Hello Sweet Friends!
Hope and pray that all of you are treating yourself with respect and kindness that comes with contentment that you have for what you are !!! and what you are capable to as a person in " well balanced" life.
Actually i want to explain about art work of my sister that i have posted in my previous post as one of my friend asked me that,
" does my sister know that i have her art work"
As i mentioned in my previous post that because of my eldest brother's negative attitude i brought my younger sister with me after my marriage with the permission of my mother (which was a tough job) .
Here she styed with me and my husband for almost four years and completed her high school education.
During stay she brought her lots of art work with her from village to my house .Though she in her free times made some more paintings and sculptures but her art that belonged to our school life in native village was more special to me .
When she left after education for village she forgot to collect it from our house but still it mattered for her. But when after two years she visited me she was not same young lady with artistic attitude . She was more practical with realistic approach towards life .
Now she was on semi govt job living in capital city with mom seemed to re explore her hidden talents and skills . According to her she was about to change her "class" " in which i don't even believe or care about"
That was time when she hated her simple past with middle class background .She wanted to disowned everything which reminded her that there were times when she had less in life . Past seemed to her nothing but an embarrassment .
She left her art work with her own will in my house . God blessed her with a life that she dreamt for and i am so Happy for her but somehow i lost my "old sister" and it hurts a lot !
I am proud of my roots from where i took start. I love fact that my father was a watch maker I consider those memories treasure when we were "together" . we both sister pushed each other that no no you but i will sit closer to my mom and i will press her shoulders to comfort her.
I am proud of my mother who beard hard times just to make us educated
I never ever measure the joy of my life with the scale of material . Material is here to make life easier not miserable . We give material an "importance when we use it .
Our lives don't upgrade with material because it is "we who are important not "material" It is for us , we are not for it so how can we look down to ourself because of this inappropriate thing .
Moments and relationships that we have right now are MOST PRECIOUS! ,MOST BEAUTIFUL! , MOST IMPORTANT!
Money can make you surround by cheesy people but can not bring close to not Real loved ones!
In my opinion class does not exist . If it does , then it is on the base of CHARACTER and VIRTUES which are far ABOVE than material as former can be earned with highest morality and life long dignity but later can be earned even at the cost of one's self respect.
My sister knows that i have a blog but she never told me that she read it sometime .If she will know i posted her art work she will be happy but she will annoy a lot if know that i told you that i did not born with spoon of gold in my mouth :)
Take great care my friend!
hope weather stay friendly as news are not pleasant ,people living near stormy areas are in my thoughts and prays!
God Bless You All!!!!!....................................................
Your attitude is perfect. Material things do not define who we are. Hopefully your sister will figure that out someday.
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Kathy!
Deletei pity on people who suffer with inferiority complex when have less in life though that less is serving them better at the moment .
Such people give importance to the opinion of other people rather than what they think of themselves .And you know that you cannot satisfy the crowd around you at any cost . They play with you and you let them
I agree with you, Baili. Be proud of your roots, the history, culture, people and circumstances from when you came. They make us who we are and that makes the world so interesting.
ReplyDeleteMoney means nothing if you don't have family in your life.
Thank you dear Marie!
Deleteyou are right , money can bring stuff in your life but not loyal people who love you form the bottom of your heart
This is a great post.
ReplyDeleteMaterial goods do not bring happiness. I know of so many people who have so much yet are miserable. Of course, there is a basic level of wealth, that one needs to assure food, shelter, medical care, etc. that I think is necessary for life to be fulfilling.
Have a great week!
Thank you Brain!
DeleteWhat bothers me is increasing sense of insecurity among people who think "stuff" gives them recognition.
Unlike before luxury is counted in basic needs now not just because we need but because we have to show others that we have
I am sorry you and your sister are no longer able to be together. My sisters both live far away from me too. I miss them.
ReplyDeleteDear Emma!
ReplyDeleteIt is first time that we are not able to see each other for 3 years .
Hope these summers will be congenial
I think it is wonderful that you are proud of your sister and her art work. It can be heard to go so long without seeing our family and sharing about them can make them feel a little closer. :)
ReplyDelete~Jess
Material things do not bring happiness.
ReplyDeleteLike Jess above I think it is wonderful that you are proud of your sister and her art work, which I did enjoy seeing on your previous post.
Take care my blogging friend.
All the best Jan
Excellent post (as always)!Thank you very much :)
ReplyDeleteMy heart aches for you, baili. But you have the right attitude toward it all - our character is what counts, and yet she is still your sister and you accept her as she is. It takes a big heart to do that. Hugs, my friend.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry you can no longer be close to your sister that she has changed. Family is so important, maybe one day she will see that.
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ReplyDeleteI really like your attitude, dear friend! Material things or life events do not define us.
ReplyDelete"That was time when she hated her simple past with middle class background .She wanted to disowned everything which reminded her that there were times when she had less in life . Past seemed to her nothing but an embarrassment ."
ReplyDeleteOh, to be a Princess! :)
"God blessed her with a life that she dreamt for and i am so Happy for her but somehow i lost my "old sister" and it hurts a lot !"
I'm glad things worked out for her. I hope you didn't really lose your old sister...hopefully, she is still in there. :)
I agree with you, the material things are just things.
Dear Sandi!
DeleteBy "old" I mean though we meet more or less but she is not same loving little sister anymore.
Her attitude, accent and topics are changed.
I don't feel at same level of "ease"when we talk to each other .no more heart sharing like sisters my friend!
Thank you for sharing this post, Baili. I wish you and your sister the best. It is a pitty that she is not near to you any more. Family always comes first for me. And I agree with you, my friend. Virtue is above, not the materials. Have a nice week!
ReplyDeleteThank you for this insight into you. Accept my sympathy about your situation. I believe we should listen truly to our"self". We should keep our hearts open.
ReplyDeleteBless you
You have to pursue happiness.
ReplyDeleteSometimes that pursuit takes us very, very fara.
In my case, from Portugal to Macau.
Have a great week
You are so right Pedro!
DeleteHope you found what you walked for !
I agree with you. Material things do not bring happiness. I grew up in a poor home with immigrant parents. I am very proud of them and my roots. They worked hard and they struggled and made a better life for us. I have cousins and friends who are ashamed of their poor and humble upbringing. It's quite sad. But I love them all, anyway. They have a different perspective but they're still good people.
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Martha!
DeleteI too respect and adore not only my parents but all those people who walk slow and steadily towards their goals and achieve them with subtlety and without compromising on their honesty and mdesty.
They chose harder path though but as God is always stands with is on right side so finally they they make their dreams come true .without harming any one.
Either I love my precious sister because having different opinion doesn't mean we don't have love for each other or we don't respect each other's opinions
You are a wise lady I am with you You need money to live but you don't live for the money. There are far more important things in life.
ReplyDeleteIt's good you still have those pieces of art in your house so you can treasure them - perhaps when your sister is older she will realise how important they are and be thankful you kept them!
ReplyDeleteSometimes people change a little with new life experiences, but deep down she is still your sister. Family ties are important and can't be overlooked :)
Hope you had a great weekend :)
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Thank you so much mica!
DeleteYou words brought light of hope in my heart
A fantastic post - your attitude is perfect Baili!
ReplyDeleteOh thank you so much for sharing this insight into your life.
ReplyDeleteI do so feel for you. I totally understand how difficult it can be to overcome the disapproval of some family members. I know...I have been there!
At the end of the day I think all you can do at those times is follow your heart.
Material things are just that...things.
Love is all that matters.:)
A Hug xoxoxo
You are a wise woman, Baili, and have your priorities in order.
ReplyDeleteYour family is very lucky to have you.
Hi Baili! :)) We have the same opinions! I used to lead a materialistic life because I was ashamed of my upbringing. But it was for different reasons, it was an abusive upbringing and I couldn't bring myself to find anything good about it. But once I was able to forgive in my heart, the material stuff just didn't matter to me anymore because it didn't fill the void I was seeking.
ReplyDeleteWhat filled the void was Alex mainly. He loves me, I love him and we are perfect soul mates! :) Our pets too, they fill my heart. Even if we lost all of our possessions tomorrow, my heart would still be full because love is what matters the most! :) Hugs! xx
Thank you Dear Rain!
Deletefor sharing your heart with me .
i am so sorry that you had some aching memories from your childhood .I know that good or bad childhood memories stick to our mind forever .
Forgiving is first step towards feeling "At PEACE!" and i am glad that you forgave all who made you suffer , so did i my friend and felt Lot better after releasing the anger and hatter from my heart .
I believe that the perfect soulmate you got because you have a heart of Gold!!! you deserved him and he deserved you dear Rain and i know the healing that comes with love of your life partner nothing can replace it ever
What a beautiful post about your sister Baili. She was very blessed to have you as her sister, to take her in, to love her and support her. Someday maybe she will realize the blessings in her life, and come back to be your sister again in spirit. Her art is beautiful, and it is wonderful that you have kept it for her. I enjoyed your sharing of this memory today, and will pray with you for a restored relationship with your sister :) My family is doing fine in all the hurricane weather so far, thanks for your prayers and concern, it is a terrible storm, and not over yet. Praying for their continued safety :) Hugs to you today dear friend!
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Marilyn!
Deleteno matter how much she has changed but still no one can snatch away the precious and beautiful memories of the times we spent together and this matters most for me .
i believe in deep her heart she knos it very well how much i have loved her ,how much i have cared about her and how much i do until now .
It is obvious that when you love someone you remember it by good times that you had together and i have so many to recall.
You ,your family and all people living in your area are deeply in my thoughts and prayers my friend and i wish and pray that may storm pass without hurting anyone ,amen
This was a bittersweet post, Baili, and it's clear to see that you love and miss your sister. Sadly, people think that material things will bring happiness, and unfortunately that happens to many at one time or another. We see it every day with things like cell phones, when people want the largest and newest item. I once had a coffee mug that read: we must learn to like things and love people . . .and I have always remembered that little saying.
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Beatrice!
DeleteI saw people changing with their financial positions and it was shockingly surprising and painful because you cannot accept it when it comes from your own blood .
This is beautiful saying and i act accordingly by the grace of God ,it is actual way to live i believe
Olá, sua auto estima é importante, causa-lhe orgulho da sua origem, quando assim é, os sentimento são enorme, concordo! o caracter e a virtude é o mais importante de que principalmente os bens materiais.
ReplyDeleteAS fotos são excelentes, continuação de feliz semana,
AG
Bonjour,
ReplyDeleteMerci pour votre petit message...
J'ai fait un petit retour en arrière afin d'admirer les dessins de votre soeur. J'ai beaucoup aimé. Il serait bon qu'elle n'abandonne pas ! Il est tellement bon de pouvoir s'exprimer par le dessin, la couleur...
Vos mots généreux sont magnifiques. Merci pour ce délicieux billet.
Gros bisous
E importante, Baili, gostar das suas raÃzes. O lado material das coisas é o que menos importa. Gostei do que contou da sua irmã. Nem sempre é fácil o relacionamento mas o que importa é que sejam amigas e que ela reconheça o seu valor moral...
ReplyDeleteUma boa semana.
Beijos.
you have the right attitude!
ReplyDeleteYou are a very wise, beautiful woman! Big Hugs!
ReplyDeleteI agree, Baili: It's not what you have, but who you are that counts. I hope your sister comes to realize what a rich past she has. It has always fascinated me how differently people can respond to the same circumstances. Some people are resilient, and some seem to have holes in their souls that can never be filled. Sending you a big hug, my wise friend!
ReplyDeleteI am happy to read about your sister and her talents, her drawings are beautiful.
ReplyDeleteYes, the most important things in life are not the materialisthics ones.
Ida