Monday, October 28, 2024

My Hardworking Mom !

 

 Sometimes we have people in our life that seem to create whole universe around us where we feel safe and peaceful .All the darkness and harshness of the world remains far away while we are bundled up in the invisible magnetic field of that person . We see them busy always doing constructive activities that adds up in our inner power and self confidence unknowingly .

 My mom was one of those people as well. As growing girl i could not realize this with such depth but after my marriage when i had to depart from her these were the feelings that kept revealing on me with time. Despite mom seemed little different when my sister went to America and wanted mom to break up with me ,my heart could not forget how immense physical and spiritual contribution she had in building up our life.

When compare to mom ,call me lazy because she had strongest personality i ever knew in my life . Her strength was unbeatable and despite being from tiny village she had so many things to put her energy and create something out of them . Now when i think of  how she would turn her day into a productive time period it feels so magical because i could never achieve that. After household all interests me is writing or reading or spend little time looking at garden plants and sky.

Moving in our small happy and content world was something i would love to experience each time if there are life chances ahead.. Our father was opposite to mom when it comes to hard work or creativity. He would do his watch making job and spend weekends on home idly while reading piles of news papers ,magazines or digests. I think i took this from my father . But i enjoy doing hard work as well whether physical or mental if i have to. My father could not do hard work at all though . I remember when our house was being built mom would take over when labor men leave or when labor men would take break on Friday. She would go to the site and start digging or watering up stone that would be used in construction next day or other works that could save labor men's energy and time so they can use them on more important job as construction or so. One day when father was at home mom tried to motivate him with lecture that it would be so proudful if he also does some help on site. My father convinced surprisingly and went with mom. He helped her arranging heavy stones there .But when he returned his hands were red and having blisters and he argued with mom a little that it was because she insisted and how he will do do delicate work of watch making . It took his hands few days to recover and go on his job. Mom never asked him to help again .

Nothing could stop her from doing her work on site though . She would not allow me to help so i would go there secretly when she could not go to on site for some reason and would not be around. This is how i could dig under the huge rock ( restraining the construction) for some days regularly and was succeeded to make it pull out of the ground finally. It happened when a contractor refused to blow any of the more rocks in the ground as he said that area wasn't part of the deal. A gap of time provided me chance to do this for my mom. When she saw that rock out of the ground it is hard to how proud and happy she felt .And i thought nothing i can't do in the world that day.

My could  would do multiple jobs in a day and when we would try to comfort her by pressing her shoulders or feet she would smile and say no need for this. Her smile would enlighten our world !

She had hens and the garden at the same time and nothing went wrong anytime. My sister in law though ended my mom's garden soon after mom left the world because she could not manage it with hens. Later she quit having hens soo too. 

Sadly i could see my mother in my dreams twice or thrice in these 13 years of her departure. Seeing dreams of liking is not in my hands but I see my mom in my imagination often .It seems so real sometimes that i forget she is no more . Yesterday was the such day which made this post possible .

thanks for bearing with me dear friends! 

more blessings to you all and to all you love!

29 comments:

  1. Oh, thank you for your words about her. I can understand what you mean, the memories we keep. It was enlightening and a great way she shaped you. Thanks so much for your comments. All the best to your happiness, and your creativity! Thanks so much for being here.

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    1. thank you dear Ellie !
      best wishes to you too

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  2. My mother is as alive to me today as she has ever been though is gone 16 years. We speak of her every day. You carry a good mother with you through life. We were well and truly blessed, Baili!

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    1. i feel so agreed to your perception about your mom dear Marie
      i think they cannot be away from us completely because we keep part of them within always
      how nice you are able to talk about her everyday my friend .i think this is blessing for a loving daughter .
      i talk about her occasionally with my husband who too has been admirer of her .
      but it would have been a different level if i was able to talk about her with my sister .i miss such privileges in life

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  3. Your Mom sounds like a real inspiration!

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    1. thank you dear Debra ,she inspired me for having deep understanding of life

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  4. Lovely memories of your amazing mom, mine was amazing too, always there for me and my siblings.

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  5. i love Creator how he has created perfect system for us to get nurtured and loved fully by our mothers in our early years
    i think we there is no age limit when we stop to have need for their guidance in life

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  6. Your mother lives through you. I am certain she is proud of the woman you are and the loving family you are nurturing.

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    1. i thank you for sweet words dear Emma

      i have to agree that part of our mother continue to live with us as their daughters
      though i wish i can be as excellent in multi tasking and wisdom as she was !

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  7. You're right. when we mature we see things differently. We see how valuable some people are.

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    1. dear Red i agree that as we age the virtues and importance of our parents in our past unveils and make us feel understand them more and proud that we are their children

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  8. A lovely tribute to you wonderful mom. What a blessing she was and still is to you.

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    1. heartfelt thanks for kind words dear Sandi !
      when i look back it makes me afraid to think what if i had not her and someone else as my mother ,this is indefinable how i feel indebted to her !

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  9. You always write with love and honesty and I appreciate that. You bless so many people, including me. Thank you.

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    1. Oh this is your utter kindness to say this dear Nichole!

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  10. Your mom sounds wonderful. May she RIP now. I miss my mom too and she sounds a lot like your dear mom, a very strong and hard working woman.

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    1. dear Joyful mothers are roll model for their daughters always consciously or unconsciously so it is truly a gift to have wise ,strong and loving mother for any child

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  11. I enjoyed reading this post about your mother, Baili, because in many ways my own departed mother was similar. She did not do any construction, but did raise chickens, maintain a garden, raise a family.I also miss her now that she is gone because there are so many things I wish I knew about her life and no longer can ask. Memories are indeed precious and become more so the older we get.

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  12. thanks dear Dorothy!

    from your words i feel your mom lived in some town so she raised chicken and maintain garden .raising family along with such domestic job is challenging
    my mom would manage to knit ,crochet ,make traditional thread belts and gather herbs from hills to make her special health recipes ,now when i think this all it just amazes me more and more

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  13. All my friendly love and calm are with you dear baili. A mother is ever one of the most important persons in the Life. Hugs from Mallorca.

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  14. What a beautiful and heartfelt tribute to your mother! Your reflections on her strength and the safe haven she created in your life are truly moving. It’s clear she left a profound impact on you, and it’s wonderful how you cherish those memories, from her unwavering work ethic to the love she poured into your home. Thank you for sharing such a personal and touching story with us!

    I just shared a new post, you are invited to read. Happy weekend!

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    1. God had made mothers to show how a creator can love His creation dear Melody

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  15. Há mães assim: guerreiras e amigas. Gostei daquilo que contou. Fez-me recordar a minha mãe.
    Uma boa semana.
    Um beijo.

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  16. Dear Baili, such a lovely tribute to your wonderful mum.

    All the best Jan

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  17. Baili, over the years you have shared so much about your incredible mother, and I can understand your pain when you miss her. I, too, had an incredible mother, and I miss her every single day. We both were blessed in our mothers. Fortunately, you can see your mother in your imagination! I feel my mother is watching over me every day, and I think your mother is watching over you too. Love doesn't die. Hugs and love to you, Baili!

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  18. dear Louise it feels nothing what i have shared until now about my mother as i have witnessed her struggle ,pain and how she rose back from ashes after each bad incidents that happened to her time to time .She was divine figure to me .i still shelter in her
    you indeed had a wonderful strong ,intuitive and very loving mother and i see these qualities in you so obvious my friend !

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