Our wisdom is our torch given to us so we can see what to pick and what to avoid. But sadly the light is limited and we keep it on things we think matter ,rest of the reality remains in dark .
Hubby and me are watching a show these days in which host Wasi Shah a well known Pakistani poet takes interviews of successful popular people from different professions including media celebrities. In the last segment of his show he asks his guests about some regrets they have. This question reminds me few mistakes that affected my life tremendously at this point of my life!
We all know that we all born with no knowledge but ability to learn as we grow. I was curious about everything around me which made me want to learn more and more. I had a really wise ,strong and loving mother and father who would love to read digests ,books,magazines and news papers in all his spare time. But none of that could stop me to harm myself unknowingly sadly π . As little girl I saw my parents taking tea excessively and I followed them . I would take three to five cups of milk tea everyday. Luckily milk was in abundance as my grandparents had buffaloes and cow and goats. But the tea wasn’t something to consume by children of my age as often. I remember though my parents forbidding me from taking tea in such amount,mother specially but I wouldn’t listen . For me tea was more important than meals.It was addiction. This long time addiction weakened my bones slowly that’s what I realise now. Specially my habit of taking tea along or right after meal. Our recent doctor in Al Shifa International Hospital Islamabad told that drinking any type of liquid tea particularly omits the nutrients absorb in blood stream. This was like someone pulled out the ground under my feet. I never thought about that. I suddenly remembered that I was as addicted to strong tea that sometimes I would add raw tea powder to my cup and lid it for while! I should have been more investigative about my eating habits. I missed it π. May be this is called destiny. We been created aligned with so many possibilities. It’s up to us what we choose or what we avoid. I know there is no way to change what has happened.But since I know the truth now I am being cautious if it helps to some extent.
I made another dangerous mistake due to my ignorance. It started in 2011 when I went through a worse trauma of my life as my younger sister didn’t inform me about the death of my father and I learned it from others after fifteen day after his funeral.. Heartbroken and lost when I realised it was difficult to pull myself together I tried to look for mental peace in reading holy boo everyday.. When I felt that it’s working I continued it till last year 2024. I didn’t notice that sitting in certain position for two hours daily can affect my legs badly. And one day my right knee went slightly dislocated. Doctor said that my right knee is slightly fractured and overall all my bones have weakened because I have osteoarthritis. Then again I remembered that I didn’t take it seriously when our family doctor who has treated my stomach ulcer has warned me sixteen years ago that all body joints will be retired within four years. I took no care except treating my uric acid twice . Life was full of many things that kept me away from thinking about my own health. Now when I am on the edge of being on wheelchair I am trying hard to sustain my mobility with improved eating habits and exercise. I wonder how long I will be able to protect myself from falling but I know I am very honest with my efforts to resist!
Couldn’t find my own picture so this is from google images to show you the sitting position I was in for thirteen years .
I know everyone has different challenges to cope with.These are mine. I am positive about life and my faith in My Creator is deep rooted in my soul! Who has done many miracles in my life so I hope He will continue to help me this time as well π
A week ago I finished this novel of Michael Connlley The Narrows . It was suspense thriller story of a cop who investigates the murder of a former colleague and friend . I really enjoyed his interesting way of telling story.The story revolves between Los angels and Los vegas and suburban area. So it was good to learn more about cities through the perspective of the writer.
Thank you for bearing with me dear friends,your support is my strength π₯°
See you soon,health,peace and happiness to you all and to all who you love π₯°♥️
A very interesting post dear Baili. I never knew that tea can affect the absorption of vitamins and minerals that keep the bones strong. I never drank much tea in my life time. My DH on the other hand likes to drink tea and lately I've been joining him in nightly ritual for relaxation and to keep warm at night. I too have osteo so I now have to wonder if maybe I should reduce the tea or cut it out altogether. Are you still drinking tea? Also I didn't realize that sitting cross legged would be bad for you. I thought it might help you to keep your joints and muscles limber and stretched. I guess because you did it for such long periods, it was more harmful. I use a stick or at least I carry one daily with me when I go out. That way if I have too much pain or weakness I will use my stick to give me some support. It really helps. I recommend it to you too if you do not already use one. Take care dear Baili.
ReplyDeleteBig thanks for your lovely comment dear Joyful special thanks for sharing your experience!
DeleteI started to take tea just for joining my parents at younger age ( around ten or below) without having any clue how dangerous it is for delicate bones of small kids. I continued this routine of taking tea three to five cups a day for more than forty years. Worst part I took it along the food or right after it. Yes in my fifties now I happened to know that taking tea or any liquid of large amount restrain the mineral,iron and other nutrients absorb in the blood because according to the doctor when we swallow food our food pipe and stomach starts to produce some essential acids to break it down so food can be processed through various stages of digestion and absorption in the body. But when we take tea or water or any other liquid with meal or immediately after eating it rushes into the food which stops stomach to produce acid and therefore whole scenario of proper absorption is disturbed completely. I take two cups of tea with less tea powder used and I have quit taking tea in the morning empty stomach or with breakfast.i take it one and half hour after the breakfast now. We left night tea six to seven years ago when we realised it was affecting our sleep. Instead we take green tea for relaxation two hours after lunch and one hour after dinner.
As the ignorant doesn’t need an enemy to destroy him ,he is his own enemy!
Similarly is the story of my sitting in correct posture for reading holy book but that correct thing went wrong because of long duration of time sadly.
I am sorry that you too suffer from same condition my friend!
Were you too recommended surgery or knee replacement?
Thanks to dear friend Sue who shared a therapist video I am doing that exercise daily and feeling better enough to walk around easily and without support so far.
My better eating habits have helped me as well.
Sending you much love and best wishes π₯°♥️
Oh, it is a bit of a wakeup call, remembering habits of the past that we didn't know would be so significant. Thanks for the post. You give us all a lot to think about from our lives. Just don't doubt yourself now. You are taking many steps for treatments. Remember the good things you are doing for yourself too. πΈπΈππππΈπΈπΈπΈπΈ Thank you for reading and thank you for your comments. All the best to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteThanks dear Ellie π₯°
DeleteYes this is what I wrote about that at current times we hardly realise the significance of certain things like poor eating habits, bad choices of food or negative attitude towards life or people. We keep living in wrong decisions unconsciously and forget that each single step leaves its footprints which follow us always and most of the time we have to face the consequences.
Thankfully I am fortunate to born with positive mindset and positive approach towards life ,people and everything around. My faith in God doesn’t let me fall into pessimism or negativity by the grace of God!π₯Ή
I believe I will go through this as well hopefully π
It's so easy to make health mistakes when we don't know any better. We've all got bad habits that sometimes have resulted in lifelong consequences. I know that's true for me too!
ReplyDeleteSorry dear Debra that you have something bothering as well !!!
ReplyDeleteYes life and knowledge about life is boundless and it’s impossible to see everything with tiny torch in hand. Saddest part is that despite the continuous warnings of parents and hubby I couldn’t realise the danger. I can’t find the name for such carelessness . Today I can’t get angry at my kids when they don’t realise how serious situation can be if they don’t change eating habits. Our food culture is harmful for new generation specially as they take cold drinks excessively and with fast food.it’s really frightening
Why didn't your sister tell you? You have told us this story a while back, but I don't recall if you explained why she did it.
ReplyDeleteI think forgiving her would lift a huge weight off of your heart, but I would bet you already have forgiven her because that is your nature.
Stay positive.
ReplyDeleteYou have taken positive steps to take care of your body now. I admire that.
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