Friday, October 5, 2018

Relationships Without Voice and Words! A QUESTION ?



Whenever   i  think   about   human   relationships    and  complications   risen   between   people   a   thought   jump   into   my   head   instantly.


More  than   fifty   percent   of   arguments   between   two  people   seem   to   occur   because   of   immediate   reaction    invading   WORDS     and   rise   of  VOICE.


Speech   is  form   of   POWER   !


And   we   often    MISUSE   it   by   taking   it   granted !

Very   few   of  us  learn  gradually   to   make  BALANCE   in  its  use!


In  result   our   relationships   get  affected   by   our   TONGUE!


I   believe  that   human   relationships   were   more   strong   and  deep   if   we   were   not   given   voice   to  spoil   them!


Because   Anger   makes  us  say   what   we   really   don't   want   to  say   or  even  feel  !



This   appears   in   improper   inappropriate  way  pushed   by  only   one   desire "to  hurt  back"   THAT  IS  It!





WHAT   DO   YOU   THINK    WORLD  WITHOUT   VOICE   AND  WORDS   WOULD   BE  A  BETTER   PLACE?? ??????

30 comments:

  1. Oh, Baili, this was eye opening! What if the only way to argue was to give flowers or not give flowers, to help with the dishes or fold the towels instead? What if a great hushed enveloped the land and there were no fights because no one could start one? God bless you, my friend. Life would be much simpler!

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  2. Oh, Baili, this was eye opening! What if the only way to argue was to give flowers or not give flowers, to help with the dishes or fold the towels instead? What if a great hush enveloped the land and there were no fights because no one could start one? God bless you, my friend. Life would be much simpler!

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  3. I think of all the times the words of others have helped me. On the other side, some touches are not good. I guess anything can be used for good or bad. It depends on the person saying or doing the action.

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  4. I don’t think a world with no voice is the answer, I think people should think more, pause before speaking, words can be deadly ammunition!

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  6. Difficult question, sometimes we have to speak out, other times it is best to remain quiet but it is hard to know the right time to do what.

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  7. I love the human voice. It brings comfort. It teaches. It sings and more.
    We need to think before we speak with voices raised in anger without thought. This is not the way to solve things~

    Hugs~

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  8. No, because words can also uplift us, encourage us, have a profoundly positive effect on us.

    I wonder how quiet the world would become if we were able to speak ONLY lovely things...

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  9. I like to talk. I don't like to argue. I worked with a nice woman who had almost completely opposite views to mine. We often had interesting conversations with each of us carefully listening to each other. I do not think we changed the other person's mind but we understood each other better. She is a good friend. My mother used to say, "Once you become angry you have lost the argument." It is so true. The only outcome is more anger, frustration, and hurt feelings.

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  10. This is so true Baili. People react quickly with emotion and some people want to hurt back when they are hurt. It's all futile and makes matters work, but we are emotional beings aren't we? I react with silence and tears where others may react with anger, mockery and yelling. If people would count to 20 and breathe deeply before they say a word or raise their voices, I think things would be a lot more mature.

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  11. Sometimes it is better to say nothing at all.

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  12. We need words, we need communication.
    Communication between us all is key, is it not?

    All the best Jan

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  13. Great post. :-)

    Greetings from London.

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  14. I do not know if it would be better, in a way I imgaine that it means more conflicts and misunderstandings:)

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  15. Like everything else, voice and words are a two-edged sword. They can hurt but also heal. They can express hate and anger but also love and respect. It's the person behind the voice and words who must learn to use them carefully.

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  16. I think it can go either way with words. It's up to each individual to use their words in a positive way and think before they speak.

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  17. Sometimes it is best to be quiet, sometimes it is wise to use words. We need them both.

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  18. This is so true and there are times when we need to be quiet and other times to have a voice and share. We do need to think before we speak.
    Thanks for sharing and for visiting my blog.
    Greetings from New Zealand

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  19. Something that never turns back - the insult, the word that hurts.
    Have a great week.

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  20. Entendo que são tão necessárias as palavras como o silêncio… É preciso cuidado com o que se diz e com o que se cala...
    Uma boa semana.
    Beijos.

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  21. So true, although I think we do need to have a voice as that's how we express ourselves, the good and the bad. I work in a call centre where people ring in and expose me to a huge range of emotions, it is so interesting and I feel they are connecting with me and giving me a sight of their lives/personalities, I enjoy helping them. If they, for example, couldn't speak (even when angry) but only talk to me through a computer, for example, they would miss out on my empathy and I would miss the moments when we sometimes can chat, laugh and joke!

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  22. Dear Baili, words enthrall me so I wouldn't want to do without them. But I do think that we need to return to something my mom used to say to me, "Dolores, count to ten--SLOWLY--before saying anything when you feel yourself getting upset." And that really works because it gives me time to consider that words can be knives that slice apart a relationship. Peace.

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  23. I think overall that talking is better than not being able to talk. We can have a much wider range of expression and better knowledge of what others are thinking and feeling, as long as people are honest. The problems begin when people think or feel one thing and say something different. Or, as you pointed out, when people use words to hurt others.

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  24. Most definitely, dear Baili. I pray for kindness, compassion and civility in this world. It starts with ourselves. We need to stay on the 'high road' if we expect it from others.And we do need to expect it from others, especially those in high places. Blessings xo Karen

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  25. Interesting thought, dear Baili... We can hurt with words ... and sometimes we punish with silence ... sometimes, it's enough that someone is there ... but sometimes we need words ... we can make the world a better place with a single smile ... and we can kill with a glance... We are so complicated. :-)
    Have a lovely week! Hugs!

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  26. This is a good, thought-provoking question. It is so true that we often talk (or shout) before we think first. So many hard feelings are created by harsh words.

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  27. I think the world would be better without anger and violence but I think we will always need words. Let the words be of love and peace.

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  28. Words are a valuable tool and like so many of our abilities, they can be used for great good and beauty and for evil. The choice is how we use our amazing abilities.

    "Be careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words. Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions. Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits. Be careful of your habits, for your habits become your character. Be careful of your character, for your character becomes your destiny." -- Chinese proverb, author unknown

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  29. World should be with voice and words, can change its meaning from place to place and person to person. But the voice(tone) totally changes its sense. Nice read.

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  30. You raise such an interesting question here. There is no doubt that so much conflict is caused by verbal sparring. The scenarios that you paint are indeed realistic and do lead to antagonism. On the other hand, would many of our relationships be weaker if we did not talk? I think thaf the world would be a very different place indeed!

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