My youngest son has simple nature like me . As i mention he is not much fast with studies though try honestly to keep focus.
He is really helpful at home even more than his both elder brothers.
Here in our small city there is hardly any activity for youngsters so he stays home mostly. He has joined gym since an year almost as he is conscious about his weight due to much sedentary life style .
When he goes to the gym he helps pedestrians by giving them lift on motorbike . It makes us little nervous as parents because the uncertain circumstances of outside world about which he knows less due to his least exposure to the real world. We ,his father particularly ask him to stay cautious sometimes.
Last night when he returned from the gym he seemed anxious and excited both.
He told he has done something but he does not know whether it was good or bad. It seemed to raised my heart beat a little.
He told that when he was going to the gym he saw a tree beside the footpath on fire .The fire was on the tree trunk till then. He stopped his motorbike and took off his jacket and wove it around the tree trunk until fire was put off. He said he did so because he thought if fire will spread to the whole tree ,other trees could catch it and that will be threat for passers by .
It made us worried and proud both at the same time because there is possibility that it could have hurt him as well .
He asked if he did something wrong ?
me and hubby could think of much except that "you did right if the fire wasn't dangerous enough to hurt you ,but you must be careful "
what made me wonder that what made tree on fire during such cold weather as our night temperature is 20 C and getting out in open is hard without warm clothes ?
Reason to post this is that i want suggestions from friends about how to make my youngest son more aware off such threatful situations?
thank you for being with me ,see you soon !
health peace and joy to you all and to all you love!
Oh, the youngest can always find issues we didn't know exist at times. I think it is best to keep the communication open as you have where they feel they can tell you anything. Does he have friends online? Can he meditate with you ever so often? Maybe have more conversations about good health and things you can do at home to insure exercise. Every small step helps. Also just the little scenerios to bring up..like what would you do if this were to happen? It isn't easy while I am sure he is streesed with studies. It's the little worries we have that can bring us down. Wishing you much creativity and happiness. So good to read your post.
ReplyDeletethank you so much for words of insight dear Ellie
Deleteas far as i know he speak to few online friends loudly while playing certain game.
he also writes and respond comments in some group of friends with common favorite show i believe .nothing more according to my knowledge .
i raised my kids in very friendly environment as i never tried to suppress their genuine feelings .this makes them speak truth to me about their on going life .or at least it feels so to me until now because i hardly captured their any previous statement false ,three of them . this is what i know .
i agree he is little slower in studies than his elder brothers but intelligent thankfully so can pick things in natural way .
i have been like this throughout my life yet knowing that same people whom i caring for can hurt me when get chance .i still continued to be good only because it comes from within and i do not try to put barrier on my nature's flow . my faith in doing good selflessly could not shake because God has always saved me from harm miraculously .this makes me let him be himself but yes we want him be careful more
thanks for good wishes ,same for you !
Your son has a good and caring heart but yes, caution must always be exercised, both about situations and people. (I had a little chuckle at your statement that 20C is "cold weather" -- here in Canada that is considered pleasant summer-like conditions, no coat or warm clothes necessary. "Everything is relative.")
ReplyDeleteHe is a good person so a warning is what you can do.
ReplyDeletedear Debra i totally agree about being cautious
ReplyDeleteall my sons are like this ,caring to not just to people but animals .birds whatever they find in need of help they run to help first .(i feel grateful for this as i find it very nice and a quality admired by God most)
Both elder are smarter than youngest one and this is little concerning for us as parents. we keep try to make him aware that safety is first .
actually i mentioned temperature 8pm as my son returns this time. ,today it's 8:6 and is 16 c outside .i wore my sweater for taking walk and warm hat as well .
we face almost ten to nine months long summers so our bodies feel a little coolness a lot :) our temp will drop till 8 c at 6am and then rise again .when we moved here we saw harsh winters below zero temps but it was more than ten years ago .now heat is increasing and cooling is vanishing sadly
You son is a caring young man obviously. Exercising caution in the world is essential today since not everyone is like that. Your cold 20C is our perfect summer temperature, Baili. 🙂
ReplyDeleteso true about being cautious dear Marie . actually finding it bit difficult making him understand without making him realize that world has it's dark side as well .
Deleteour summers temperatures are so high so having 20 c is luxury actually ,late night it drops from 8 to 6 c now a days
it was almost five to seven years ago when we would get winters quite cooler such as below zero even during daytime
I think your son probably learned from his experience. He wanted reassurance from you.
ReplyDeleteyes i too felt that after doing so he felt little confused and wanted to be assure if he was doing right or wrong
DeleteYour son certainly did his good deed for the day!
ReplyDeletethanks dear Kathy
Deleteall we want him to be safe and then do good as as he want
Citizenship is this, dear baili.
ReplyDeleteBe proud of your son.
oh thank you dear Pedro
Deleteit reminds me my own perception about world ,country or city as i too think that i must love and care for the place i live and take advantages from .it is my obligation to serve them back well wherever i get the chance .
i never hesitate to do such things and i am thankful that my children do the same .i am only concerned about they should keep themselves safe while doing so and that is it
Your youngest son is very thoughtful indeed, but caution is needed, fire is not a safe thing to be dealing with but understand his concern. He could have burnt his hand, arms or his face, his clothing could have caught on fire and burnt him, guess he is aware of this.
ReplyDeletei totally agree with all you said dear Margaret ,he could have get hurt by trying to put off the fire without anyone's help .i believe that fire was slow and putt of soon due to cold weather ,the summer season could have spread it quickly and chances to get hurt would have been stronger .we have tried to make him understand this politely
ReplyDeleteYour son certainly did his good deed for the day in putting out the fire.
ReplyDeleteI think Ellie has given some good points in raising awareness for any possible safety issues. It is always important to talk, to demonstrate safe behaviours, and keep on repeating safety rules and be consistent.
All the best Jan
dear friend Jan
Deletefortunately as a family we all are rule admirers and always try to not break any even when no one is giving any care to them . i am grateful for that to my kind God who has blessed us with such mindset .my kids aren't the exception by the grace of God!
but yes safety is first and simple nature of my youngest son and him being less active in outside world can be a reason for trouble(God forbid) so we are trying our best to keep caution next time and he agreed to it . thankfully hubby and me both have very friendly and easy going persons which makes kids to share whatever they want and they do as far as i know
Your youngest son is a nice boy who can act brave for the sake of other people and environment. I’ve told my grandchildren to shout first to call for adults’ help before their own action. I almost laughed your “20C cold” which is to me comfortable weather. At last real winter came here after long too warm months. Today the highest is less than 10C. Take care.
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dear Yoko this is what we both exactly asked him to do next time if such situation occurs ,call for elders to help .the problem is that he was in rush for home after gym and jumped off the motorbike to put off the fire instantly which sounds scary to some level
Deletehere we experience really how summer such as forty to fifty centigrade or above so for us 20 is quite cold or it seems far more cold than just written temperature 20 c
10 is very cold for us which happens after midnight in winters
You have a very caring son, Baili, as others have said and which you also know as his mother. The fact that he gives rides to those in need is a good thing, but safety is also a concern. His quick action in putting out the fire, while good, could have led to injuries to him as I am sure that you and your husband. Keeping the lines of communication open is so important and it is good that he confides in his parents. As for your comment that he was less intelligent than his older brothers, as you know there are different levels of what is defined as intelligence, ad, it seems he has quite enough, plus compassion.
ReplyDeletethanks dear Dorothy !
ReplyDeleteyes our all children used to be so close to us specially our eldest son ,both younger came long after him (10 to 13 years) so it was never an issue thankfully for them to hide or not share their things with us until they are above eighteen now and i am sure they will not share everything with us except what they think is necessary and that matters most. we are positive and at peace that our children share about all important stuff going on in their life .it is quite a satisfaction .
actually my youngest son is very intelligent by the grace of God but he is little lazy to come out of his comfort zone . it has been quite hard for me to make him sit and study seriously . specially when it's time to apply in university i keep try to guide him .
i am sure he will take sometime but will come to hard work eventually hopefully and soon.
Dorothy yes like his all family members he also has gift of compaction and i respect it ,we all do
ReplyDeleteNever having been a parent...am not able to advise. I will say that you and your husband have raised your son to not only think of himself but others and that certainly makes him very special. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteheartfelt thanks for kind words dear Debbie
Deletei am thankful God has made me this way ,the way i feel strongly connected to everything and everyone in the universe is strange but it hardly let me feel sad for long term if i have to feel that way nor i feel alone .this sense of deep connection fills my soul with love and bonding for everyone naturally ,my children got this probably .i am so grateful for this blessing!
It is obvious to me that your son is a loving and caring soul. He did a brave thing to put out the fire and saved a potential larger fire. Perhaps a bit more information about strangers is warranted so he won't be harmed.
ReplyDeletethanks for warm and generous comment dear Emma!
Deletewe keep try to make him aware of possible harm in blindly instant action . rest is on God to sustain this good advice in his heart and let him stay safe , We hope once he is out in the university he will learn lot about real world and that will make him more mature hopefully
Boys like to explore their environment and often go against advice.
ReplyDeleteJust keep teaching him the lessons and one day he will appreciate them and take heed of what you say.
so true dear Cheri
ReplyDeleteboys are hard to grow and they hardly accept any advice specially late teens which makes it impossible for parents sometime
yes that is what we do whenever we get chance of sitting together and hope he will be more wise with time and will learn to pause and think first before stepping into such situation
All I know is your son is a hero to do what he did. I raised four boys and I just feel that sometimes they did something that could have been threatening to them but helped to not let it threaten someone else. He is a hero.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely our world is a challenging place, Baili, and there is lots of potential for getting into trouble. Keep loving and guiding your son, and remember he has a very big heart. Hopefully he will gain wisdom as he gets more experience in the outside world. He ha wrong, good, and loving parent behind him!
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