Tuesday, August 9, 2022

Meeting Sister After Twelve years , Comments revelation From Spam Box And Is It Covid Query



I wasn't sure sure why i am not feeling well though i took all the medicines regarding my flue ,cold and motions . Motions disappeared with first two doses but feverish feeling and flue seemed to stay inside somewhere in the corner and when i would quit medication it will start to reappear slowly . My eldest son pointed what if it was covid again . He told to buy a device that helps in checking covid at home . I am not sure if device is available here or not .It Is first Islamic month of Muharam and our small city of Khairpur remains almost shut down for first ten days for Shea community religious activities that attribute to Imam Hussain (a,s) the grandson of our prophet Muhamad (p,b ,u,h) who was martyred for the sake of  Islam by Yazid. People belong to Shea community celebrate their brutal murder of Imam and his family by mourning and lamenting while wandering in streets . This goes for one month and ten days though area is less occupied after first ten days of the Muharam. Tomorrow is tenth and  we are looking forward to open the city so can get back to routine mobility and shopping particularly. Hope hubby can find the device and i can check whether it is covid that taking so long to heal? 

Since we are back from Islamabad heat of this city is giving quite tough time and i think it is more because i am not feeling well already to bear it.More rains in surroundings but we have only cloudy weather . 
I was reading about comments dropping into spam box through many friend 's blogs so i checked mine week before .There were  143 comments among which almost 50 were from blogger friends . It seems that comments started to drop into spam box from January as dates showed ,how annoying and unjust it is . Thank you for being kind and helpful as without your help i would have remained totally ignorant about those precious comments from all of you!

My younger sister contacted me in January 2022 ,after twelve years. It was the same day when my nephew left for Saudi Arabia . She called and asked for some financial help through various excuses .One about her serious health issue made me think about helping her though i knew i had no option as my eldest son had helped in great way recently already . So there was no chance i would ask him again. I told hubby and he said "though we know this hardly earned money will go as waste i will"  and he sent her half lac immediately . I too knew but i wanted to do it only for once to prove that i am with her despite of all her she did to me always. As i said always we all see this world with our unique perspective and for me world is place where we come for really short while . We all live through standards set by our observations and experiences. According to my personal experience doing good selflessly brings peace of mind and sense of harmony with Nature ,so  i keep doing it. 




My one of the most beautiful sister invited me at her home in Islamabad where she lives with her husband and four kids ,two elders from second and two from one with whom she is since eight years. We whole family were shock to see that she did  not look the same person she was bold ,energetic brilliant and funny . her health seemed in danger when she told that doctor has told her to avoid drinking and smoking completely as her both kidneys are damaged . we met few times and i tried to use every minute in convincing her that she should adopt a healthy life style if not for herself but for children the smaller ones specially . But she replied clearly that "you should know your lectures are not for me so save them ,this is life i choose and i am going to stick with it and don't say when you know nothing .then she tried to justified her bad habits in way that her in laws are greedy and cruel and husband does not care about her much blah blahblah. if i will get in details i need ten posts so i save it for another time . her final denial to my advise saddened me deeply . it is painful to see your loved ones crawling towards cliff and reject to hold your hand . She was like this always . till death i will keep wondering Why ?????

when i heard one day that she had meet her first husband and handed over elder kids to him i felt some heavy rock has been removed from my chest ! i hugged her and kissed her forehead that she liberated her elder children from this hell at least . this one is taken on Eid day when we both went to village and visited grave of our parents together . Sadly and unfortunately she was not in her senses because of excessive drinking but i grabbed my peace that she was with me at that moment at least. in life i wanted to have a loving family since always but both of my siblings are not with same mindset . they are self centered but i still love them as they are children of my dear mom and father ! 


both kids of my sister (in middle) sent this image after settling down in the house of their biological father . their life has changed dramatically ,they have their genuine father with them who is very rich and established  man of Sawat in northern area. on left and right are sitting their step siblings . Their father according to them is happy to find them and tries to bring them all they wish immediately . this all makes me grateful and thankful to God and my sister who made it happen .whatever reason she had but this transformed the life of these kids for better hopefully !



"Dua" and "Naqash" both sent this photo to their mother in which they are standing with their step mother .i hope things stay positive between them and future of these kids who had suffered lot because of thier own mother may see soem light and peace in future amen!


taken on Eid evening before having tea ,in yellow the pretty little girl is my niece and in blue is son of my cousin .

Please pray for his father who had accident some days ago .A car rushed in and hit his legs .Driver ran away . The husband of my cousin is on bed since two weeks . I hope and pray that he gets well soon as he is the only bread earner of the family .
That is all for now dear people . See you soon ,i am visiting your blogs by cell smart phone or older tablet  but it makes me slow  as it is hard for me to read thin writing or typing fast .
Thank you for bearing ,in my  thoughts and prays all of you always!




 

29 comments:

  1. It is good to read you again, Baili. It’s been a while. I hope you feel better soon and that you don’t have Covid again. It is raging here again.

    Every family has its stories of loved ones who have gone astray in their lives. I hope you niece and nephew continue to enjoy their lives with their father.

    Sending good thoughts for your cousin’s husband as well.


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  2. Good of you to help your sister. I found so much spam comments in my blogger that were not spam. I check every day now.

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  3. good of you to help your sister, I get so much spam comments that are not spam, I check every day.

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    1. i too am glad i could do so dear Christine . it seems that blogger is unable to solve this issue

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  4. Lovely photos of you and your sister! Yes, spam files are a pain but so many comments mysteriously end up there. I hope you can check whether you have "long covid" or not.

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    1. i think mother Nature heard me as despite of all her foolishness i wanted to see her once in awhile .i am so happy we met and had some time together ,i can feel the joy of my mother in heavens . i too am looking for if we can get device to do d so dear Debra as checking it from hospital can put us in restrictions

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  5. I understand your feelings. I stay in touch with my sister who is in a nursing home after having a stroke. I send her treats every month and try to find things to keep her mind active. I love her very much. I also know she would not do the same for me.

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    1. i am utterly glad that you too have at heart that is not stained with negative emotions for anyone dear Emma . some years ago i was angry with myself for such attitude but now i gave up front of Creator who sent me with nature even i feel it is is gift that can bring true peace of mind only to one.

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  6. So pleased you found the comments in spam, this is a problem for so many bloggers. I do regularly check my spam folder now, and unfortunately there are still a few blogs that will not allow me to comment, it is frustrating.

    Sending my good wishes to you and your family.

    All the best Jan

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    1. for me the problem got more serious as i am replying to your comments through my laptop but when i try to write in friend's comment box my laptop stops and curser just disappear .it makes me think about something dark but i know light is sign of Creator and it will show the way eventually

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  7. Very happy to see you meet the ones you love, baili

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    1. yes it is always a true happiness dear Pedro to meet loved ones

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  8. Oh my dear Baili, I hope that you can find the test you need and pray that you soon feel yourself again. Lovely photos, enjoyed viewing them. Always good to see family...glad you found those spam comments. Take care.

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    1. i hope too dear Margaret that i will be able to do it at home soon ,let's find the device first .

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  9. Dear baili, I hope you find the device you are looking for to test for Covid, and that you start to feel much better soon. You have such a kind and generous attitude toward everyone, and I am glad you have found some peace about your sister's choices in life. I hope her children will do well with their father and that your cousin's husband will heal quickly.

    The commenting issues in Blogger are very annoying. I was having the same problem with the cursor disappearing when I would try to leave a comment. Then I found that if I open another tab (for example, another blog) and then go back to the tab of the original blog where I wish to comment, magically the cursor has appeared again. I hope this might work for you too.

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  10. thank you dear Jenny for kind words ,they mean lot to me believe me !

    even as little girl i wanted to have only one thing in life "a loving family" for this i denied some very attractive offers for marriage because i thought if i will be part of some family that is far better economically my relationship with my roots my own family can affect negatively by people i be part of . but check my luck that i was tested by Creator for most wanted thing of my life . my only brother and sister did not value me until they found out that i have something they need .this is painful but like all other people i cannot defeat my nature and can't stop loving them as my siblings .yes this is huge relief that her elder kids are out of that hell now and will have life which has love ,care and respect for them instead hatter and carelessness .
    Oh thank you so much for your kind help ,actually i don't know how but i am able to comment through my laptop since tomorrow evening which is great .
    hubby is after device though we were busy with preparation for our younger son who left for university today noon , till than i am on self medication which is temporary help until now .let's hope we find the thing

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  11. able to comment since yesterday evening sorry

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  12. what a complex family but mine is not perfect either! I hope you will feel better soon, I had covid a while back despite vaccines. Betty

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    1. as we live in the world which is not heaven but just a "world" where nothing is perfect dear Betty relationships and families are too imperfect and suffer with such negative issues like selfishness and carelessness but at the same time are blessed by the love and sacrifice .
      i hope your covid id gone my friend

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  13. "doing good selflessly brings peace of mind and sense of harmony with Nature" It's a good way to live, Baili. I really enjoyed the photos you shared! I hope you and your family are well. Sending you lots of blessings!

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  14. i think we all struggle to have everything in life that bring us joy and peace dear Martha and we find our way how to do achieve that peace ,for me a guilt free mind is important and i have it when i think i do the right thing . i wish people with negative energy can understand that how easy it is to be happy .no big deal is needed just light conscience and positive attitude towards everything

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  15. I sure hope all goes well with your family - the sisters, cousins, etc. Sounds like you are so good at supporting them with unconditional love. I like the photos and for me was so interesting to see a MacDonalds in the background on the first photo. I guess McDonalds is everywhere. Wondering how different the menus are in different countries. Take care and thanks for sharing - Hope you feel better soon and hope Covid hasn't come to you again.

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    1. thank you dear Sandy for concern ,surprisingly or miraculously i have started to feel better since few days ,i was on self medication as doctors medicines were not ending the disease and were causing quite drowsiness so i quit them after one week and started to take common cold and flu medicines that we keep in the house .wasn't much improvement but since few days like four or five i felt better thankfully and getting better with days .
      love is flowing in my veins and i feel i am forced to love and unconditionally yes .it is like breathing to me that we take without thinking .

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  16. First, Baili, I do hope you will be feeling better in the near future. It certainly must be frustrating to not feel good once again. It was good of you to reach out and help you sister, but it was also disheartening to read about your (other?) sister who is harming herself by not taking the advice of her doctor or family. It certainly can be frustrating when you want to help but the person doesn't want to help herself. While unfortunate that the family was split apart, it seems the right decision was made for the children.

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    1. dear Dorothy i have only one sister about whom i have written in many previous posts ,things that i don't want to say but to anyone but still sometimes it is hard to keep things in heart for so long and not sharing with others . i love my sister but she does not love herself even as she is living life with so much negativity and does not like to hear that she is doing harm to herself and kids she has brought in life .we all are responsible for people who are family to us but people with selfish nature barely think about it .she wanted financial help and she took but she refused to take advice as always she did sadly

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  17. I feel so sorry that your sister has ended up in a dark place Your trying to lift her out of it shows your beautiful soul.

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  18. No on can help anyone until he or she is willing to take it dear Cheri . It is really painful and disappointing to see her destroying herself like this but all my attempts to pull her out of it resulted in her hatter for me and distance between us always. She left me with only one option "prays "

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  19. You have a good-hearted and generous husband, Baili, one who was willing to help your sister, even though he knew the money would likely be wasted. Your sister's words, "You should know your lectures are not for me so save them ,this is life i choose and i am going to stick with it and don't say when you know nothing" must have sliced your heart. I think that is alcoholism talking and she is very defensive and striking out. She is fortunate that you love her, despite everything. The sad thing is that people in this situation have to want to change their lives for the better. Sending you hugs and sympathy.

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  20. Dear Louise once I believed that love can change even darkest heart but with time I learnt that it is not up to one who loves but up to whom is being loved. If he or she is not capable of understanding that love she will never be able to respond to this love with sense and sensibility.
    I have two siblings who have same nature of self destruction and selflessness. Despite of. Knowing that I can never change them for better I feel still forced to love them.
    After twelve years my sister called me and asked for money straight away. No embarrassment or oppology for previous behavior. And we sent her money so she must not think that I am angry or annoyed because of what she did to me always.
    In Islamabad she kept asking us to visit her and we did despite how difficult it was due to hot weather. She insisted that she will accompany us to the village and she filled that with numerous bad memories because of her exssesive drinking and using inappropriate language and behavior.
    In response to her refusal to take any advice I told her as her elder sister it is painful to see her like this and if she wants to stay in touch I will keep advising her whether she listen or not

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