Monday, November 2, 2020

Honor Killing In My Home Town And Some Heart Sharing

 


Hey  Sweet Hearts 

Hope beating with  gratitude and hope and embracing each moment  as most precious gift :) Needless to say that life is too short for wasting in negative  ways .No matter how advanced we the human become yet easiest way to true happiness and peace is simplicity.The more we are stick to simple pattern of life the better life we can have here :) Talking through personal experience .Complexities may   make us interesting characters who can earn  fame and other  worldly timely pleasures but if our  goal is inner serenity it is impossible to achieve by going through it.Because  all  methods of living that we try by breaking "LAWS  OF NATURE"  leave us shallow and lost .That is what i learnt from my observations and experiences during 50 years of my life.

I  am loving the days of  current season sooo much :) Staying  not wet with sweat all the time is quite an opportunity we get from October to March .April start to warn with slight sweat that summers are approaching near.Despite of this weathers remains magical until lat week of April.May takes it's start with sudden attack of horrible heat that stays with us until September. So present season is reason for keeping me happy all the time .Sun above my neem tree has glorious friendly sweet smile :))) and gentle breeze is having pleasant conversation with my garden inhabitants .Life is beautiful when we are focused on moment we have in hands isn't it :)

Our kitchen wall is being painted since three days and still incomplete. It might have taken two days only if painter would have done it regularly.Actually i liked the color and design of the wall in the house of my youngest brother in law . I mentioned this to hubby so we can have different but same quality of art on our wall. Hubby asked his brother to send same person for the job .Man was busy somewhere else yet he did not mentioned and agreed he that he will do it within two days. Though he could not which annoyed hubby little bit.He asked painter he must come one day and finish it at once and instead doing it during breaks he takes from other job .So let's see if he comes tomorrow after finishing his job somewhere else .

I did not want to talk about murder that took place in my native town until things were clear to me.It is second time that honor killing was being done in my home town.First time it happened when i was in seventh or eighth grade probably. A ruthless  man burnt his wife brutally. It  was  horrible accident that had kept our small village in terror and sorrow for so long.The man who did this to his wife had gone completely mad within months and committed suicide .

This time a brother has shot is younger sister thrice in chest. He said that it did because she was not making him lunch.Though story that neighbors ,relatives tell is different.According to wife of my brother young girl was being sexually abused by her own father who was homosexual too and was inviting boys at home who were friend of his daughter. Story was hard to digest so i went for second opinion  from others specially relatives of the victim. That cleared things and i have to believe that  even such sinful things can happen in my dear home town now.It is heart breaking for me as i grew up there.People were so pure ,honest and innocent.All connected and helpful  to each other including even those who were considered enemies.Murdered girl is the granddaughter of the aunt(sister of father) of my brother's wife.They are second richest family in village now as aunt of my brother's wife has 13 children and nine of them are boys.Her husband was dishonest brother who betrayed his step brother for property and took all what he had in village .The poor brother left village disappointingly .He had down to earth nature and honest nature .He got job as clerk in government  office and spent his whole life in Islamabad with his wife ,three sons and one daughter.Today he is dead though but his family have peaceful living because they have good kids who love and respect each other thoroughly and are model for others that honesty is the best policy in life.Here step brother who robbed him had nine sons but none of them is who can be appreciated or respected for their actions.His daughters are modest and fine ladies though.

Long story short his eldest son who has been snatching lands from people and selling drugs in village is trying to destroy all the young boys in village.Unfortunately he has succeeded to make most of village boys habitual to drugs .His worker boys become friends of good ones and distract them from studies and drag them into mud of misdeed they themselves are doing.It is acknowledged that "we share what we have " so they are trying to poison others as they are themselves.

My brother's son was one of those unfortunate who got trapped in their net.He was not flawless or clean himself either so he became easy target . Son of my boy claims that he was only friend of the boy who was boyfriend of the victim girl .He said that father of the girl told me to rent a house in village so near and invite the boy who wanted to marry his girl.The boyfriend is also grandson of one of my uncle(mom's side).He came all the way from Dubai where he lived with her elder step sister who brought them up like a mother.He came came and stayed at house rented by my brother's son .After just two days they were raided by police .Boyfriend ran away but my nephew was arrested .He is in jail since more than a month. The eldest brother of girl's father is highly criminal mind and he has sued almost every man and many women of the village  for silly reasons .He does so because he has black money and lots of it.

He has accused  my nephew and few other boys that they were threatening the girl's father that if he does not pay them five lac they will upload photos on social media .And he adds that a brother had to kill his sister because boys walking in streets were showing inappropriate photos of her to him .

My nephew says that his friend betrayed him and used his sim card to upload photos .Boyfriend clears that he was invited for modest cause and then they tried to arrest him .He says that they turned girl against him too so he was heart broken and he did so.Despite of his confess my nephew is still inside .His mother and i exchange daily voice messages .I try to clam her down and keep hopeful. We are waiting for further reports that are being charged against girl's father on the basis of  F.I .R written by brother's wife .The biggest restrain is money of brother of victim girls uncle who is don who runs kind of mafia in the area and has contacts that save him from consequences of his illegal actions .I think Nature is doing is justice already as his all children are harvesting what he has sowed for them .Details will be too lengthy so i will only say that the eldest son who is criminal and cruel to people of village is not leading an ideal life in any aspect . Man had numerous accidents,so many fractures and cannot walk straight even.He has involved his sons into his dark business .His girls are also not in good book of village .In short their huge villas are unable to hide their sins.The whole family seems to face embarrassment and infamy because of the actions of boys of this family.

Here  are some photos of my village that will hold special place in my heart for eternity ,i found myself  compelled to share them with you today s recent circumstances there make my heart  heavy yet i feel better when i look at these ,

cor fields where i used to run and play with my cousins girl friends still do not look stranger to me ,part of me still wanders on patios laying within these fields and  recall and observe that little girl running and laughing care freely ,she  still exist within me  becomes dominant  in few lone moments ,i learnt from her how to live life without making your conscience burdened   


 some new paths that modified by  new walkers ,even they seem so close to my heart as land below them is mine too ,no one can change this "is "into was 


Some paths where we ran and played together now witnessed how calmly we can wander on the them with more understandable attitude and different perspective for looking at things on left is wife of my brother ,on right is her step younger sister and in the middle her cousin (sister of victim girl's father)


each time i look at this front yard of my native home my eyes become teary for various reasons ,love for the place ,gratitude that i was able to spent part of my life there and memories about time when i lived here with my parents and sister ,i don't know why those memories  have such power to overcome all the thoughts of present or future ,i am one who lives in a moment but i believe it is possible because i have such beautiful past and in such lovely village !


Progress in the house is slow since my elder brother has broken his leg and fractured his backbone after falling form roof during his construction work as mason almost eight years back ,after six months treatment he was able to stand and walk .he was known for his good work so he still gets some work though not often .Wife of my brother is little difficult person to make understand so my all efforts are invain to convince her that she should let her boys go cities near (Islamabad ,Rawalpindi) therefore boys are often off job and spend time doing nothing,Eldest has truck who earns bread and necessities hardly ,younger  knwos driving and gets once in while job as loader operator ,he is high school passed and could get some private job in office and study further along but due to stubbornness of my brother's wife he has also became lazy and spend time in wander with friends in various areas of country .youngest  goes college but not fondly .my advice falls of deaf ears though i still not give up and this is why i talk to her so may be i can help her  understand things but all she want is easy  help which is not possible for me .i can help her within limits and i do this when i think she really needs it but i cannot do more than this because i don't earn and i can't force hubby to do it regularly ,she has one daughter who has passed tenth grade and quit study 

i am sure no other view in this whole world will make me feel as serene as this one ,the place where i stood and sat for  numerous times and stared at these hills and garden and fields below ,they nurtured my soul and  opened my window of soul (imagination) this where i met him first (Lord) who spoke to me through his creation though my ability to hear and understand this was not at it's best then ! What i feel about this place ,i can write a short book on it :) it somehow completes me !

Precious fellows sorry for long post again. Hope you will be able to read it ,if you can't it's okay ,let me share what you felt about it anyway :) as your opinions are always wellcome and strengthen me!

Signing off for now with lots of prayers and good wishes for you and your world my friends! 
May you find joy within days and peace within mind each moment !
Blessings!



20 comments:

  1. I hope the painter finishes your kitchen soon and you are happy with the results.

    What a horrible incident in your town and the distress you feel must be so deep. Evil deeds touch so many of us and it is so disturbing when it is so close to home.

    I always enjoy seeing pictures of your town, Baili, and the people that live there.


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  2. Hi Baili, the family connections are hard to follow! but I can get the story, it is very sad that people can have such power over your beautiful village beccause of their corruption and ability to blackmail and influence others. How sad for you especially as your nephew is tainted. Blessings to you Baili, I am glad that you don't live there any more and have a secure and happy home for your boys. Betty x

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  3. Such a tragic incident. That poor young girl.

    Your images are lovely. I also enjoy when you share them. It gives me a glimpse of your part of the world!

    Be well and stay safe!

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  4. The killing that you describe is terrible and heartbreaking. Hopefully in the future we will see less violence everywhere.

    I am sorry to hear about your brother. I hope thaf he gets better as soon as possible.

    It is so good that you have a peaceful place. Everyone needs one.

    Take care and have a great week.

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  5. Abuse of women, pure and simple -- appalling. There is no justification.

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  6. Good memories of your home will keep you going through some tough times I have found.

    I feel for the poor girl, caught in the tragedy her family members brought on her. You are fortunate to be away from all of that, Baili. You can provide support from a distance, a listening ear and encouragement.

    Take care.

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  7. Sending you blessings and hugs. Stay safe and well! 🌺

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  8. You shared so many thoughts today. I know how much you love and miss your native village. At the same time I am glad you don't live there now. You and your family are doing well and that might not have been possible if you were still in the village.

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  9. Very sad news from your village oh my goodness. Thanks for sharing the photos though.

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  10. The incident that you described made me nauxious.
    Barbarism!
    Have a great week

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  11. Won't it be so good to have your kitchen completed, hoping that happens very soon for you.
    Wasn't aware the honour killings were still permissible - such a shame.
    You certainly poured your heart out there Baili - and isn't it great to get it off your chest..
    Take care.

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  12. Hello, Baili
    It is sad news and a terrible incident to have happened in your home town. I know having your home renovated can feel disruptive, you will be so much happier when it is all done. I wish you and your family good health and happy times ahead. Enjoy your day!

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  13. Dearest Baili, oh how sad your post made me...I just wanted to reach out and hug you, my dear friend. All these dreadful things happening in our beautiful world... doesn't it prompt the question "Why are some people like this?"
    But I do believe, as you do, that people who are cruel to others will eventually pay for their actions. I have always believed in that old proverb, that "What goes around comes around". In other words, evil deeds bring harsh retribution!
    Oh how beautiful your native village is, although I am very relieved that you no longer live there. It would break my heart to think that my lovely friend had to endure being in such a frightening and dangerous situation. It is always the few corrupt ones who spoil life for everyone else, isn't it?
    My heart truly goes out to you...❤
    I just wish I could be there to hug you in person.

    Please take good care of yourself, dear Baili.

    Sending you all my love and virtual hugs ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

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  14. Baili - such a sad turn of events and I feel for all those involved with the loss of this young girl. These Honor killings I hope stop some day - they happen all over the world and I think that the more people that feel separated from their creator/source/Allah/God whatever some chooses to call All That Is - the more they feel they can kill others to remove their own pain of separation from such Goodness. No one could kill another if they knew how connected everyone really is down to that Zero point u talk about. And wow on the other hand what beauty you grew up surrounded by. I can see why you "listened" and heard. Nature's beauty seems to stand in front of illusions and say Look at this -Let your egos fall away and just look at my beauty. Look here look there. Here is a virtual hug for you and all those who need it.
    I'll be interested to see your kitchen painted. Hope he shows up and it comes out great.

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  15. It will be so good to have your kitchen all finished.
    I enjoyed seeing all of your photographs, but so sorry and sad to read the bulk of your post.

    Thinking of you and sending good wishes.

    All the best Jan

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  16. How sad to hear of the killing of that young lady. Life is hard for so many people but it seems women generally get the worst of it. I'm sorry to hear of the corruption in your home village but I am glad you have not allowed it to spoil your good and precious memories. I feel as you do, when I see the hills and scenery of the village where I grew up. It is a balm for my heart. You are so kind to try to help your in-law. It is hard to persuade another to take action if they have their mind set against it, isn't it? Such a shame that her sons cannot go elsewhere and improve their lives and contribute to society.
    I hope your kitchen project is soon finished and you are happy with it. Sending you hugs and love, my dear friend!

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  17. The things that family members will do in the name of honor is so much less than that. Plain and simple it is murder and these cowards want to "hide" behind that word. I felt so sad for that young girl that she was in such a family. I understand your pain as well in sharing this story, Baili, and appreciate how you presented all the information you found out.
    Also sad to learn about your eldest brothers continuing health issues, but you can only do so much in offering advice to his wife and if she will not take any, then there is nothing more you can do as I know you are a kind and good-hearted person.
    Hopefully, your kitchen renovations and painting will be completed soon as it sounds like you will be very hapy to be cooking meals for your family there.

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  18. Dear Baili, I quickly looked at each wonderful photo and then read about this very sad story of the young lady. I am so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to those who lost and loved her.

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  19. Grata por ter partilhado tanto, do que lhe vai ocorrendo nos seus dias, Baili!
    Adorei ver as imagens da sua aldeia... e um paisagem tão pacifica... parece não combinar com crimes de qualquer espécie... os crimes de honra... fazem-me muita confusão, confesso... acho que haveria honra em resolver-se as contendas, com entendimento e sem derramar sangue... e faz-me maior confusão, por serem as mulheres, a grande maioria das vitimas... elas que são o suporte familiar, e afectivo num mundo em grande parte masculino... mas tal... de uma forma ou de outra... em termos de exploração laboral, também acontece em tantos pontos do mundo...
    Espero que o mundo um dia conheça mais paz e entendimento entre todos... e em todos os lugares...
    Estimo que seu irmão recupere mais um pouco, para que tudo se oriente melhor na casa dele... aliviando-a assim da preocupação, com ele e respectiva família!...
    Um beijinho! Continuação de uma boa semana!
    Ana

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  20. I am sorry to hear about the incident in your home town I feel for you.

    I hope your kitchen painting is finished soon.

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