When it comes to think about world ,life , Love and relationship i always think that
NOTHING WAS POSSIBLE TO HAPPEN WITHOUT LOVE!
Love is God or may be God is love but both cannot be separated . Only one thing is responsible for whole creativity we see ,
in the form of universe
In the form of Life
In the form of Beauty is possible that
there was LOVE BEHIND EACH OF THIS
Love CONSTRUCTS not destroy
Love CREATE not ruin
If we put out only LOVE from this whole phenomena what will be left behind is just
SHALLOW SHADOWS MOVING AROUND MEANINGLESSLY!
I want to share with you today a fact that i told my husband after 7 years of marriage that either I LOVE HIM TOO!
As you all know my marriage was arranged and i was girl with strict decision that i will never ever share my privacy (you know what i mean) with any man in this world
My husband was not from my blood relation as cousin .
But my father and father of my husband were fast friends and like brothers as they grew together as neighbour and when my father's mom died he was little so the mother of my father in law fed him from her breast which made them like brothers.
After marrying my mother my father left the job in police and moved to the city few hours away from here just to avoid the first husband of my mom .
After the death of my elder brother we moved to our mom's native village though but visited to my hubby's family regularly at least once in a year .
After my brother got married the environment of house for me ,my mom and sister became like almost hell as our brother's wife was very ignorant and crazily jealous with our studies.
Meanwhile i applied and got appointment letter of my govt teaching job but my mom was too afraid of her son and her daughter in law's behaviour so she did not let me join the job and forced me to get married as according to her it was safe for me as a girl in society .
That was time when i hatted men so much and it was so horrible to think about getting close to any man or making him part of my life.
After our marriage when we moved to this city my husband had no idea about my possible behaviour as when he came to the room at night he found me in simple dress instead of of bridal one and without makeup and jewelry .(my sister used to say about me that when men are around she put as terrifying expression on her face that they don't want to take second look)
I am sure my face was exactly as horrible that night.I clarified to him that i am not ready for any closeness right now and he should leave me alone right now .I put condition fro him that i want to do a job first and want to prepare myself mentally for this mess.
You don't have any idea, either i did not have that here if on first night bride says such speech instead of being shy and giving herself politely to her man she can get divorce or she can be beaten or blamed for infidelity.
But i was not as wise at the age of almost 20 to think about consequences. I was being myself simply . My heart was pure and had no fear so i said fearlessly what i had in my heart.
Hubby listened me with care and showed respect to my feelings .It took him almost one month to have me.
I was so happy and serene when we broke wall between us but i never expressed my feelings for him like he used to do often .
Within few months when my mother in law and her whole family raised daily problems and arguments life started being hard and all my anger fall on hubby who not only took it lively but understood my mental issues.
When my first son Ahsan was almost three years old my younger sister left for America and i had to go to islamabad to stay with mom as she was alone and elderly.
Meanwhile i put my son in school there and started job in pharmaceutical company . It was one of the biggest company and large amount of men and women worked there as employees.
During this job when i realised that one of the pharmacist is being extra nice to me i felt uncomfortable to be around him.It was not that i could not teach him lesson but he was being just nice and friendly and i did not like that as being lady it could be dangerous for my reputation .
I left the job and start another job at half salary than previous one .Reason for leaving job was that when another stranger man showed affection towards me my heart unfold and revealed the love i had for my own husband!
Yes this was time when i became to know that I LOVE MY HUSBAND SO MUCH and if anyone else looks me with same way it hurts me as i am being guilty of something wrong !
Now let me tell you tell you the actual reason behind my post
When i was in my early teens my classmates(girl friends) often tease each other with name of their cousins as they will be their husbands in future blah blah blah.
They asked me many times that"what is name of your cousin?
i had some cousins in village who were devils to me i hatted them for their dirty behaviours .
Deep so deep inside my heart i wanted to tell my girlfriends that yes i have one cousin who's name is Ali and he is so respectful and true gentleman who never said any vulgar word or not even looked that cheap way at me , But i never told them because i wanted to deny those delicate feelings within me .
Here come the miracle and God is always there to make it happen for us .God raised his love inside my heart when i was twelve hardly but he knew i would never say this so he planted LOVE in the heart of hubby for me who asked my mom to marry me to him .
After 7 years of our marriage when one day we argued and then united i finally told my husband that i love him too and i still remember tears of joy were glittering in his eyes and we both felt out of the world that day .It seemed as i released myself from cage and he seemed deeply peaceful and complete.
Today in my each breath i be grateful for the blessings that he has blessed me with ,a loving life partner is blessing that highlights the all other blessings too .because if both love each other peace of mind comes in their inner worlds which beautify the all other things around them !
Love is everything ,there is nothing without love (image google)
My LOVELY FELLOWS HAPPY VALENTINE DAY TO ALL OF YOU !!!
May you all find and respect true love in life and be happy and serene forever ,amen!
God Bless You All!!!
The story of your marriage is wonderful! This post is perfect for today.
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Thank you Brain !
Deletewhen i started to write the post i was not sure what would i write then i follow the simple love story of my own life
what a beautiful love story!
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Laurie!
DeleteI am glad that you liked it
True love grows from a tiny seed! Happy Valentine’s Day, Baili!
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Marie!
DeleteMine is little different yet I found it appealing enough to share with my friend
Have a nice Valentine day,Joan
ReplyDeleteThank you dear friend!
DeleteYou too have a fabulous Valentine day
Oh how beautiful!!
ReplyDeleteDearest Baili...my heartfelt thanks for sharing your experience with us.
I am so happy that everything worked out well for you.
Relationships can be a minefield sometimes (believe me, I know!).
This post has truly warmed my heart!
Thank you so much!!
😊😊
Much love and hugs xoxo
thank you so much dear Ygraine!
ReplyDeletei agree relationship can be so hard to go with sometimes and speaking from my observations and experiences of early years of my marriage
Marriage is RISK indeed but if you dare to take it then prove that you are good one at accepting this challenge
Patience and sacrifice is key and than time leads you towards your destination end of the day just have faith don't let it shake ever
Baili, your story is beautiful and I am so glad you found much love with your husband. Happy Valentine's Day.
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Carol!
DeleteI was pushed by destiny towards end which i thought is worse for me but God turned it in beautiful miracle for me
I found treasure of love which i was not even aware to ask for
A love story with a happy ending! Happy Valentines Day to you and your husband!
ReplyDeleteLove is MAGIC dear Debra
Deleteit can do anything it want and my life is proof of it
I am touched and inspired by your story. You waited to tell your husband of your love for him until you were certain it was true. He waited to hear the words because he loved you. And you are such a beautiful couple. You are lovely and your husband is very handsome. Both of you are fortunate.
ReplyDeleteDear Emm i was too far from natural and normal feelings that can a young girl have and reason behind it was psychological which i will share when i will feel ready to talk about
Deletei was not seeking his love but distance and little surety that he will not be oppressive until i want
this was time when i was full of terror and fear from being close to any man ,It was miracle that he proved himself totally different than i was expecting .
Feeling seeded in my heart from him were not in my consciousness then but his patience and constant love and care dig my heart to deep and brought out those raw emotions ,strengthened them with affection and passionate care and turn them into a well growing plant which roots evolved in the depth of my soul and finally one day i was confident enough to tell him that I LOVED HIM SINCE I WAS A LITTLE GIRL
Hi Baili! It was heartbreaking to read the beginning of your story...then the happy heart-filled happy happy lovey ending!!! :) I wish you all the love in the world! Happy Valentine's Day to you and your hubby!!! xxx
ReplyDeletethank you dear Rain!
Deleteyes my life was middle of nowhere when i got married and then in laws created huge pile of difficulties in early years of my marriage .I felt stuck but that relief that i had(have) a man in my life who loves me (though till than i was not sure due to my hesitation for men and relationship) and i can share my problems with him and can trust him blindly was backbone to my existence which got stronger and stronger with the time and bound us with rope of deep love and faith in each other
That's so nice. Having security with your partner is the best feeling. I'm so glad you both found each other! :)
DeleteThat is a long bumpy road to love, but your got there, that is what is important.
ReplyDeleteVery nice post.
I think every relationship has such ups and downs Joe we accept it or not but when two different people decide to live together forever they encounter with bunch of different moods and variations of their personalities which can be dangerous for their bond if there is no LOVE between them which clarify and sort out each difference end of the day
DeleteHappy Valentine's Day, thanks for opening up what is in your heart to us. I am glad you are happy now.
ReplyDeletethank you dear Christine !
DeleteBelieve me it was not easy for me as i feel still little shy to share about my very own and personal stuff but since i realize coming positive and friendly energy from you all my sweet friends
it gave me courage to speak of it
Tears in my eyes as I read this, Baili. Such a beautiful love story. Wishing you many more wonderful years together. Happy Valentine's Day! xo
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Martha!
Deletesometime life seems like desert with no clue of right direction and then some truly powerful well wisher push you towards heavenly gardens of LOVE!!!
Wishing you and your family a onderfull future, baili.
ReplyDeleteKung Hei Fat Choi!!
Bom Ano do Cão!!
Same to you Pedro
DeleteThis is so sweet and lovable... Happy Valentine day Baili...
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Vineeta!
DeleteYou're beautiful with or without makeup, then and now. I'm so glad you shared your story, and that you ended up with a happily ever after life. What a wonderful blessing! Hugs...RO
ReplyDeleteI never perched any make-up products except lipstick and eye liner. I learnt from my mother that artificial stuff is harmful for skin .I use lipstick and eye liner occasionally few times in a year.
DeleteMy life is beaded with so many miracles and my marriage is one of them
beautiful love story!
ReplyDeleteThank you dear Sussi!
DeleteSuch a beautiful story. Arranged marriages are hard but I'm glad you finally fell in love with him!
ReplyDeleteThe story of your life and love is a wonderful one, baili. I truly believe that there is no such thing as "love at first sight" -- there can be "attraction at first sight" but real love takes time and caring and trust to grow. I'm so happy for you that your husband turned out to be such a good man and your marriage has come through the growing part and become a sturdy place of happiness and refuge. A beautiful Valentine's Day post - thank you!
ReplyDeleteSuch a beautiful love story Baili! Thank you for sharing! I hope you had a great Valentine's Day! Big Hugs! (I agree, we are love!)
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely 'love' story you told of yourself and your husband, just beautiful.
ReplyDeleteHope you had a wonderful Valentine's Day.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful married life story with us Baili.
ReplyDeleteYou indeed have a loving and respectful husband... and he has a loving and respectful wife and you have both found the secret of happiness xx
What a unique and beautiful love story you have! I'm so glad you stopped by my blog so that I could find you. Hope you had a wonderful Valentine's Day!
ReplyDeleteNice! I hope you had a wonderful Valentine's Day.
ReplyDeleteSuch a sweet story of your life together, Baili. It is a patient and kind man you have married and I am so happy for you both. Sometimes we fall in and out of love when we are together a very long time, but with faith and trust, we can always renew the bond. A lovely Valentine's story. Blessings to you both xo Karen
ReplyDeleteWhat a sweet love story.. Happy belated Valentine's Day to you both!
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That is a very sad story with a beautiful ending. You are so blessed that true love came into your heart.
ReplyDeleteBaili, this is a beautiful, honest, and even raw post on a lifetime of love developing. It has actually life me short of breath and on the verge of tears...especially that part about you and your husband after 7 years and the tears in his eyes to finally hear that you truly loved him. What a patient man indeed, even how he remained respectful on your wedding night when he was probably full of expectation. This is so good to read as I have read SO many horrible strories of the abuse of women and children there from such things. So sad but your story shows there are good men indeed there who know women are not their property, as it were, and deserve equal respect.
ReplyDeleteYour handsome husband’s character reminds me of this verse from the Bible, 2nd Corinthians in the NEw Testamant: “'Love patient and kind. It does not envy, boast, and is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking (selfish), it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
Your husband has here modeled that perfect love from God above. Thank you for sharing and wishing you all the best.
Actually that is n 1st Corinthians, the book before, but that does not matter. You get the idea. :)
ReplyDeleteA beautiful love story. I hope you had a wonderful Valentines day :-)
ReplyDeleteBeautiful story Baili!. Hope you had wonderful Valentine day. ! Best wishes.
ReplyDeleteI loved reading the story of your marriage Baili. Although arranged marriages are not usual in my culture, personally I think they are a very good idea when all parties knvolved are willing and agree. I am so glad for you to have such a good man for your husband, happy Valentine's to you both. Betty
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your thoughts and life with us - I wonder if you know how much you yourself, are healing the world with your ability to open up and show not only Americans but other cultures a look into yours. It's so easy to see we all have that same heart, feelings, hurts, and there is something that unites us all and that is the willingness to be the Love that we are. That transcends borders for sure. The propaganda that each country deals out to their citizens will not stand in the face of just a human being Sharing the Love that they are and the culture they come from. I'm so glad to read you and your thoughts about your life. We truly all are connected.
ReplyDeleteYour love story is so beautiful, and touching! ♥
ReplyDeleteHave a wonderful week, dear Baili! Big hugs to you!
What a lovely story! True valentines day!
ReplyDeleteThis was beautiful, Baili! :)
ReplyDeleteThat was indeed the most beautiful love story. You waited and were blessed with a marriage that is strong and true. I'm very thankful you are happy and have a beautiful family.
ReplyDeleteI am embarrassed that I'm this far behind, even though I had computer woes when I was in Hawaii. I loved this Valentine's Day post, and I'm so glad that I didn't miss it. You have a special hubby, Baili! I'm happy for you!
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