Sunday, September 10, 2017

Complaint Office ( story ) and (some feelings for friends in trouble in texas and other states)




                    Hello   Dear     Friends!



Hope   and   pray  that   you   are   having   wonderful   time  in   your   lives   inspite   of  all 


 obstacles     in   the  way.  Hope   weather    is    being   less   hard  now   and   life   is   about   to   


settle   back    on   it's   normal   trek .( Hopefully) 




Hope    Fires  are  getting   slow  down  and   environment   of   effected   areas   got   some   relief 


 .My   heartiest   best   wishes  for   all   who  


suffered   and   lost   meanwhile .Nature   has   it's  own   expressions   to   describe   her   moods   


and   behaviors  and   although   man   has   developed    great   command    over   many   things   by   

inventions   and  technology   but  there  are  still   somethings   which   stay   out  of  control  and   

make   men    panic   once   in   a  while  .All   we   can   do   is   caution    to  protect   ourselves  and


keep   praying   for   safety   and  well   being  before  God .







Today   i  am   sharing   about   one   of   my   friend   and   cousin  (from back my native  village).


She   is  little  weird   in   her   attitude  .I  kind   of   grew   along  with   her   though    she   is   ten   


years   elder   than   me . She   belongs   to  a   well   established  (  Financially)  family  and   since   


childhood   got    everything  what   she   wanted .She  was   eldest  of  her  two   siblings   but    


always  so   impatient  ,demanding   and   stubborn .She   never   liked   her    own   toys .Played   for  

 while   and   snatched   from   little   siblings .Her   attitude   raised   with   her   and   she   chose   

man    to    get   married   whom   loved   her   best    friend .   She   did   not   care   about   the   


feelings   of   her   cousin   and   childhood   friend   who  w as  left   heart   broken .



Usually   people   grow  emotionally  and  mentally  along  with   physical    growth   but   shockingly  

her  behavior   did   not   change   with   the   age   and   time.  She   had   man   whom   she   wanted  

and  six   children  3  boys  and  3   girls   along   with   all   worldly   luxury   yet   she   was   


unhappy   ,unsatisfied  and  complainer . 


I   never   saw   such   another   weird   example  .I    had   mixture  of   feelings   for   her  ,anger  


,sympathy   ,concern  and  most   above  PITY  .How   bad   that   she   was   ruthlessly   ruining  her   

life   and   lives   of    people   around   her   including   her   children   who    were   bearing   sick   

abnormal   environment   just    their   mother   was   not   a   NORMAL   person . 


Whenever   i   met   her   i   never   heard   from   her   any   good   about   her   life  ,husband   or   


 children .She    always   keep   complaining   about   everyone  .For   her   husband   she   always   


say   he      doesn't   care   for  me  ,He   is   flert   and   unfaithful . If    she   was   true   in   her   


comments   it   was   most   probably   her   own   behavior   who  forced   him   to  be  like   this   as   


according   to   my   village   friends   she   always   keep   home   in   "fighting " mode  and   remind   

him   that   she   was   the   one   who   chose   him  otherwise   he  was  in  love   with  her   friend.

even  about   her   kids   she   said   "they   all   are   bad  and   selfish   just   like  their   father  etc.



Due   to   her   such   behaviors    relatives   hesitate    to  be   close   to   her   or   to   make  new   


relationships   with   her   grown   up   kids . One   of   her   daughter  who   was  so   precious   and   


pretty   girl   committed   suicide   because   her   cruel   mother   did   not   care   for   her   feelings   


and   forced   her   to   marry   with   boy   who  seemed   impressive   to  her   due   to   his   strong   


economic  status    .Her  daughter    was  in  love   with   her   cousin   who   was   her  fiance   for   two   


years.  She  (weird one)  tied   and   broke  engagements   of  her  all   six   kids  apparently   .His   oldest   son 


 had   fiance   for   more  than  5   years  .All   preparations   were  done   for   wedding   but   


suddenly   she   announced   that   she   will  not   bring   that   girl   as   daughter  in  law   who   did   


not   greet   appropriately   when   encountered  in   some  ceremony. Son    was   same   as   mother 


 and  later   revealed   that   he   developed   his   affair   with   a   girl  whom  he  met  in 


 hospital ( he is male  nurse)


   that  girl   was   only   child  of  rich   family   and   this   mother  and   son   expected   


LOT  from  this  wedding ( dowry system ).  The   poor  girl  who  was  left   behind  died  within  two   years  with 


 unknown   disease .Her   father   had   heart   attack   already .


My   weird    cousin   lives   with   her   husband   who   sleeps   in   separate   room  since   years. 


Unlike   tradition   of  here  her  three   boys   live   separate   and   don't   talk   to  their   mother   


even  on  special   days  .  One   of   her   daughter  is  married  to  a   boy  who  is  in   army 


.Other   the   eldest   girl   is   still   unmarried   and   teaching   in   school .

I   always   feel   sorry   for   her   family   who   paid   for   her   sins .  She   never   appreciated  the   


blessings   that   God   gave   her   or   the   good  that  people   did  to   her .  She   is   


complicated  case  to   solve .I  wasted   lots  of   my   time   and  words  on   her  when   met   


but   what   about   who   lock   themselves  into   a   DARK  ROOM   of   IGNORANCE   and 


 don't   let   any   ray  in  to   enlighten   their   world.




Whatever   we   have  is   not   our   a   DEBT   on  God  from  us    so  he  has   to   give   it 


 back   to   us   anyway  ,   it   is   only   the   GIFT    of   LOVE   from   our  

CREATOR  for   which  THANK  YOU  is   due not   complaint.



Stay   positive  and  never  let   your   faith  shaken  by   tests  that  come  to   reinvent   you   my   friends,love   you  all.


God   Bless  You  All!!! Take  care  please!






  

68 comments:

  1. What a sad lady you cousin seems, Baili.

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    1. How weird that all sadness is produced by herself only

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  2. Some people are like a hurricane.

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  3. Every family seems to have a weird cousin. You must be very proud of your life and your faithfulness to God.

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    1. I totally agree with you my friend.

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  4. It is hard to understand some of our family members sometimes!

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    1. So true dear Marie!

      But sometimes we understand them and feel stuck because every effort for pulling them out of misery drag them more into it sadly

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  5. Baili, it is very sad about your cousin. Most everyone probably has at least one family member (if they are honest) that loves "drama" which they have to make continually. It's like they feed on it. I knew a woman like that once and when everyone stopped feeding into her drama, she died. Honestly, what a sad life she must have had. I myself have a sister who hasn't spoken to me in 3 years now but she thinks it is I who haven't spoken to her. She has to make it about me hurting her when in fact she hurt herself by her actions. I was very sick one weekend and she just happened to be at a golf tournament nearby and called to come visit but I told her I was too sick to have company and she got angry and hung up on my husband when he took the phone from me to explain to her that I was really sick. Now she makes nasty comments on facebook about me "still not talking to her". Well, in fact, we never did talk like sisters should. The only contact we had was once a year when she came to visit on her vacation. So, in essence, I was used for her free vacations but I didn't mind. So there you have it, we all have crosses to bear, as they say. She is mine I guess...because she will never understand that she is the one who has the problem, not me. I am happy without her drama for a week every year.
    Well, I hope I haven't overstepped with my lengthy comment. You did say this was the "complaint department." Enjoy your day dear friend.

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    1. Oh my dear Carol that is really really horrible about your sister 's behaviour. I feel sorry for people who create drama to satisfy their some kind of sick instinct.

      You said that almost every family has one member whuch suffer such mental disorder (that is it what i think) so do i my friend. And trust me it is not pleasant experience when such people are around.

      I am at peace to hear that you are wise enough to stay away from such mess and understand totally that it is she who lost a precious "you"

      I am honoured by your honest sharing my dear friend and you are always well come to share your heart as to me this is true meaning of blogging

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  6. This is a terribly sad story. There are people in this world who are destructive to themselves and to people who are around them. Such people exist i n every country and have been around since the beginning of time. It seems that words will not change them.

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  7. As you said, it is most sad that this person's attitude has caused her whole family to suffer. Why can people not see what they are doing? It must be hard to watch and not be able to help. And you're right, we need to have a thankful heart for all we are given. Have a good week, baili!

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    1. My village is consist of hardly 100 houses in which people live who belong to few families basically Jenny and in whole village her family is kind of badly damaged due to her miserable attitude.

      You are right my friend it is painful to see someone in family destroying herself and feel unable to help.

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  8. That is a sad story Baili, but probably more common than we think. Lots of people have too much self-entitlement...like the world owes them everything. I knew someone like that and she was very difficult to like and eventually I dropped her as a friend. It's hard to constantly hear someone complain and be negative and not show gratitude for what they have. If that weird woman was suddenly put into the situation of many people who are poverty-stricken and living in danger...I wonder if her attitude would change?

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    1. Dear Rain this is great that you tried your best to lift your friend up from this panic level and at the end realized that she does't accepting your generosity and broke up with her ,what else one can do more then this.

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  9. How sad that your cousin felt so bad about herself and felt the need to try to make everyone around her feel just as bad. It shows that my mood has a profound effect on those I care about. A good mood makes a better life for our loved ones.

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    1. Dear Emma you are perfectly correct that the mood of a mother effects the whole family and relationships and that is why i try to stay positive and happy and i experienced and observed that by doing so things get better and better between husband and wife and children and parents

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  10. I am so sorry to hear this, Baili. Sending you much love and warm hugs.

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  11. That is a story I have often heard one person can cause peace or havoc in a family sad but happens often.
    Merle........

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  12. Thank you for relaying this unfortunate story. Isn't it wonder it happens here too?
    Bless you.

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  13. Faith, if it's strong, resists all tests.
    No matter how hard they may be.
    Have a wonderfull week.

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  14. It makes me so sad to hear that you have such a troubling relative in your life. She seems to have made chaos out of her life with her husband and children. I've had that just recently in my family. I have to look away-all of my attempts at making the anger heal so that we can be family again have been shunned by this person. I can't do any more so I, too, the other way and thank God for the good people I have in my life.

    I hope all works out for you Baili. You are a smart, warm and a lovely person. Look the other way and find the light in all the good you have!!!

    Jane

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    1. Thank you so much for this concern and affection dear blondie!!!

      How bad that you too had such miserable person around you my friend!

      but glad that you did what you could and do not bother yourself with her distraction anymore.
      that is what i have done ,keep distance after all my attempts to calm her down and to lighten up her attitude towards life but unfortunately she is one of those who put on certain glass to look at the world and never ever let anyone to make them clean their mess.

      i am honoured with your loving warm words for me my friend ,i must say you are so kind and generous in your expressions .God Bless You More Dear!

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  15. Hugs, Baili. Wherever you go in life. there's always this one relative who isn't content.

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    1. Thank you my friend!

      now i am learning that such people exist almost everywhere

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  16. Há pessoas assim em cada família. Descontentes com tudo porque não estão bem com elas mesmas...
    Uma excelente semana e tudo de bom para si.
    Beijos.

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  17. What a sad story. Some people go through life never being happy and bringing unhappiness to others. I feel sorry for them and everyone in their path.

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    1. So true dear Martha!
      they make their families suffer through their sick attitude and worse behaviors

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  18. How very sad but something we see more often than not. Some are never satisfied and sadly, it's best to give up trying to make them happy. They don't realize we all have a 'God-shaped hole' inside of us that only HE can fill. Thank you for sharing your story!

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    1. Thank you my friend!
      i too believe that we all have given desires but are test to our patience and dignity

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  19. Thank you for sharing your story about your cousin, Baili. It's sad to hear, and sometimes all we can do for loved ones is pray, which is the most powerful of all. And always remain kind and have compassion because we never really know the whole story of the ones we love.

    I heard one time that grateful people are the happiest people, and I think this is true. Thank you for being a grateful person, Baili, and I want to thank you for your prayers for Nel. I haven't heard from her yet, but hopefully the storm coming her way will have lessened some and not be too bad.

    ~Sheri

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    1. Thank you dear Sherie!

      how beautiful words you said here about "pray" that "pray is most powerful of all" this is what i too believe my dear friend that true deep connection with our God gives our pray more power to be answered .
      I am praying for your dear daughter that May you hear soon about her well being amen.

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  20. You have been so forthright in sharing this story of your cousin, Baili, and how her actions have affected her family and others. I agree with previous comments that it is such a sad situation and within my own family, we also had a separation for many years and, in part, some of it was due to some actions of my late mother. While I loved her and miss her greatly, I can see now that some matters could have either been handled differently or perhaps because of my own mother's outlook and upbringing she had her opinions. Thankfully, my family has seemed to come together more in the past 2 years and it makes me sad to think that it's due to my mother's death.
    I hope that your cousin will one day come to her senses and realize that life is far too short to cause such division in a family.

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    1. Thank you dear Beatrice for sharing your touching experience ,i truly appreciate and feel blessed that you shared your heart with me!

      Even i have a huge example in my life here after marriage .after marriage i lived with her for 16 years which are totally unforgettable due to the mental pain and terror she caused to me and my only fault was to stand against her negative preachings she used to do front of her grown up kids,poisn them against each other and teasing them to hate each other rather than loving .
      It was shocking and frightening for me and i was horrified by her attitude because the value of a Mother in the life of children is most important and she is source of character building for her kids .Later i knew that she used to live with her uncle ans aunt as she was an orphan and beard lots of miseries which turn her into kind of monster but still i believe that if a person has seeds of GOODNESS inside and connection to God no worse can turn him into evil

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  21. It is sad when people don't appreciate the lovely gifts they are given in life. I think we all know people like this, unfortunately. They hold up a mirror in life for all of us to look at.....a good reminder to count our blessings. I feel sad for her family and the sorrows they must overcome. I have lived through a life with someone like this as a child, but I learned first-hand to appreciate life's blessings through that adversity. Sometimes God presents us with these obstacles in life for learning......Bless her children - thank you for sharing. Hugs xo Karen

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    1. I agree Dear Karen!

      Such impatient and weird people are mirror to us as wise learn more from fool than another wise

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  22. Some people do not count their blessings. Some never feel satisfied with what God bestowed on them. It is unfortunate.

    Be well.

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  23. I try to appreciate whatever I can.

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    1. that is best what we can do in return of all that Lord has bestowed on us John!

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  24. " it is only the GIFT of LOVE from our
    CREATOR for which THANK YOU is due not complaint."

    so so true!
    sending much love to you, baili!

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  25. Happiness truly come from within. All the luxuries in this world cannot buy happiness. Your story about your cousin is proof of that.

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    1. Thank you dear Carola!

      I wish people can understand that "happiness is a sense that belongs to their attitude towards life"

      If they put conditions for being happy then there is no end for this
      and if they decide to be happy, they can be happy with even nothing in hand because they still have hands to pay gratitude

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  26. Sorry to read of such an unhappy situation, sometimes we can't help and it is hard to stand by and see things unfold but you have shown kindness and tried your best.

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    1. Thank you my friend!
      i put lots of effort in each meeting we had but what if one shutter down his senses for sensibility

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  27. You have shared a very very sad story Baili, and the sadness of it is, that it doesn't have to be! If only she would understand how blessed she is, what a difference could be made in her life, but like you said, words don't touch her heart, nothing does. All one can do is pray that the Lord would change her, if He can. There is some in every family, I do believe. My husband had an aunt who treated her children and husband much like your cousin and she lived a very unhappy life, and it caused great scars in the lives of her children. I will pray that the Lord will give you grace, wisdom and knowledge in how to deal with this cousin, and for her poor children. I always appreciate and enjoy your writings, dear friend!

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    1. Thank you dear Marilyn!

      I am sorry that you too have seen such miserable person in the family of your husband .
      Actually God can do change her but God has put condition front of us for this through his message that
      " He will Listen You When You Will Call Him" some people though apparently obey God in their worldly obligations to show the wold that they are so religious but i observed that many of them do not even think if there is any God (God Forgive me to say this) deep inside they have no faith and faith less soul shallow and torn with no peace my friend .How can they call God for showing them path if they have no faith in him

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  28. You cousin is living a miserable life and actually feeling sorry for her. There is no fun to be around people like your cousin.

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  29. Wow....your cousin, though you love her picked the life she wanted to live, and left others behind. You could suck it up and be there for her in which she will bring her worries to your life. Or you could except that she is a negative force in your life and it is best to live your life without her worries. Sorry for all of that.

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    1. I did both dear pam .

      I left her with her weirdness alone after trying my best to get out of this darkness

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  30. misery loves company - sadness does as well!! i always keep a light relationship with sad people and try to surround myself with happy people!!

    happiness is a choice, i know that first hand!!

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    1. Wonderful way of thinking dear Debbie!

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  31. Ohhh this is such a sad, sad story! I could well understand also feeling sorry for the instigator as well in a way. She doesn't realise life could be so much better and more pleasant.

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    1. well said my friend that life can be so peaceful and beautiful if they get rid of their negativity and complexes

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  32. A very sad story! True happiness comes from your soul!

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  33. Thank you, Baili, for your prayer for Nel. I appreciate that very much. I'm so glad she's ok, as those storms can get fierce with much damage to the areas. Once it hit her area, the rain and winds started to lessen.

    ~Sheri

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    1. Dear sheri it is great news that storm is getting slower by the time and i hope it will be ended soon by the grace of God .
      I am so happy that your precious daughter and her husband are safe .May they be blessed with more peace my friend,amen

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  34. A very sad situation with your cousin Baili. She sounds such a bitter person. I have often heard that these individuals feel so bad about themselves, they strive to make others feel worse than they do. Such a toxic attitude is ruinous to anyone's peace of mind who comes into contact with her, and I feel very sorry for her husband and children. She will go through life with everyone avoiding her, so sad.

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    1. Dear Denise you are so right about the psychology of such people .They suffer with weird complex of inferiority and self pity which they want to pour in each mind they meet.

      Biggest problem of them that they always seek atten of others and can go far worse to get it

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  35. Such personalities are there to spoil the lives of people around.They are blind towards positives which they are blessed with and eye only the darker shades.Well explained her mood.

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    1. Thank you my friend,

      I totally agree with what you have said about such disastrous people

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  36. I'm sorry to hear about your cousin. A good reminder to be thankful and happy with our blessings.

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  37. Such sad story, Baili. It's unfortunate how much havoc one unhappy person can cause. Especially sad is her daughter's suicide. Take care my friend!

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  38. Oh dear, what a sad story. I do think many here may have experienced people who go through life never being happy and bringing unhappiness to others.
    It is important for us to keep smiling and bring as much happiness as we can to our family and friends.

    Take Care

    All the best Jan

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    1. People with no faith cannot be able to have peace in their heart and their restlessness and complexes be the disaster for who around them

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