Friday, January 17, 2020

Misplaced May Be



We  all  born  in  different  circumstances  and  belong  to  different  background .

We  inevitably  inherit  genes  from  our  ancestors .

Our  parents  nurture us  with  their  love  and  resource. Their  influence   becomes  great  part  of  our  personality.

But  not  everyone  is  brought  up by parents  in  this  world.Many  kids  grow  without   biological  parents  or  under  the  care  of  guardian. They  grow  bit  differently  yet  with  same  human  nature  that  always  long and try   for  better  in  life.

As  adults  we  try  to  pursue  our  dreams  through  struggles.Sooner   or  later  we  get  success  too.

Normally  we  the  common  people  feel  content  once  settle  in  life.

Still   there  are  people  who  though  achieve  so  much  in  life  but  think  "there is  something  missing" or  "it  is  not  what  they  meant  to  be"
Or
"There  is  Need  to  do  something  to  feel  CONTENT"

Did  you ever  felt  in  your  life that   you  were  meant  to  be  something  else ?


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  1. Some days I think I would have liked a different journey, some days I am happy where I am. No easy answer :-)
    Amalia
    xo

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  2. While growing we dream to be someone we are inspured
    Though circumstances lead us to different destination dear Amalia

    Latter may be we have all that one need to feel serne still our childhood dreams chase us
    I had dream to be a career woman life turned me into a housewife and mother
    Believe me i think my previous dream was may be result of economical crisis i lived through because i feel so full and complete in my present occupation as wife and mother otherwise there i might have an emptiness within my soul instead of contentment and serenity

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  3. A big question.

    I remember being in college, sitting in my dorm room and looking about the window, thinking, "Is this it?" Get an education, get a good job, buy new dishes and put them in a house and then buy more things. No, it was not enough. The world all around me said this is what you do. It said you make your own way. It said you are the god of your own life. It was lying to me. There is so much more.

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    1. i think the "feel" you pointed about is problem of people (like me either) who live by soul more than mere a body

      certain ways adopted by all astonish them and fill them with query that "are we living the life the way it meant to live" ?

      they feel hard to convince themselves to be fit in stereotypes
      for them it is like trying to swim against flow ,flow of their own Nature

      what is important to understand is that do we make our "EXISTENCE SUCCESSFUL" no matter which way we choose to live by ?

      are we living harmlessly with harmony to other creatures ,learning constantly for better and improving as person ?
      if yes life is not wasted believe me ,i learnt about wanderers who spent their lives in exploring planet and people ,their desire for learning more kept them out of traditional life style ,they wrote books which inspired lives of so many for better
      i believe their lives were not wasted at all because they succeeded to contribute in the goodness of others

      i think there are so many people who cannot live the way they want to ,life makes them do different things ,may some of them can go under timely depression or anger which can make them harsh and for others which can complicate their lives ,only those who can realize what are they going through ,can get out of such psychological problem ,i think self pity is most dangerous thing which can turn a human into monster not just for others around but first of all for himself
      once you break this spell ,you are out to feel normal and focus what is before you ,and when one is focused what if right front of him ,he can deal with it with all his positive strength

      while knowing that life and universe is such a BIG THING and there is so much to do
      we can still find pleasure within our space that life has for us to be part of big thing is so important that all little tools are working well :)

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    2. That is beautiful, Baili. 😊

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  4. I haven’t felt like that but I didn’t enjoy my work for the last few years before retirement. I kept going because I knew retirement was on the horizon. It wasn’t the job which was bad but the circumstances. I was fortunate to have enjoyed so much of my career.

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    1. your positivism is admirable dear Marie

      things that we cannot not change are never not to lament upon but to face and find way out
      i truly believe that all challenges that life brings front of us to make us struggle to explore strength which is already installed with all of us and just need to be look for and this is what difficulties make us to do :)

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  5. Great question Baili. You bring up so many mentally stimulating issues.

    I was never big on regrets. With that, I understand that had I been more focused when I was younger that I would probably had achieved things that were more fulfilling later in life.

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    1. i think it is normal feeling that we all deal with as we grow older dear Brain

      our attitude is totally different when we are young so our focus is on different things and our energies are spent on directions which we later find were not to worth walk for mostly

      physical changes slowly put influence on our way of thinking and we start to be more practical and long for things that are more meaningful
      i can share your feelings about doing better in past when i think about my studies ,i never did hard work and for this i used to blame that unrest present in my parents relationship which i realize was just an excuse

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  6. There are times when I wonder what it would have been like if I'd made different decisions. But that doesn't change anything. The past cannot be re-written. I am who I am and where I am. I try to focus on the present and seek the joy from the journey I'm on. I'm not one to spend too much time in the past, aside from reminiscing about the wonderful memories I have.

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    1. i agree dear Martha

      only good memories are worth to keep in heart :) bad memories are lessons to learn from and do better in future

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  7. Dearest Baili...all my life I have felt I am not good enough. Whatever I achieved, I still felt inferior to everyone else. I think my childhood years maybe have a bearing on this attitude...as my mother treated me quite harshly and always told me she never wanted me. But, now, in later adulthood...I have come to understand that everything that has happened in my life has been for a reason...lessons to be learned. I now believe I am exactly where I was meant to be...and that knowledge brings a kind of quiet contentment!:))
    Oh thank you so much for this brilliant and thought-provoking post, my dear friend. It has reminded me to always look for the bigger picture...

    Have a wonderful weekend!

    Much Love & Hugs xxxxxxx

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    1. your words about your mom's behavior made my eyes teary dear Ygraine!!!

      i find it hard to think of mom who can be harsh on her own precious daughter (sorry for being emotional)
      such negativity and negligence can destroy personality of child Ygraine
      but what i see a wonderful strong person with beautiful soul in you
      how blessed you are to rise from such hard times and become such inspiring lady :)
      you were lucky to fight for establishing yourself on meaningful grounds and i believe that for this victory lord has rewarded you with such loving family:)
      hats off to you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  8. Good post on life, I never feel that I was meant to be something else, I wonder if I am content?

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    1. this is great dear Christine that you were free to make choice and are happy to do so and to reap it's fruit

      being content is state i think when we feel that we are happy with all we have
      but still struggle to prgress never ends as this is life ll about

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  9. I felt that way as an adolescent. I knew the life I was "supposed" to prepare myself for as a traditional wife and mother was not the life for me. I have not felt that way since because I have been walking my true path since then and have lived the life I wanted.

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    1. you chose different path dear Debra and it was newly discovered when you did this so i can see how courageous you were and are :)))

      what matter is most that you don't regret and are satisfied ,how many of us do so i wonder ,last day i was watching a drama in which a young man bears so so much to gain his love of his life
      but after few years he regrets about his decision ,i wonder about people who slip easily from track or not stable in their visions and decisions

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  10. Well, I thought I should be a millionaire!!!

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    1. dear Red believe i have strong doubts about your "should be"

      i think we all get what we ACTUALLY WANT and ACTUALLY STRUGGLE FOR

      if there are obstacles we try to find way to cross them with full strength ,and if there is failure ahead it means two things
      one that deep inside we did not want it so attempt we made was not supported by FULL STRENGTH
      or destiny (will of God) has better plan for you and believe me or not being millionaire is not best for all :)
      your bit tough yet magnificently done past and beautiful life and family is proof :)

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  11. I am very content in my life most of the time - being a wife and mother was the most important thing to me and I was lucky to have that. I'm also lucky to have work I enjoy and hobbies too. I feel very fortunate. Many people are never content no matter what they have, because (I feel) they are running after the wrong things. Other people, due to circumstances beyond their control, never achieve their dreams no matter how hard they work. I know how lucky I am and still it is good to be reminded of it now and then :)

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    1. the contentment you have is rare and biggest blessing dear Jenny!

      i think such satisfaction comes when you are quite clear what you need to do in life and what you truly want to have as human ,specially a woman
      mostly we women are confused between family and career and this makes life complicated
      you were lucky to have both my friend ,so i think there is no place for any regret remains behind :)
      i agree about people who never feel at peace and always worry about something ,most of them you will find within upper class
      abundance of life supplies and so much freedom of choices makes their life miserable
      they think they are missing some more fun which can be done with resources they have ,it causes mental illness which they never be aware off i think
      no matter where we belong key to peace of mind is BALANCE IN OUR ATTITUDE but we hardly do so

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  12. Sometimes the most "successful" people are miserable because no matter how hard they try they are never "successful" enough. For the most part I am satisfied with not being particularly special, or "successful." Perhaps that makes me successful.

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    1. your wise words remind me of story that i read in my school days dear Joe !

      where a treasure hunters learns at the end that gold that he discovered could not give him what was most important "true peace of mind"

      i wonder how many of us are fortunate to learn this secret of happiness

      i belonged to lower middle class family with hand to mouth situation but what kept me with certain feeling of (being rich) was that i knew even then that money cannot guarantee "TRUE HAPPINESS" and i wanted true happiness in life only whether it comes by staying low profile life style and unknown or helping worst enemies :)
      i can see how you knew from beginning that what does TRUE SUCCESS MEANS ?:)

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  13. You asked "Did you ever felt in your life that you were meant to be something else ?"

    My answer is no …

    Through the many twists and turns that life provides, I am thankful for every day.

    Enjoy your weekend dear Baili.

    All the best Jan

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    1. twists and turns are to complete our journey and to make us grow more indeed and once we understand their value in our life we are satisfied dear Jan :)

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  14. As an adopted person with adopted children I'm very aware of the power of nature over nurture. I spend every day thinking I should be doing something else!

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    1. i felt so much respect for your amazing understanding for life my friend!

      when we surrender before the laws of nature or comprehend how nature chose us to grow within different and unusual circumstances ,i think we feel more special and responsible to face things that are not for everyone else normally
      i believe nature takes an extraordinary work by our extraordinary skills of survival

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  15. My answer to that question used to be a joking RICH. But in seriousness I was meant to be a mother. It is what I always wanted to be. My life has been fulfilled.

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    1. dear Emma i think your appreciation for "being mom" is so beautiful and worth praise

      i believe that most rich people are mother who are blessed with ability to "create" and to "bring" new life
      no other wealth or art can surpass this creativity i think
      i fear of days now when i used to think i will not get married ever
      i think it was not true call of my soul and my lord understood it and gave me opportunity to became mother
      as there is nothing else to be happy about :)so true my friend!

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  16. This is a really great question! Lately I've been feeling that I should be doing something else, but I'e been taking steps to make those dreams happen, but I sort of wish I would have been smart enough to do it when I was younger.(lol) But I'm still enjoying the journey. I really love that you gave me something to ponder today, and it's a great way to stay on track for the New Year. Happy New Year to you and your family! Hugs, RO

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    1. dear Ro

      no doubt that there is correct time for everything
      how nice that you still have time to make choice and to progress my friend

      smartness in youth works for issues we deal with than ,experiences make us insightful to set our priorities in right order
      thank you for kind visit and words

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    1. now that is something amazingly determined dear Chris :)
      so glad for you my friend

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  18. Such a beautiful post, you make us think ! I think I may have had doubts I my younger years but I’m quite certain I made the right choices, maybe as I aged I became more content lol,

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    1. i agree that as we age we (well most of us) become more content and reasons are obvious ,restrictions of aging show us our limits indeed

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  19. Biological parents, baili, are very different from real parents.
    I have good examples in my life.
    Have a great week

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    1. i think i agree it is not enough to be biological parents unless you take responsibility to raise your child while trying to fulfill all your natural duties towards him ,a good upbringing is not just physical but training your children to be a kind and understanding human being is more important than just feeding them and providing shelter
      parents can build up great personalities with their love and attention indeed

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  20. Sometimes I wonder who I would be and what my life would be like had I been born into different circumstances.

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    1. thank you for dropping by my friend :)

      whatever we choose to be or whatever we have ,all that matter is are we being honest with it or not and i bet you are trying your best :)

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  21. I don't think I should be doing something else at all. I chose my path in life (I am lucky)and happy with what I chose.
    Plenty of people are not happy with what they chose, sometimes people were not permitted to make their own choice.

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    1. lucky indeed dear Margaret ,you have pride that you were so clear what you wanted to be and this does not happen to all of us :)

      i agree that many people realize later that it was not their thing to do ,to be honest we should be keep stick to our decisions to keep them right otherwise there is no definition for "right thing" i believe ,with lack of honesty and devotion we can loose even what we find is good for us
      it's all upto how we approach to life

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  22. Hello, Dear Baili, what a great question. Sometimes I feel like I missed out on some things in life - opportunities were missed for my own personal goals, but I sacrificed my own yearnings to raise my family and then take care of my elderly parents in their final years. Now I am taking care of grandchildren and my husband is retiring, so I will be taking care of him full-time, too :) I had my dreams....but I realize that I would have missed out on so many wonderful moments if life had led me down a different path. I am at peace with the results - a long marriage, a loving family, little ones to hug. But sometimes I wonder what could have been......Sending hugs xo Karen

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    1. thank you for beautiful sharing of your valuable thoughts dear Karen

      i think life brought you what was BEST for you :)))

      if we ponder upon life ,whatever we do to achieve something and to prove ourselves successful so we can feel pride and peace for what we have gained after all the struggle
      success in all other worldly things ends one eventual demand "true happiness and peace of mind"
      if you have this ,you have all i think :)
      your life is filled with all joys that are essential for happy serene living my friend and therefore you are victorious :)

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  23. O seu texto muito reflexivo. E coloca uma questão interessante. Eu sempre vivi a minha vida de acordo com as possibilidades e com o que desejava. Não mudava nada…
    Uma boa semana.
    Um beijo.

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    1. what a fortunate you were dear Grace :)

      still i wonder for your metaphysical line at end
      do you mean sometimes even freedom of choice doesn't work ?

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  24. I sometimes wish there were things that I would have done differently, but you can't go back and change the past. What we can do is learn from our mistakes and try to do better the next time around.

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    1. learning is the only mission of life dear Connie :)
      and to not loose it we all have to keep moving while facing present with dedication and strength towards better future
      this is so natural that when we move one step upward ,looking back makes us realize that we could have skip that one to reach right where we are now, but believe me this is not possible because it's part of learning process :)we have to step properly one by one

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  25. An interesting post, Baili.
    Hhmm, the question is hard to answer. I might feel it in my unconsciousness, but my thoughts are almost always pragmatic.

    Have a lovely day, Baili!



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    1. balance is everything so right dear Evi

      and you have it luckily :)

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  26. I am happy to say I don't want to have different life, my wonderful husband and son are everything I wanted. But I know a lot of people struggle with their lifes. I think believing in God helps a lot. Have a lovely day!

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    1. may lord keep showering his grace upon you dear Natalia :)

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  27. My discontent is that as life had progressed I have drifted away from where I should be grounded.

    When I was young I was firmly grounded and connected to our maker. As life goes on circumstances try to disconnect me (us) from that strong bond.

    The bond will always be there. I need to stop getting distracted by life and its daily problems.

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    1. i am sorry if you feel this way dear Cherie

      i would say only regarding my personal experience that it is all within us

      your last line says it all

      how you respond to changes in your life ,specially one that seems to effect you negatively

      if your "desire " for this bond is strong enough you will definitely will resist the distraction with all inner strength and overcome it eventually :)

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  28. What I wanted most out of life was someone who would love me and accept me for who I am, and for him to be someone I could love and accept for who he was. My life had a lot of unexpected twists and turns, and I ended up living in the United States which I never anticipated in my wildest dreams. Terry and I found each other, and he made my biggest desire come true. All the rest is icing on the cake. I am happy and grateful for the things that I have, but I don't need a lot to make me content. I consider myself among the luckiest women to have ever lived.

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  29. Um texto extremamente reflexivo, Baili! A vida é uma busca constante entre aquilo que gostávamos que fosse e aquilo que as circunstâncias permitem!
    Há muita gente que não lida muito bem, com a frustração e perda de expectativas quando a vida não corre, da forma como foi idealizada.
    Por isso, eu sigo as sábias palavras de um autor, que eu gostava muito, o Professor Agostinho da Silva, que costumava dizer: Eu não faço planos para a vida, para não estragar os planos que a vida pode ter para mim...
    Beijinhos!
    Ana

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