Sunday, September 30, 2018

Death Of My Aunt

Hey  Kind  Hearts!


Hope  and  pray  that  you  are  Safe , Healthy  and  Happy  and  doing  wonderful   in  your   magical   lives!


As you  know  that  know  that ,

Life  Is  SHORT   and  UNPREDICTABLE!


My  Father's  only  sister   my  aunt  has  died  five   days  ago
  

She  was  full  of  life  and  inspirational  in  her  attitude of  life , Unfortunately  her  children  were  not  so  kind  to  her  but  his  late  husband  left  many  farms for  her  which's  income  was  enough   to  support  her  living!



She  was  hospitalized  for  few  days  but  her  paralyzed  body  did  not  respond   to  the   treatment    and   after  three  days   struggle    her  suffering   ended  gracefully  and  she  headed  to  the  next  destination   of   existence   peacefully !

According  to  her  daughter  in  law  who  was  constantly  with  her  in hospital   she  surrendered   as  calmly  as  she  lived !

And  during  these  three  days  she  did  not  discharged  any  urine  or  else  which  could  be  hard   to  take  care  of  for  her  as  she  was  totally  unconscious !

My  aunt   originally  belonged  to  Kashmir  situated  in  higher  part  of  northern  areas. 

Her  mother  (my  paternal grandma)  was  widow  and  had  five  children .One  son (my  father and  four daughters).

  She  was   so  broken  and  crushed  with  the  cruelties  of  in  laws .Her  Husband  left   quite large  property   for  her  and  kids   and  the  main  would  be  owner  was  her  son(my  father).

To  take  over  the  charge  of  whole  property   her  in  laws  wanted  her  to  get  married  to  the  brother  of  her  late  husband  who  was  totally  man  of   trivial  habits  .

She  was  threatened  by  in  laws  that  if   she  did  not  married  to  brother  in  law   they  will  kill  her  son .

To  save  her  son   she  escaped   from  home  one  night  and  her  3  elder  daughters ! 

She  managed  to  bring  her  three  month  old  daughter (my  aunt)  along   as  she  was  too  young  to  be  left  alone!

With   broken  heart   and  shivering  body   she  walked  with  two   children  for  few  miles  and  then  got  the  bus  to  Khanpur (my  native  village)  from  where   she  travelled  further   to  here  Sindh  .


She  (my  grandma)  grieved  upon  the  departure  of  her  3  daughters   deeply  and  died   when  my  father(her  son)  was  hardly  four  years  and   my  aunt (her  daughter)  one or  two  years !

My  aunt  led  life  full  of  grief   and  saw  many  ups  and  down  but  she  was  always  so  vibrant  and  live !

Her  company  was  such  fun  and  she  never let  her  sorrows   take  over  her  cheerfulness! May  be  she  turns  her  tears  in  loud  laughter  and  did  not   let  anybody  feel   that  she  has  huge  dark  space  inside!

For  her  whole  life  she  missed  her  departed   sisters  .She  starved for   love  and  relationships  and  this  made  her  very  social !

She  always  make  everyone  friend  and  this  was  proved  on  her  funeral  day  as  there  were  so  any  ladies  who  knew   her  by  her  loving  and  sweet  behavior  and  always  visited  each  other  as  they  have  friendship!

My   aunt  was  so  caring  and kind  to  me !  She  used  to  visit  me  often  and  stayed  with  us  for  few  days   which  was  pleasure  and  peace  for  me  as  though  my  parents  were  in  another  city   but she  was  here  in  village near  .

For  me  she  was  a  "mother  like"  figure !

When  in  last  year  of  her  life  she  was  getting  weaker  due  to  illness  and  could  not  visit  me  i  visited  to  her  many  times .

The  shine  of  her  eyes  still  warms  my  heart  which  i  used  to  see  in  her  eyes  when  she  saw  me  entering  her  yard!

I   loved  her  and  will  be  missing  her  warm  loving  presence  around  me!  May  she  rest  in  peace,amen!
  

35 comments:

  1. so sorry that your aunt has departed Baili it seems for you a bright light has gone out, I hope your sadness will be lessened knowing she left this world at peace and has touched so many other people with her charisma during her life. Blessings. Betty

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    1. Thank you dear Betty!

      Yes in spite of all odds she tried best to make her existence SUCCESSFUL which we often forget specially while encountering the tough situations

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  2. I am so sorry to hear about this. My condolences to you and your family. It sounds like your aunt was an extraordinary woman.

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    1. than you dear Brain!

      ofcourse she was an extraordinary lady as though life remain hard on her but she never gave up her bright side and stayed positive and happy among all around her which is inspiring

      married twice and had children whom she loved and brought up with extra love yet they stayed like others to her and followed other relatives more than their own mother ,which is so disoppointing for a mom specially when it comes from her own children
      her son proved himself like a CURSE for her throughout life

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  3. Sinto imenso a morte de sua tia. Ela levou uma vida de sacrifício e sofrimento com coragem. Que descanse em paz.
    Uma boa semana.
    Um beijo.

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    1. thank you dear grace!

      Yes her life is great example of love and sacrifice which is though not acknowledged by her loved ones but God will repay her with his shower of peace on her soul in heaven

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  4. It sounds as if you were a tender loving niece too. It is always good to hear how you share your love for the people around you. Comfort to you and all those who loved your Aunt.

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    1. Thank you dear Linda!

      Either I absolutely adore such brave people who can sprinkle smile by hiding their tears.

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  5. Dearest Baili...oh how this sad and moving story made me cry. That such a kind and gracious lady should be threatened and treated so poorly is disgraceful. Why do some inlaws have to be so cruel? I have never understood that.
    And I do so feel for your loss, my dear friend...but as you say, she is now in a better place, where she is safe from suffering...

    Sending you healing hugs and much love...xoxoxo

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    1. Ah in-laws can be so damaging here sometimes dear ygraine!

      Specially in rural areas women still are stuck in arrange marriages and joint family system due to which they often bear cruelties of whole family of their husbands.

      Thank you so much for kind healing words my friend

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  6. Oh Baili, I am so sorry to hear of the death of your aunt. It sounds like she was one to spread joy in spite of what personal struggles and challenges she had to face. May she rest in peace.

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  7. Thank you dear Connie!

    I rarely saw such people who hide all the bitterness inside and spread joy peace and pleasure around them

    She used to share her chaos with me sometimes in life and each time I could not stop cry along with her

    She many times wished as if I was her daughter whenever I insisted her to stay with me but she was so afraid of her worst Son who did not allow this to her because he used to snatch most of her farms income and wasted in shameful activities

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  8. A lovely tribute, Baili, to an exceptional woman! Everyone has a story. Still, not everyone who has suffered such tragedy would have that much love and compassion to offer to others. Your aunt sounds like an amazing woman, an amazing human being. I am glad her death was peaceful, and am sure she is happy at her final destination. Thank you for sharing something so personal, Baili. I know your grief is strong, but I hope your lovely memories of your aunt are even stronger...

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  9. Oh Baili, I am so sorry about your aunt's passing. There are never enough words to share about those we have loved all our lives and are now gone.
    My heart aches with yours. I know your pain~

    Hugs and Love~

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  10. So sorry to hear of your aunt’s passing, Baili. Take care.

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  11. The loss of those we truly love and who loved us is so hard, baili. I'm sorry for your huge loss. I'm glad you had this wonderful aunt in your life and that you were able to bring her joy and comfort in her last years as well. You will always have her memory safe in your heart. Take care, dear friend.

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  12. I am sorry for your loss. At the same time I hope her new existence is a kinder and more loving one than she experienced here.

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  13. I am so sorry to read about your Aunt's passing, this was such a lovely tribute.
    May she rest in peace.

    My good wishes to you dear Baili

    All the best Jan

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  14. My deepest condolences to you, Baili, on the passing of your beloved aunt. She is surely at peace now and freed from earthly suffering. You will always have her memory in your heart.

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  15. My deepest condolences to you. How wonderful that you were there for your aunt!!!!

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  16. I am so sorry for your loss. She must have been a wonderful woman.

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  17. I'm sorry to hear about your Aunt, dear Baili. It sounds like she was a lovely person and that you were very close to her. Thinking of you during this time of sorrow and sending comforting thoughts your way.

    ~Sheri

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  18. Oh, Baili, I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you lots of hugs xo

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  19. I am so sorry! Sending you Big Healing Hugs! May your Aunt rest in peace!

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  20. I am so sorry to read of the passing of your precious aunt! I could see by the picture what a joyful heart she had, and in spite of all the difficulties life brought to her as well! I can imagine you will miss her very much! Praying that your memories of her will comfort your heart!

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  21. My heart goes out to you and your entire family, dear Bali. My deepest sympathies. She sounds like she was an exceptional lady!

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  22. I'm so sorry for your loss. May many warm memories of your times together help you through this difficult time.

    "Angels, where you soar Up to God's own light, Take my own lost bird On your hearts tonight; And as grief once more Mounts to heaven and sings, Let my love be heard Whispering in your wings." Alfred Noyes

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  23. Dear Baili, I am sorry for the loss of your aunt who was so dear to you. I hope that as you grieve, the memories of her goodness and fortitude will ooze like honey through your heart and mind and spirit and will comfort you. Peace.

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  24. Baili, feel so sad to know about your antie's demise. RIP. But what you wrote is also very interesting as a short story.In the next post please brief the rest of your father's and all the siblings' life went on to reach a ashore. it was so exciting the part you told us. Nice.

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  25. So sorry to hear about this.
    My condolences to you and your family
    It is sound that your aunt is a great woman.

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  26. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Aunt. From your description she was a beautiful lady whose light shone from her soul no matter what difficulties she faced.

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