Friday, January 15, 2021

My Dear Mother ,Down To the Memory Lane And Some Images

 

Hello  Wonderful  Hearts !


Hope  turning  each  moment  in a  best  part of your life with 

all  the insight  and wisdom  you extract from the tree of  life :) When  i  say  so  it means  that i believe  more  in part  of you that likes to stay strong  and undefeated no matter what ,so you don't mind my positivism hopefully .I  truly  believe (through personal experiences) that  most  of the time we don't know our real  potential even ,so to Discover it from our inner  being Nature has  designed Challenges for us that  make us come out our comfort zone and let face not  just harsh  realities  of  life  but  reveal  how strong  and  capable we are to go through  tough  times and learn  about  ourselves along with external facts .

Why  it  is  so important  ? i wondered  often and answer i get is extremely simple t ,So  we  can  grow  because  though  everything  living and non living is moving in circle aspart of this huge universe Yet  it  Passes  through  Process of  Growth  meanwhile .

So  we are tiny part  of this perfect flawless plan of Nature and  forced to  go  through  the Same procedure inevitably .Thus  It  is  best  for  us to  not  waste  time  in  mourning  or  regretting  but  move  further  smoothly  and keep  learning  and growing  for  better .

As  i  have  mentioned  in some  previous  posts that winter season  is  suitable  for  being  outdoor  or  visiting  family  and  friends  here because it  is mild  and unlike  summer which are extremely hot. Days  are  still  shot  and  sun  gives  less  time  to complete  house chores.We  also  get  visitors  once  or twice  a week  .So  this  is why i am being  late  for posting .I  never planned to  schedule  my  posting  though ,i simply  follow my intuition ,It  takes less time because  i usually  try  to finish  it  within hour or bit more which i save for blogging  .And it is possible if my words are reaching to fingers smoothly .Still sometimes i have to get up for piece of work from the middle of it and then  come back to write again which seems hard as things slip away from my loose head.

Last  day  when  i was  picking up grass strings from mustard greens i terribly missed my late mom .I always miss her more mostly when i cook stuff she loved most and it is impossible to forget how deliciously she would make dishes with all vegetables ,specially spinach ,mustard green with addition of lots of parsley and early green plants of garlic ,that would make everyone lick their fingers literally.She would make it in clay pot and on dim flame that would make it tastier than anything in the world . She  was appreciated for her cooking not just by her family but all friends and  relatives  to whom she would send little part of her dishes .I  more than often heard these sentences from guests and others 

"you  are amazing chief " or " can you share how you managed to cook this one as deliciously "?

I too sometime receive such kind words from people but i know i cannot touch her height ever .I feel  my mother was amazingly FULL OF LIFE person .She despite of all challenges and hardships would keep smiling and one would never find her sitting leisurely.She  would find out jobs to fill her day anyway .She would sew ,garden ,knit or do any other related job like needle work ,making traditional belts for traditional trousers and on..Whatever she would choose to do she would do it in best possible way because she had Amazing love and devotion for what she would chose to do. 

In spare time she would pay visit to her village female friends .She would go to visit relatives who lived in other towns or city near .She would manage this by squeezing her budget .I remember once one of her cousin was hospitalized in Taxila (town half hour drive away from our village) Mom had no money as our father was absent and we were living hand to mouth theses days. Mom got job in village near  to earn some money for visiting her cousin .She helped in picking up harvested crops and shifting it to barn.She earned enough money within few days .Next morning She bought some fruits and put them in her handmade sack with some other little gifts and went to visit her cousin eventually .I will never  forget the glow of her eyes when she left. 

I learnt from my mom that money that comes easily never delivers that DEEP SENSE OF JOY ,that one feels when receives after hard work and try to manage his expenses  within it .It makes him realize not the worth of money but the strength he put in this to earn it and therefore he spend that money only in right way for right thing on right time. Latter when i read relatively same thing in some economics book i was  so impressed by her wisdom.According to words in that book "stored money cannot do any good so is not counted as valuable money but  little but active money can bring change to scenario so is for good and counted in valuable  money.

I will add that because that hard money brings change that comes in to  the " Basic Circumstances" which are more vital in ordinary life  so that little money sounds of Big value unlike of that big money which one  draws out from account where he has in abundance and visited abroad to a friend just to drop by ,it will stay less valuable to her hardly earned money and visit and the intention she had behind that visit.

I want to go on and on with my mother's talk but i have to stop as it is time almost for evening prayer.

Okay i could not end so here again after evening pray. 

Two breaks in today's post . First one when i just began writing post.My cellphone rang and i was surprised and happy that it was my eldest son's call. We talked for an hour.He first time called before weekend because he could not talk to us for more than fifteen minutes and bit more due to work load. I am grateful for technology  (after Lord) that make us see him despite of long distance.His card has not arrived yet so he is waiting for it to come home.One happy news cheer me up though .It was about his best friend who has come to Pakistan with His girlfriend who also work in Germany as software engineer .They both got engaged eventually.I was so happy to hear that .Because the boy's family was not agreed for this marriage until girl quits job and come to Pakistan to stay with boy's family .Girl was not ready for that which sounds reasonable because she got an opportunity to better after long hard work and leaving all suddenly must be tough choice for her. I was serene to learn that matter between both parties settled  finally.They both are truly lovely and sweet people and deserve Happiness in life !


Sharing few images to share what my heart feels at the moment ,they related to my present mood perfectly 


this photo belongs to days when my younger sister was in U S A and had job ,she earned good and made mom a big villa in Islamabad ,Mom visited us once or twice in year ,she was happy that she finally got house of her dreams which had every facility including car and driver here she during one of her visit she went to visit Sukkur city for picnic  with us,my eldest son standing on left is busy in some playing activity ,This is not just photo but a whole story of life and relationship we had back then .Hubby and mom both shared some habits and one of them is keeping themselves busy and you can see this below :)

two furniture  stools behind hubby are proof of that he loves to do something in spare time ,he ordered that furniture stools and they arrived home with simple four legs and with no color on as he said so. He spent few days on them (almost two and half) and turned them into useful and pretty pieces of furniture that can be used not just for sitting but also we can keep some things between their legs ,the smaller one is for kitchen ,The one hubby is working on in image is almost twenty years old and was of no use, but hubby made him alive again ,now we keep it in veranda and put water-cooler on it ,it also  has a small table between legs now .these are lovely realities of life indeed 


                                                  both furniture stools are settled in kitchen now 



 these early garlic plants are not home grown but remind me days when mom grew them in yard garden in abundance and shared them with friends and relatives,we would never buy them from market ,they are available here in Sindh province only in winters ,they add divine flavor to any dish if added  some minutes before turning off the stove and cover it up for while 

after winter i miss to have these two ,though garlic ,ginger and coriander seeds stay essential part of daily cooking along with cumin and black pepper   


last day i baked this cake which turned to be delicious surprisingly and we finished it in one day ,my younger son told that he learnt that baking in gas oven differs from electric one so he will guide me for better result next time 

Okay this is enough friends ,i think post has got lengthy already .

Stay blessed with  gift of hope and keep sharing it with all as we are all one and not strangers believe me ,Hope that grows in the field of Faith and gives you undefeated strength and peace forever.

In my thoughts and prays all of you always!

39 comments:

  1. Do you know the expression, "The apple doesn't fall far from the tree"? I thought of that reading of your mother and how much you must be like her. Spread the hope all over the world! Peace.

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    1. yes i know dear Kay G
      similarly we have saying that "a daughter is reflection of her mother " :)

      i am from very conservative background and if had had a weak mother i would have never be the one i am today ,despite of all strictness and oppression for women she never cared what others think about her ,but first she had to believe that she was on side where God stands beside her ,if once she knew that her aim is Right she would take stand for it no matter what ,i have many stories about her when her dare and intelligence made others silent who trued to strain her struggle
      she was Truly a kind soul ,it was gift to her from Lord indeed .because of her this trait i was able to serve the elderly ladies of my village which became one of the most beautiful and special memory of my life

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  2. Your Mom will always live in your heart!

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    1. she will indeed dear Debra ,i feel with each passing day she is becoming more and more alive for me and i am happy to feel that ,i was truly blessed to have such strong and wonderful woman in my life as mother
      i think what i am today because she was my biggest source of inspiration

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  3. The stools are wonderful! I enjoyed hearing your memories of your mother, such a lovely post and yummy bakes too!

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    1. i will try to share more about her ,actually i wanted to things take shape in my head as daily business blurs everything and tiredness makes me forget or fumble more and second reason is lack of time ,i so want to visit you all more often and post at least twice thrice a week but it is being impossible for obvious reasons

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  4. Very good thoughts on what your mom taught you on the value of hard earned money! Congrats to your son's friend on his engagement. Interesting photo of the garlic. You are happy Baili, treasure this period of your life.

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    1. thank you dear Christine for encouraging words ,they strengthen me always

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  5. I enjoyed reading your words as I always do. When I read of your mother it made me think of my mother. My mother was a good cook using what was available to make delicious meals. She raised a lot of our food in her garden. we also raised chickens which were her favorite food. And then there was my grandmother who was my mother's mother. She made good farm food. Fresh bread baked every day in her wood burning stove. I miss them both.

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    1. oh your life childhood style seems familiar one i had dear Emma :)

      just like your mother my mom was expert with making delicious dishes what was available in home ,yes she had small garden and she also raised chickens so we had eggs in abundance most of the year and chicken too
      when we arrived village my maternal grandma was in her middle seventies and though my grandpa had some farms i never saw grandma going to grow something in them ,her daughter in law our aunt would do so instead of her ,my grandpa offered some piece of farm to mother against the will of his daughter in law but mom refused to take it because she did not wanted to spoil their domestic environment because of her as she had moved to her native village after so many years ( almost 35 years probably) and all she wanted to make peace with her family and live peacefully

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  6. I enjoyed hearing about your mom, Baili. 😊

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    1. i am glad you liked this dear Sandi

      i wonder how you remember your precious mom :)

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  7. Nice memories of your mother. My mother was also a good cook and a gentle kind person.

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    1. your mother sounds a sweet person dear John

      i think that particular characteristic "kindness" is really important to have by mothers ,specially for their sons ,it plays vital role constructing their character as human being ,otherwise strict mothers with extra behavior influence the nature of their sons in negative way

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  8. Mothers are never far from our hearts and thoughts. I have so many wonderful memories of my dear Mum ...
    This was a lovely post, full of good news and good things, thank you for sharing it with us.

    Enjoy your weekend.

    All the best Jan

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    1. i agree that mothers are our really first inspiration and school in life ,here it is a saying that
      " EVERY DAUGHTER is REFLECTS of HER MOTHER "
      i will add that most of daughters reflect their mothers indeed if not all of them
      i agree that consciously or unconsciously our mothers guide us for whole life

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  9. Lovely to have a long chat with your eldest son.
    Your mother a wise women - money is enjoyed so much more when you do have to work hard for it - anything that we get which is hard to get is so much more appreciated.
    Lovely to read about your mum and the photos are lovely.

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    1. yes i ma really grateful for this dear Margaret

      whenever i am able to travel down to memories i am astonished with striking courage and healthy attitude of my mother and it keep provoking me since long to write a book on her life which was not easy or simple still full of patience ,dare and wisdom

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  10. I really enjoyed your post, Baili, you have such lovely memories. I think you are right about the value of money, when you have to go without and work hard to get money for something, it has such high value and gives so much fulfillment, money gained easily can never give that. I think those of us who can't stay still for long and want to always be doing something useful are positive thinkers, optimists and achievers. Your sister must have worked extremely hard to give your mother so much.

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    1. my sister went with her husband for just visiting purpose but then they acquainted with a lady with political influence ,they met with her through her driver who was friend of my sister's husband , somehow it made their stay longer and almost six or seven years ,my sister worked hard definitely ,she did two jobs during 24 hours ,one on gas station and other as sales girl on jewelry shop owned by Indian woman probably ,that constant earning could make it possible to make her some dreams come true including house for mother in city like Islamabad

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  11. This is such a nice post Bali.

    My mother has also passed and she was also a good cook. Now I also cook some of the things that she taught me. It is so interesting how food and recipe s get passed from generation to generation.

    That cake looks very good!

    Have a great week.

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    1. how nice you too could learn cooking from your mom dear Brain :)

      i wonder if you have a sister ,girls comparatively are more close to their mothers i suppose and learn so much from their moms or may be things are little different in your part of land ?

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  12. Such a lovely post, Baili! And that cake looks delicious. I would enjoy sitting and chatting with you with some tea and cake!

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    1. Dear Martha this is so Sweet of you!

      Either I would thoroughly love to meet you in person and have chat over your favourite topics :)
      Your passion for reading fascinates me I would fondly hear you insightful thoughts:)

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  13. I smile every time you write about your mother, Baili. She was a wonderful woman and you miss her and write of her so fondly. You have brought her to life for me too.

    I feel the same about my mom. I think of her every day and often wish I could call her and talk over a problem or share some good news.

    We were both blessed with the mothers we had. Take care!

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    1. precious friend Marie

      i can't write about her often which i want desperately because i want my posts accurate and flawless specially when i want to write about her which is mostly hard when post hurriedly ,once i start to write about her i feel power pulling me keep writing and writing for long ,it is hard to resist believe me
      i still feel like if i stay in world in years when i will be having free time i will write book about her life because i truly believe that her struggles throughout the life for family are exceptional and inspirational

      so true that though our mothers passed away long ago ,mine ten years ago still sometimes it makes my eyes teary that how terribly i want to hear and see her
      yes just like you i too feel that i was truly blessed that she was my mother !

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  14. Hi Baili :)) It's nice to read your fond memories of you mom! Baking and cooking is an art...and a labour of love. I enjoy it and you do too! I love the photo of the veggies, everything is so fresh and green, and your cake!!! Looks great! :)

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    1. tank you dear Rain!

      my baking is far from perfect because i do it only occasionally or during winter season ,yet i think since i have an official oven now so there are chances to improve it in future :)

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  15. This post was filled with such sweet memories of your mother, Baili, and it is obvious how much you miss her and also remember her in your daily life. I feel the same when I think of my mother and regret that I can no longer call her to talk. Her home cooking is something always in my memory.

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    1. dear i think as daughters we were really blessed that we had mothers who left us with appropriate comprehension of life which has sheer importance for living a successful life specially as wife ,mother

      there is hardly any when i don't miss her ,her insightful talks when i was little girl still echo in my head ,
      when we parted after my marriage ,we stayed in touch via phones and cell phones , we both will chat on not just daily life and good or bad about it but she would always advise me for betterment in various aspects of living
      i missed that terribly when she passed away ,i would think as it was her calling whenever phone would ring ,or door will shake by wind even it will remind me she will never appear from behind this door again ,settling down with this painful reality took many years still there is space where she shines like a Sun and showers her kindness and wisdom above me

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  16. Hi Beautiful Soul. I loved hearing about your mom! Wise words about money! Your cake looks so good! Love the furniture stools! Big Hugs!

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    1. you call me Soul and it sooth my heart dear Stacy because i think this term suits me as i am person who likes to live by soul more than by physique

      i am so glad you fond my words worth enjoying

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  17. My parents live in Portugal and I keep contact with them to see what's wrong and how can I help.
    have a great week

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    1. i believe you are very fortunate dear Pedro that you still have your parents alive and well with you and you can contact or visit to them whenever you want ,this experience is always empowering for children indeed
      i miss mine specially now i feel i miss them more everyday and on special days and events my hearts stay bit low and empty when i find myself unable to see their faces and feel the warm of love from them

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  18. A sua mãe estará sempre no seu coração e há-de sempre abençoá-la.
    Uma boa semana com muita saúde.
    Um beijo.

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  19. Gostei de ler sua postagem. Ela traz pedaços de vida que são muito importantes, principalmente os hábitos da família e as lindas recordações que tem de sua mãe. Há dias em que a saudade é mais forte, mas você a tem junto ao seu coração. Ótima semana para você.

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  20. Lovely photos of your family and home life :-)

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  21. Mais uma vez, fiquei encantada com a sua publicação, Baili, e com tão preciosas partilhas... de boas recordações, e louváveis valores que sua mãe lhe transmitiu desde cedo!...
    Adorei as imagens! E os móveis, ficaram lindamente, na sua nova cozinha!
    Beijinhos! Saúde, para todos! Boa semana!
    Ana

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  22. You've shared so many stories about your amazing mother, Baili. I will not forget the story of her working to earn money to visit her sick cousin. She is one inspiring lady! Your husband did a fine job on the stools ~ turning them into something pretty and useful!

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