so kind to her but his late husband left many farms for her which's income was enough to support her living!
She was hospitalized for few days but her paralyzed body did not respond to the treatment and after three days struggle her suffering ended gracefully and she headed to the next destination of existence peacefully !
According to her daughter in law who was constantly with her in hospital she surrendered as calmly as she lived !
And during these three days she did not discharged any urine or else which could be hard to take care of for her as she was totally unconscious !
My aunt originally belonged to Kashmir situated in higher part of northern areas.
Her mother (my paternal grandma) was widow and had five children .One son (my father and four daughters).
She was so broken and crushed with the cruelties of in laws .Her Husband left quite large property for her and kids and the main would be owner was her son(my father).
To take over the charge of whole property her in laws wanted her to get married to the brother of her late husband who was totally man of trivial habits .
She was threatened by in laws that if she did not married to brother in law they will kill her son .
To save her son she escaped from home one night and her 3 elder daughters !
She managed to bring her three month old daughter (my aunt) along as she was too young to be left alone!
With broken heart and shivering body she walked with two children for few miles and then got the bus to Khanpur (my native village) from where she travelled further to here Sindh .
She (my grandma) grieved upon the departure of her 3 daughters deeply and died when my father(her son) was hardly four years and my aunt (her daughter) one or two years !
My aunt led life full of grief and saw many ups and down but she was always so vibrant and live !
Her company was such fun and she never let her sorrows take over her cheerfulness! May be she turns her tears in loud laughter and did not let anybody feel that she has huge dark space inside!
For her whole life she missed her departed sisters .She starved for love and relationships and this made her very social !
She always make everyone friend and this was proved on her funeral day as there were so any ladies who knew her by her loving and sweet behavior and always visited each other as they have friendship!
My aunt was so caring and kind to me ! She used to visit me often and stayed with us for few days which was pleasure and peace for me as though my parents were in another city but she was here in village near .
For me she was a "mother like" figure !
When in last year of her life she was getting weaker due to illness and could not visit me i visited to her many times .
The shine of her eyes still warms my heart which i used to see in her eyes when she saw me entering her yard!
I loved her and will be missing her warm loving presence around me! May she rest in peace,amen!
so sorry that your aunt has departed Baili it seems for you a bright light has gone out, I hope your sadness will be lessened knowing she left this world at peace and has touched so many other people with her charisma during her life. Blessings. Betty
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Betty!
DeleteYes in spite of all odds she tried best to make her existence SUCCESSFUL which we often forget specially while encountering the tough situations
I am so sorry to hear about this. My condolences to you and your family. It sounds like your aunt was an extraordinary woman.
ReplyDeletethan you dear Brain!
Deleteofcourse she was an extraordinary lady as though life remain hard on her but she never gave up her bright side and stayed positive and happy among all around her which is inspiring
married twice and had children whom she loved and brought up with extra love yet they stayed like others to her and followed other relatives more than their own mother ,which is so disoppointing for a mom specially when it comes from her own children
her son proved himself like a CURSE for her throughout life
Sinto imenso a morte de sua tia. Ela levou uma vida de sacrifício e sofrimento com coragem. Que descanse em paz.
ReplyDeleteUma boa semana.
Um beijo.
thank you dear grace!
DeleteYes her life is great example of love and sacrifice which is though not acknowledged by her loved ones but God will repay her with his shower of peace on her soul in heaven
It sounds as if you were a tender loving niece too. It is always good to hear how you share your love for the people around you. Comfort to you and all those who loved your Aunt.
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Linda!
DeleteEither I absolutely adore such brave people who can sprinkle smile by hiding their tears.
Dearest Baili...oh how this sad and moving story made me cry. That such a kind and gracious lady should be threatened and treated so poorly is disgraceful. Why do some inlaws have to be so cruel? I have never understood that.
ReplyDeleteAnd I do so feel for your loss, my dear friend...but as you say, she is now in a better place, where she is safe from suffering...
Sending you healing hugs and much love...xoxoxo
Ah in-laws can be so damaging here sometimes dear ygraine!
DeleteSpecially in rural areas women still are stuck in arrange marriages and joint family system due to which they often bear cruelties of whole family of their husbands.
Thank you so much for kind healing words my friend
Oh Baili, I am so sorry to hear of the death of your aunt. It sounds like she was one to spread joy in spite of what personal struggles and challenges she had to face. May she rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteI'm very sorry.
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Connie!
ReplyDeleteI rarely saw such people who hide all the bitterness inside and spread joy peace and pleasure around them
She used to share her chaos with me sometimes in life and each time I could not stop cry along with her
She many times wished as if I was her daughter whenever I insisted her to stay with me but she was so afraid of her worst Son who did not allow this to her because he used to snatch most of her farms income and wasted in shameful activities
A lovely tribute, Baili, to an exceptional woman! Everyone has a story. Still, not everyone who has suffered such tragedy would have that much love and compassion to offer to others. Your aunt sounds like an amazing woman, an amazing human being. I am glad her death was peaceful, and am sure she is happy at her final destination. Thank you for sharing something so personal, Baili. I know your grief is strong, but I hope your lovely memories of your aunt are even stronger...
ReplyDeleteOh Baili, I am so sorry about your aunt's passing. There are never enough words to share about those we have loved all our lives and are now gone.
ReplyDeleteMy heart aches with yours. I know your pain~
Hugs and Love~
So sorry to hear of your aunt’s passing, Baili. Take care.
ReplyDeleteMay she rest in peace now.
ReplyDeleteThe loss of those we truly love and who loved us is so hard, baili. I'm sorry for your huge loss. I'm glad you had this wonderful aunt in your life and that you were able to bring her joy and comfort in her last years as well. You will always have her memory safe in your heart. Take care, dear friend.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry for your loss. At the same time I hope her new existence is a kinder and more loving one than she experienced here.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to read about your Aunt's passing, this was such a lovely tribute.
ReplyDeleteMay she rest in peace.
My good wishes to you dear Baili
All the best Jan
My deepest condolences to you, Baili, on the passing of your beloved aunt. She is surely at peace now and freed from earthly suffering. You will always have her memory in your heart.
ReplyDeleteMy deepest condolences to you. How wonderful that you were there for your aunt!!!!
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss. She must have been a wonderful woman.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to hear about your Aunt, dear Baili. It sounds like she was a lovely person and that you were very close to her. Thinking of you during this time of sorrow and sending comforting thoughts your way.
ReplyDelete~Sheri
Oh, Baili, I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you lots of hugs xo
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry! Sending you Big Healing Hugs! May your Aunt rest in peace!
ReplyDeleteMy deepest condolences, Baili.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to read of the passing of your precious aunt! I could see by the picture what a joyful heart she had, and in spite of all the difficulties life brought to her as well! I can imagine you will miss her very much! Praying that your memories of her will comfort your heart!
ReplyDeleteMy heart goes out to you and your entire family, dear Bali. My deepest sympathies. She sounds like she was an exceptional lady!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for your loss. May many warm memories of your times together help you through this difficult time.
ReplyDelete"Angels, where you soar Up to God's own light, Take my own lost bird On your hearts tonight; And as grief once more Mounts to heaven and sings, Let my love be heard Whispering in your wings." Alfred Noyes
Dear Baili, I am sorry for the loss of your aunt who was so dear to you. I hope that as you grieve, the memories of her goodness and fortitude will ooze like honey through your heart and mind and spirit and will comfort you. Peace.
ReplyDeleteBaili, feel so sad to know about your antie's demise. RIP. But what you wrote is also very interesting as a short story.In the next post please brief the rest of your father's and all the siblings' life went on to reach a ashore. it was so exciting the part you told us. Nice.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear about this.
ReplyDeleteMy condolences to you and your family
It is sound that your aunt is a great woman.
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Aunt. From your description she was a beautiful lady whose light shone from her soul no matter what difficulties she faced.
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