This is an undeniable fact that everything in this world has two kind of effect engaged to it's use ,good or bad .
I consider myself lucky to have chance to grow in environment where people shared special bonding whether they were family members or fellow villagers .
I think growing in such atmosphere is healthy influence for an individual . We learn about other people more and feel strong while sharing connection with them . I remember that as a child i saw many foreigners visiting our village surroundings as being at the foothills made villages of our area quite popular among tourists then .As children we would see how farmers and their wives would gladly offer hospitality to strangers. I never witnessed or heard that they took advantage behalf of their kind behavior .
After marriage i moved to this small city which was though different than my native village yet being a small town everyone knows each other . Specially neighborhood is familiar as mostly families live close by since decades and know each other through generations. Even new neighbors do not hesitate to begin friendly relationship and invite each other in their events .
Here when we visit to public places like hospitals ,libraries or park or travel in public transport people do not find it hard to say hello and start conversation mostly . I remember almost thirty years back when i used to visit hospital with mom in Islamabad ,we made few friends while sitting on waiting room or sharing wards .
My eldest son who lives in Germany tell us sometimes that when it comes to be familiar with each other without any particular reason people are completely different than here . He says that people show kindness and generosity when they feel it is certainly needed by someone but it is not their way to say hello to some stranger and start conversation . Everyone seems so busy in his own world and feels no need to be friendly with person sitting close by for no reason.
This makes makes me wonder what reason makes us the Asian people so open or friendly ?
And what makes people of Developed y country so shy and shelled?
According to my observation Dependency also plays role here . Even when a family get more resources and luxury members of the family become more dependent and feel less need to stay close to each other and warmth among relationships decreases slowly .
May be psyche of third world country is different due to their economical circumstances or may be it's in their genes ,it could be weather too .
Despite of all the facts that can effect human nature positively or negatively we can say one thing undoubtedly that people who are genuinely kind and have sweet generous nature , none of these facts can change them for worse .
They exist in each part of land and they don't care what kind of people they are treating with kindness .They don't treat people on the bases of race ,religion ,gender or status but humanity is their only criteria !
They do so because this is in their blood and nature. No matter which country they belong and under which weather and circumstances they live their souls remain unstained of rudeness or cruelty. They spread love where ever they go.
What Do You Think ?
I have heard some countries are warmer and more hospitable, Portugal for example, compared to Spain.
ReplyDeleteSo true, Christine. My daughter has been to Portugal and it's such a friendly country.
DeleteI live in New York State. But not in New York City. I feel that people here are closer to the way you describe people in Pakistan then in Germany. But it is different in other parts of America and even in other parts of New York. There is a lot to variation out there!
ReplyDeleteYour one statement says it all. Don't treat people by considering race, religion gender or status. This would go a long way to solve some of the nastiest problems in the world.
ReplyDeleteIt's in the heart, baili.
ReplyDeleteAnd that can't be fake.
Some places are definitely friendlier than others, I think. Some cultures are reserved and others more open. Here in America, it is so big and so many different areas and cultures - it just depends on each particular region. I've lived in several areas and I have noticed a difference in each region, but every place has genuinely wonderful people who love their families and are kind and accepting of differences. There are also the mean and bigoted people, too. They are usually the ones with the loudest mouths but the fewest friends :) xo Karen
ReplyDeletei believe that this is a huge ability to LOVE or Except others around you and treat kindly dear Karen and i think whom got this in their roots nothing can effect them negatively but who have it on surface they only need any excuse to express their cold or harmful side for all around
Deletei think geographical and cultural differences are also involved in shaping human nature and behavior
I guess it all depends on where you live. The people in the last city we lived in were happier and friendlier. In our present city, the people seem more unhappy and stressed, and less friendly.
ReplyDeletesuch beautiful thing you mentioned here dear Martha :)
Deleteyes i think people who are basically HAPPY INSIDE are more friendly and they hardly put condition to for others to be that way :)
I do think that some places are friendlier than others …
ReplyDeleteAll the best Jan
We have not lived in as many places as others, but have noticed differences in two geographical areas. When we lived in a southern state (Virginia) and also in a very small town, people were very friendly and outgoing. When we moved to a larger New England state (New Hampshire) we noticed a difference in that people are a bit more reserved. So I wonder whether it is the people's nature or their environment which determines friendliness. You have raised some very good points in this post, Baili.
ReplyDeleteI don't know i must share it here or not but i have read and hear as well that British people are most reserved people in the world and their historic image as ruler nation of the world has something to do with this fact
Deletei live in a small town and whenever we are out walking around the lake everyone says hello. I am on a FB forum for the town and it's is pretty cool - someone even started one for the roads right around us locally so we always know whats going on up the road if there is a lost pet or a disturbance.
ReplyDeleteoh this is why i love villages and small towns dear Sandy :)))
ReplyDeletePeople in Louisiana are very warm and nice. They are also easy to greet and give you their sweet smile :)
ReplyDeleteHave a great weekend, Baili!
Dear Baili, I'm thinking that the coronavirus is going to demand of all of us that we become generous and see ourselves as One--we are all in this together. Peace.
ReplyDeleteÉ bom viver num lugar onde as pessoas se ajudam umas às outras sem qualquer tipo de preconceito. Gostei muito do seu texto.
ReplyDeleteUma boa semana.
Um beijo.
It is interesting, isn't it? There is a so much difference from one place to another, even from one person to another. I chat with people checking out my groceries and that sort of thing, but not everyone does that. You seem very friendly and open in your comments here on your blog, but even on blogs not everyone is like that.
ReplyDeletei agree not everyone is like that dear Sandi
Deletei am not judging people for their behavior as they must have reasons for their reserved attitude but it seems so natural and nice to be friendly with people we meet during our routine of life ,i personally think there is no harm in it
i was reserved young girl when it came to be among crowd but i used to be friendly with people whom i met in public places like hospital waiting room etc ,it's not necessary to form serious friendship but it feels good to not stay unconnected to human around ,to me it is so natural
how sweet that you do same my dear friend!
Dear Baili, I agree with all the others who have commented. Hospitality of people completely differs from place to place. The variation in each of their behaviors and the culture they follow are different from each other. Thank you for giving us this very valid piece of article showcasing your personal experience in the same. Please visit us at https://www.bloghasting.com/
ReplyDeleteSome of the friendliest and most caring people I have met are those who have the least. We should all make an attempt to spread kindness and smiles! Love and hugs to you, my dear friend! 💖🌺
ReplyDeleteYes, I think people are friendlier in some places than in others. I think it has to do more with trust and if you have always been around people you can trust or not.
ReplyDeleteI think the maybe friendliness shows itself with mutual interests. For example in the UK people who like walking always acknowledge others when they encounter them on their walks.
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